Is it weird to want to get married at 21?

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JustinUK said:
My family go to church and pray often, but they say I shouldn't get married or tied down yet, I am 21 and to be honest I'm not interested in going out on the night and "hooking up". I have lived an unstable life for too long now, I moved to different countries on my own and I left my parents house at the age of 17 and I want to settle down and concentrate on a job and share my life with someone, what is so weird about that? Any opinions? :) thanks4reading
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That's not weird at all brother. I thought the same thing at age 21, still thinking the same thing at age 25. It's weird to my friends who live in the world, sure, but it's not weird at all to want to have a good and loyal wife and provide a good home life for her and possible future children. The key here is patience and prudence.

You want these things because you are a good and honorable man, just be patient, you're still very young as I am still very young. So don't be in too much of a rush. Just keep learning more on Christ and keep bettering yourself and you will do well.
 
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kayem77

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Not weird at all.... I think it's a very normal desire. The problem would be rushing into unwise decisions because of that desire, but nope, desiring to be married is not a bad thing at all. The Lord created marriage, and it was/is good.
 
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Tintin

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No, it's not weird. If both parties are ready and mature and God leads, I don't see a problem with it. I have a number of relatives and friends that were married in their early 20's or earlier and most of them still have strong Christian marriages. Would I have been ready for marriage in my early 20's? Heck, no! I could barely talk to girls. But you, you might be different. I suggest asking God and make sure it's God, not you're desires speaking.
 
wisebeardman

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long ago I wanted to get married..... then I realized it wasnt gonna happen. so I did the next best thing.. became a hermit.
 
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faroukfarouk

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Tiasmiles24 said:
It's not weird at all, everyone at some point in life longs to be with someone for a lifetime and you just happen to experience it at 21, as long as God is your base and you are truly ready then why not ^_^ do what makes YOU happy
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Depends on a lot of factors, but the Lord's leading is essential for the believer.
 
Loveneverfails

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The desire to marry is natural and good. The tricky part is what to do with that desire. Bring it before The Lord, and submit it to Him. For young people especially, the inward desire to marry can be a great motivator to be proactive in taking on more life responsibilities such as pursuing education, or employment, home ownership, or being responsible with your finances regardless of how much you have. Go and experience and learn new things. Find a way to serve your local church. Nourish your relationship with The Lord.

Its not not weird at all to desire to marry, but that doesn't mean the time has come to actually get married. You don't say "I want to go to college" and then start classes that afternoon. A degree of action and preparation is required. :)
 
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Angel173

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Im just 17 and i wanna get married. Just pray and God will show you if its the right time or not
 
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faroukfarouk

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Angel173 said:
Im just 17 and i wanna get married. Just pray and God will show you if its the right time or not
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It's good to remember that wanting it now, may be different from what you might want and expect a few years from now.

So its good just to be a bit patient, prayerfully.
 
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faroukfarouk

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Loveneverfails said:
The desire to marry is natural and good. The tricky part is what to do with that desire. Bring it before The Lord, and submit it to Him. For young people especially, the inward desire to marry can be a great motivator to be proactive in taking on more life responsibilities such as pursuing education, or employment, home ownership, or being responsible with your finances regardless of how much you have. Go and experience and learn new things. Find a way to serve your local church. Nourish your relationship with The Lord.

Its not not weird at all to desire to marry, but that doesn't mean the time has come to actually get married. You don't say "I want to go to college" and then start classes that afternoon. A degree of action and preparation is required. :)
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A wholesome and cautionary note.

There are so many divorces, and so many divorce lawyers trying to make a fast buck, and so many counsellors advising divorce.

Your advice makes far more Biblical sense.
 
Desdichado

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with marrying at 21 as long as you are both adults.
 
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Greatle

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:)

Its ok to marry. In fact it is great... but the questions are..
1. are you ready?
2. did you prayed about it?

Dont be in hurry, my brother in Christ. Pray for it. God has His own perfect timing. Wait patiently... and be MORE in love with Him.


"What if what you're desperate for
Isn't what you really need?
What if there was something more
Than what you dreamed?

We may not always see
We may not understand
But He knows just what He's doing
He's got a bigger plan
So hold on...

It's worth the wait
Just keep believing
God has perfect timing
Never early, never late

It takes a little patience
And it takes a lot of faith
But it's worth the wait
It's worth the wait"
-Worth the wait lyrics by 33 miles :)
 
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faroukfarouk

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Greatle said:
:)

Its ok to marry. In fact it is great... but the questions are..
1. are you ready?
2. did you prayed about it?

Dont be in hurry, my brother in Christ. Pray for it. God has His own perfect timing. Wait patiently... and be MORE in love with Him.


"What if what you're desperate for
Isn't what you really need?
What if there was something more
Than what you dreamed?

We may not always see
We may not understand
But He knows just what He's doing
He's got a bigger plan
So hold on...

It's worth the wait
Just keep believing
God has perfect timing
Never early, never late

It takes a little patience
And it takes a lot of faith
But it's worth the wait
It's worth the wait"
-Worth the wait lyrics by 33 miles :)
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Good thoughts!

Nice poem!

Blessings.
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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The trouble with the emphasis on waiting, ladies and gents, is that you can wait too long and miss chances.

When you see a workable opportunity, I say go for it. No choice you ever make will end with kittens and rainbows unless you decide to run to the end of a rainbow with a bag of kittens.

Even then, by the time you get there, the rainbow will probably disappear and the kittens will likely be very unhappy.
 
garet82

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You still young.
Married is a big commitment and you cant play with it. i often remaind my students to think about the consequences of making any decisions.
if you are married you must be be ready not only in spiritual but also in financial. married is not only for love but how to respect, understanding or support each others, etc. married is only once in a life n its not a game nor even to escape for getting settel down or any irrational excuss but because you are ready!
 
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