Grace's Robotic Man

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kayem77

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Oh I know exactly what you mean Grace! I've never been in a relationship, but everytime I'm interested in someone, I can't help but imagine how our lives would be together if we were in a relationship. (Is this creepy?) I start thinking things like, ''I like how he treats everyone, I bet he would be a a loving boyfriend or husband'', ''He is really fun! I bet there wouldn't be a boring moment with him'', ''He is smart, he looks like I could have good conversations with him'', etc. And sometimes I wonder if I will find someone will all those qualities that I've learned to admire. But, like Ugly said, I have the feeling that when you find the right person, you won't be worrying about what qualities that person is lacking. Unless that person was completely lacking godly qualities of course.

And really...I think we all have, the capability to exhibit good qualities. It's kind of like the love languages. Just because my main love language is Quality Time, it doesn't mean that I don't appreciate Words of Affection(which I do) or Gifts(which I do also). Just because a man is smart, it doesn't mean he can't be fun, even though he is more smart than fun... or viceversa. People are complex, and when we love someone we learn to appreciate all their qualities and oddities, and hopefully in a godly relationship we can learn to adapt to each other and value those things that are good, and build up each other so that we grow in those things we are lacking.
 
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I have the perfect man for you! His name is Frank. :p



Seriously though, I think that noticing good qualities in other people is a good thing. Kind of like how we're supposed to think about whatever is noble, excellent, etc. When I see a quality that I admire in someone, I usually thank God for making them like that, or ask God to make me more like that. It can make me aware of something I need to work on, or just in general get me thinking about good things.

And yet, whenever I'm attracted to someone, it always takes me by surprise. It usually isn't someone that I'd look at "on paper" and think that I would be attracted to, and the attraction certainly isn't because they fit into some kind of box that I had mentally constructed. I think you'll be perfectly able to recognize a Godly man and a good match for you when you see one, and not be bound by any preconceived ideas. :cool:
 
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Ugly said:
I get what you're saying, Grace. I've had similar thoughts. But here's the magic to it all. You have this idea 'i like this trait from X person, this trait from Y person... etc... but at the end of the day, when you meet someone that captures your heart, that list goes out the window. Because you are so enamored with what it is about them that draws you to them, that you don't miss the list. Chances are they will have many, but not all, of those qualities, but you won't miss the ones that aren't there. Because this new person will have qualities you didn't know or think about before. So don't worry about it. When the time comes, things will be so natural and normal, all your lists won't matter.
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Thanks Ugly (and everyone else!). You guys are awesome!!

*Runs away to add new parts to her robot*
 
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IloveyouGod

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See my problem is my VERY HIGH expectations in my future husband. And what's even worse is that I have 2 close male friends who are "Married" they have all of these expectations. Or maybe I should put it right. I saw these amazing qualities in those 2 friends of mine and I said I won't settle for less than that. And honest to God I don't compare anyone to those 2 men at all. But the major and amazing qualities they have is what I want in my own future husband. And to be honest, it is not easy at all to find these qualities all together like that. And to top it all, I am very observant too. I read in between lines and even in between words. So if a man doesn't GENUINELY have those qualities but rather faking it, he'll easily turn me off and I'm like THAT'S it we're done here. Next!!
 
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IloveyouGod

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Just to clarify, I don't regret having these very high expectations in my future husband. My struggle is I can't find any man who would meet my high expectations and I'm not willing to settle for any less under any circumstances because it's not worth it at all for me.
 
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Gracie, Gracie, Gracie....did we not learn anything from Weird Science?
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It didn't work for them either...

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...and look what they^^^ had to wear when they tried to make a woman! Just imagine what YOU'D have to put on YOUR head!

Better go with the real thing! :p
 
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FireWire

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My point of view is that the person should be truly regenerated and bearing the fruit of the Spirit. For women the man should be willing to lay down his life for his wife even to the point of death. Don't be surprised women if this kind of guy isn't a hunk, funny, smart and on a six figure or more income. He may be but the chances aren't very high.
 
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kenthomas27

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It's awesome to me, Grace, that you have that much experience and that many guys to draw from! That's pretty amazing. You got one that's funny, another that's kind and caring, another that's spiritually mature - it's like the seven dwarfs following you around. Me, I'm lucky to have a girl that has to use more than one hand to count teeth. Honestly, here's a conversation I had once:
me - so, where do you wanna go eat?
her - i wouldn't mind going to that place where they kinda cook the food in front of you and all? Can't remember the name now.
me - oh, like Kobe's?
her - no, that's not it, it's uhhhh
me - Melting Pot?
her - no, never even heard of that, no, it's uhhhhh.....Waffle House!

And not only that Grace, but you're just not utilizing some of the talents out here at CC. I've never stuffed a human using different parts ..... well, I've never stuffed a human ... but that's just one more value I have to drop in order to turn a buck. I've been reading up on it too. I want ... whatever the heck that tool is .. I want it.

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Liamson said:


In our youth, when our hearts and our minds are like wet clay its easy to adapt to someone new. It is like water which moves around the rocks in a stream to reach its goal. However, as we get older, we become more rigid and our expectations become more fixed, not on the possibility but only one possibility. Our cup is not empty with the expectation of not knowing what could be, but it is full of the knowledge of how it should be before it is.

This is why love is easy when you are young and harder as you get older. There is no going back to when there was no walls, no tests, and no confusion. There is only to give what grace we have with what time we have to someone who is worthy.
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I was glancing at this thread and finding this comment was like treasure. It was so moving to read and beautiful.

I only want to add, when people get older, the experience also teaches them what to avoid.
We want to avoid the same pain that nearly breaks us apart. People become sensitive like "touch-me-not"s and avoid taking that risk of opening themselves up.
Maybe that's why love gets harder.

However love is so wonderful and mysterious, who can completely fathom the why's and how's.

God is love - and we don't understand God all the time.

We should be prepared to be surprised. We may have dozens of lists, but love isn't always logical.

In fact I do believe everyone should get their heart broken at least once. It means that you did love something, and even if you lost it, it's a great way to know the one who can mend your heart and who will never leave you nor forsake you - Jesus.
 
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Raine

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I'm afraid that I will do the opposite. If anyone even reminds me of my ex slightly I just wanna run away without giving them a real ex. xD

Completely understand where you are coming from though Grace. I wonder a lot if I will ever meet the right guy with those amazing robot qualities that I desire. :)
 
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kenthomas27 said:
It's awesome to me, Grace, that you have that much experience and that many guys to draw from! That's pretty amazing. You got one that's funny, another that's kind and caring, another that's spiritually mature - it's like the seven dwarfs following you around. Me, I'm lucky to have a girl that has to use more than one hand to count teeth.
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Um, well, these are just men I've gotten to know over the last few years. They aren't actually following me around.
(At least, I hope not...)

kenthomas27 said:
Honestly, here's a conversation I had once:
me - so, where do you wanna go eat?
her - i wouldn't mind going to that place where they kinda cook the food in front of you and all? Can't remember the name now.
me - oh, like Kobe's?
her - no, that's not it, it's uhhhh
me - Melting Pot?
her - no, never even heard of that, no, it's uhhhhh.....Waffle House!
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Hahaa... Hey, she's easy to please right? Do you really want to spend money on Kobe's when your girl just wants Waffle House? ;)

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And not only that Grace, but you're just not utilizing some of the talents out here at CC. I've never stuffed a human using different parts ..... well, I've never stuffed a human ... but that's just one more value I have to drop in order to turn a buck. I've been reading up on it too. I want ... whatever the heck that tool is .. I want it.

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Hmmm, you are correct... I obviously didn't think this through well enough... I'll be putting in a custom order for you to fill later this week.
 
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I guess my expectations are just really low now: we each think each other is awesome and our demons play well together.
 
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Nodmyheadlikeyeah

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All i ask is that he be a Surgeon, hot, rich, black hair, doesn't say annoying things, likes ice cream, isn't weird, watches the history channel, national geographic, nova, PBS, Plays phase 10, hates lettuce, mean people, and birds.

Is that so unreasonable!
 
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BananaPie

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LOL. Holly dear, you keep your list enhanced like that, and cute Liamson over there may very well play you a deck of cards. ...just saying. :p
 
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Well Grace I remember my mom talking about doing a similar thing one summer in college (when she was in college not me). She got out her journal and wrote about her perfect guy and he would be a godly man like so and so, musical like another guy, have a good sense of humor like my (cinder's) dad, and have blond hair like another guy.

Well she married my dad and the conclusion was something along the lines of 2 out of 4 isn't bad. So go ahead and make your robot lists, just don't hold out for everything on the list when good enough is in front of you. (And yes my parents celebrate 35 years of marriage this year so it seems to have been an effective strategy).
 
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Nodmyheadlikeyeah

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BananaPie said:
LOL. Holly dear, you keep your list enhanced like that, and cute Liamson over there may very well play you a deck of cards. ...just saying. :p
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Haven't you read his list? I'm not his type ;)
 
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CatHerder said:
Gracie, Gracie, Gracie....did we not learn anything from Weird Science?
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It didn't work for them either...

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...and look what they^^^ had to wear when they tried to make a woman! Just imagine what YOU'D have to put on YOUR head!

Better go with the real thing! :p
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I could picture grace with one of those beer hats on (the kind with the funnel so you can drink the beer from the hat itself) cackling with an evil maniac laugh with her fist in the air saying "He's alive! He's aliiiiiive!
 
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Nodmyheadlikeyeah

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Nodmyheadlikeyeah said:
All i ask is that he be a Surgeon, hot, rich, black hair, doesn't say annoying things, likes ice cream, isn't weird, watches the history channel, national geographic, nova, PBS, Plays phase 10, hates lettuce, mean people, and birds.

Is that so unreasonable!
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Did i forget to mention he has to be 20.....
 
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