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iltcu

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wow pastac, that's kinda harsh . not everyone is ignorant and unlearned. did someone do that to you or hurt you. I hope you find forgiveness and peace
 
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iltcu

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Dandelion, sound like he is Bipolar disorder. I think we can relate ...I am in a cituation now and really pressed for something to give...she too wont be intimate and when she is it is awkward and always turns ugly then she blames me for wanting a better sex life. id like to hear more of your story. we are Christians and married for 15 years but thing have taken a turn for worst about a year ago...I'd love to chat. iltcu
 
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Hi, iltcu!

Will you mind sending me a link where any person could find tips to know she is under BPDs? I don´t know if that exists now, but I´d like to spare time...

Please! If any knows it still exist, click LIKE on this to read this thread again (Better it´ll you send me that info by using a PM to me).

Thanks fir the insights!
 
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Hi sorry, it was late in Australia so I went to bed. There is no love in my marriage, no intimacy and he often swears at me. He is physically violent with the house but not recently with me.

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Our second baby is also a girl I'm concerned that if I stay with him they will not know love from a man because they won't see it. I'm very aware that girls learn love from their Dad. I'm hurt beyond repair at the moment and I've been seeking counselling but everyone comes with a price tag that I can't meet!
I´m glad you´ve found people here without those tag$...

God, and those Christians friend´s fellowships will help you be reparied. :)
 
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I´m sorry you felt judged, Mrs OZ!

I´d like to thank you!

I´ll be aware of that, if I ever get married. i could be a fool ignoring those facts you mentioned and I have admired that honesty.

Sometines I could be like this: :cool: (I´m not the only one).
 
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I have to watch my $$ sometimes too lol ! It's not very Christian of me to window shop but I know that God helps those who help themselves . If it gets me past this rough patch to look and read online then let it be . It's just a little daydreaming , nothing more than that so it won't get out of control and it makes me feel better to imagine things . I think if Jesus were here right now he would approve .
As for a joke and a relating thought:

The disapproval -sometimes- came when another´s wallet has paid those bills.

Thank you to both of you!

Honestly!

I lacked the female´s view of these things you kindly shared with this blind-minded man. :cool:
 
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StoneThrower

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We moved in January so we've only been at our current church for a few months I don't want that to be my story. I don't want to be the poor pregnant girl who's marriage broke down. I don't want friendships based on sympathy. I'd rather sort it all out externally. I made the mistake of opening up in my old church and feel judged as a result and no one wanted to hang around me because I wasn't "all together"
Don’t let pridestand in the way, the church is a hospital for sinners, everyone there has sinissues of some kind. The question is whether the pastor can provide good counseling,also what you tell Him and his wife should be held in confidence. Notice you want to meet with both of them or just her.
It’s regrettablethat he has no relationship with your husband to hold him accountable but don’tlet that stop you from getting help! Who knows maybe the pastor will meet withhim he will be latter convicted of his sin and give his life to Christ.
Or just seeing the change in you and your reactions might lead him to Christ. If your safety is in danger though leave even if it means moving home!

 
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I wish it be seen a syntax error on where it says, gramatically incoherent: "For instance: if the abuser talks to a psychologist, the abuser first states emphatically that he never studied psychology. He then proceeds to make seemingly effortless use of obscure professional terms, thus demonstrating that she mastered the discipline all the same which is supposed to prove that she is exceptionally intelligent or introspective."

At that point, I think this article was used to be published to back up any of both genders, somewhere else. :)
 
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I wish it be seen a syntax error on where it says, gramatically incoherent: "For instance: if the abuser talks to a psychologist, the abuser first states emphatically that he never studied psychology. He then proceeds to make seemingly effortless use of obscure professional terms, thus demonstrating that she mastered the discipline all the same which is supposed to prove that she is exceptionally intelligent or introspective."

At that point, I think this article was used to be published to back up any of both genders, somewhere else. :)
I´m talking about this aarticle, uniquely: Body Language Truths | Spotting A Liar | Vaknin-Meyer
 
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Wow! I could be any of them...

"While some abusers are"stable" and "conventional" - others areantisocial and their impulse control is flawed. These are veryreckless (self-destructive and self-defeating) and just plaindestructive: workalcoholism, alcoholism, drug abuse, pathologicalgambling, compulsory shopping, or reckless driving."

If you have read it all, Are these the whole symptoms?

This may lead to more issues on a chat or trolling. :(
 
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Just to end my inputs here, I went to the author of that article and I´m reading his disclamer. I plan to share what I saw...
 

ninasbg

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God totally restored my marriage and I know that I can help.If you want my phone number inbox me.Im Nedra.I am praying for you,your family,and your marriage right now!!
 
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shirl1

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You should pray and read the bible on marriage it will help
 
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pastac

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truth is what it is facts don't change truth! The site is loaded with all I mentioned! Call it harsh if you choose but the reality is that it still is true. Peace and forgiveness you're stretching a bit. You're assuming things instead of reading the posted information you're reading into the posted information. I never said everyone one is ignorant and unlearned but that too is a fact. We are all ignorant to things and unlearned about other things don't be so sensitive sheesh!
 
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sassylady

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Hopefully you are praying about the situation. If you are unsure and there is a place for you to go to so you can get away from the situation for awhile, you may think more clearly and also hear better from the Lord. There's nothing that says separation is wrong.
 
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BeeD

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Hello Ozgirl. I sent you a friend request through here. I would love to talk to you. I don't know if I can help but I would like to try.
 
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Dear Lord, please guide this special sister during the trouble in her marriage. And her ears shall hear a word behind her saying, this is the way, walk here, when she turns to her right and when she turns to her left (see Isa. 30:21).

“Please reassure her when she sees a thousand fall on her right side and ten thousand at her left; help her to know that if she follows You, it will not happen to her (see Ps. 91:7). Hide her under your protective wings.

“Help her to find the narrow path that will lead her to life, the abundant life you have for her and for her family. Lord, I pray for a testimony that you can use for Your glory when this troubled or broken marriage is healed and restored! We will give You all the honor and the glory. Amen.


HopeAtLast.com

 
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Giselita

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What can you do when you find a text message on your husband cell phone with an address to meet with a TS escort??? And then learned he has been calling them for years! I need help please message me privately
 
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Kaycie

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Unless your spouse is sexually unfaithful to you, they are your family, and you can't divorce them from being your family anymore than you can a child, mother, aunt, sister, brother, cousin, etc. No matter what else it is ,you just have to work it out. Jesus was loving, forgiving, and kind to those who were nailing Him to the cross, even as they were doing so He prayed for them. He wasn't looking to get away and be saved, but to stay in an attempt to save them! Is this not the person you chose to marry?