My (short) experience in a relationship

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persNickety

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Was in a 3 month relationship. Christian, goes to the same church, knows some of my old classmates, work for the same company. Some personal issues- but who doesn't right?

The bad times outweighed the good. A lot of odd expectations of me. And I began to realize that I can't be as individualistic as I feel that I need to be. I have to do things out of my comfort zone, like small talk at a stupid garage party where people that I don't know are drinking. Meet people that I really don't care to meet. To socialize, and not want to book it 20 minutes after I have arrived. Having to watch the things he likes to watch cus he did it for me. Small things like that. I forgot that stuff. It has made me reflect on the freedom I have as a single.
 
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Shouryu

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Welcome back, Arwen. We've missed you, doll.
 
zeroturbulence

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I want u to know that I liked your post not because it didn't work out, but because I feel that what you said was rather enlightening. Good to see you again, but I'm also sorry it didn't work out for you. I'd give u a hug but I'm not sure if that would be appropriate. :rolleyes:
 
PopClick

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YOU'RE BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK!!!!!!!!!
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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It's nice to have a reality check once in a while, just to get us back on the right track. Welcome back.
 
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We've missed you, mate. I'm sorry it didn't work out.
 
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persNickety

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Thank you guys! It sure has been awhile huh. It's ok that it didn't work out. I don't know if it's selfish, but I do enjoy the freedom to do what I want instead of feeling obligated cus I'm in a relationship. It's definitely something I will have to take into consideration. Weigh independence and being an individual vs a relationship.

I was glancing at a few posts on here about a strong desire a relationship, and figured it would be good share a different perspective. Yeah there are things that we gain by being in a relationship but there are things that we 'lose' too, we have to be OK with that.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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It's aboot stinkin' time! Kinda missed yer' buns. =P
 
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BananaPie

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Say there, Arwen; welcome back Girl! It's peachy to see ya again. :)
 
tourist

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persNickety said:
Was in a 3 month relationship. Christian, goes to the same church, knows some of my old classmates, work for the same company. Some personal issues- but who doesn't right?

The bad times outweighed the good. A lot of odd expectations of me. And I began to realize that I can't be as individualistic as I feel that I need to be. I have to do things out of my comfort zone, like small talk at a stupid garage party where people that I don't know are drinking. Meet people that I really don't care to meet. To socialize, and not want to book it 20 minutes after I have arrived. Having to watch the things he likes to watch cus he did it for me. Small things like that. I forgot that stuff. It has made me reflect on the freedom I have as a single.
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I have started a thread called "Rules of Engagement" that you may find amusing.
 
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PopClick said:
YOU'RE BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK!!!!!!!!!
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[video=youtube;v4EFddbHkRo]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4EFddbHkRo[/video]


Welcome back, Ma'am. I was wondering how you were doing.
 
tourist

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persNickety said:
Thank you guys! It sure has been awhile huh. It's ok that it didn't work out. I don't know if it's selfish, but I do enjoy the freedom to do what I want instead of feeling obligated cus I'm in a relationship. It's definitely something I will have to take into consideration. Weigh independence and being an individual vs a relationship.

I was glancing at a few posts on here about a strong desire a relationship, and figured it would be good share a different perspective. Yeah there are things that we gain by being in a relationship but there are things that we 'lose' too, we have to be OK with that.
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I am not "OK" with that. I would rather take a chance at love than to never have known what love is. I would rather be happy than right, but that is just me.
 
secularhermit

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Though I was married, I behaved like a @single@. Of course, the issue out weighted when @we@ had children> I wanted the things one way and she another... What a mess!

We built a 2nd floor so I moved up to have my space, my freedom and, at the long run, we spent 13 years trying to isolate from differences we never accepted *even attending different churches*, because she was a Pentecostal.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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tourist said:
I am not "OK" with that. I would rather take a chance at love than to never have known what love is. I would rather be happy than right, but that is just me.
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That's what makes us all different. :)

I kinda need to say though, that just because someone is single doesn't mean that they haven't known love, or loved deeply themselves. Some of the deepest, most selfless loves I've ever experienced were non-romantic, but definitely no less intense and wonderful.
 
Descyple

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Since Persnikety came to us after her break up, that makes all of us her "rebound" relationship.

Just kidding Arwen (I hope you don't mind me still calling you Arwen). I'm truly sorry to hear about your break up. But don't give up hope, there's plenty more Canadian Trout in the sea.

Welcome back to CC, my Canadian Sister!!!
 
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persNickety said:
Was in a 3 month relationship. Christian, goes to the same church, knows some of my old classmates, work for the same company. Some personal issues- but who doesn't right?

The bad times outweighed the good. A lot of odd expectations of me. And I began to realize that I can't be as individualistic as I feel that I need to be. I have to do things out of my comfort zone, like small talk at a stupid garage party where people that I don't know are drinking. Meet people that I really don't care to meet. To socialize, and not want to book it 20 minutes after I have arrived. Having to watch the things he likes to watch cus he did it for me. Small things like that. I forgot that stuff. It has made me reflect on the freedom I have as a single.
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Boo that stinks, but it's nice to see you again. :)
 
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persNickety said:
Was in a 3 month relationship. Christian, goes to the same church, knows some of my old classmates, work for the same company. Some personal issues- but who doesn't right?

The bad times outweighed the good. A lot of odd expectations of me. And I began to realize that I can't be as individualistic as I feel that I need to be. I have to do things out of my comfort zone, like small talk at a stupid garage party where people that I don't know are drinking. Meet people that I really don't care to meet. To socialize, and not want to book it 20 minutes after I have arrived. Having to watch the things he likes to watch cus he did it for me. Small things like that. I forgot that stuff. It has made me reflect on the freedom I have as a single.
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If I were dating someone, & they took me to a party where there was drinking, that relationship would have veeeery short 'cuz it would have ended that evening! (I'm old-fashioned, so sue me!) It doesn't seem to me it would have taken 3 months to find that out, just sayin'.:confused:
 
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persNickety

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Descyple said:
Since Persnikety came to us after her break up, that makes all of us her "rebound" relationship.

Just kidding Arwen (I hope you don't mind me still calling you Arwen). I'm truly sorry to hear about your break up. But don't give up hope, there's plenty more Canadian Trout in the sea.

Welcome back to CC, my Canadian Sister!!!
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Bahaha rebound!
 
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