K
Oh I know exactly what you mean Grace! I've never been in a relationship, but everytime I'm interested in someone, I can't help but imagine how our lives would be together if we were in a relationship. (Is this creepy?) I start thinking things like, ''I like how he treats everyone, I bet he would be a a loving boyfriend or husband'', ''He is really fun! I bet there wouldn't be a boring moment with him'', ''He is smart, he looks like I could have good conversations with him'', etc. And sometimes I wonder if I will find someone will all those qualities that I've learned to admire. But, like Ugly said, I have the feeling that when you find the right person, you won't be worrying about what qualities that person is lacking. Unless that person was completely lacking godly qualities of course.
And really...I think we all have, the capability to exhibit good qualities. It's kind of like the love languages. Just because my main love language is Quality Time, it doesn't mean that I don't appreciate Words of Affection(which I do) or Gifts(which I do also). Just because a man is smart, it doesn't mean he can't be fun, even though he is more smart than fun... or viceversa. People are complex, and when we love someone we learn to appreciate all their qualities and oddities, and hopefully in a godly relationship we can learn to adapt to each other and value those things that are good, and build up each other so that we grow in those things we are lacking.
And really...I think we all have, the capability to exhibit good qualities. It's kind of like the love languages. Just because my main love language is Quality Time, it doesn't mean that I don't appreciate Words of Affection(which I do) or Gifts(which I do also). Just because a man is smart, it doesn't mean he can't be fun, even though he is more smart than fun... or viceversa. People are complex, and when we love someone we learn to appreciate all their qualities and oddities, and hopefully in a godly relationship we can learn to adapt to each other and value those things that are good, and build up each other so that we grow in those things we are lacking.