kerry... gentleness is needed, not rigidity.
truth is shown by love, not by facts or arguments or ... whatever you're trying to tell her,
and you know that.
What you are telling her is just cultural christian speak, and she will not, and cannot relate to it.
Focus on the spiritual.
Lizathrose, I hope you stick around.
There are a few sensitive topics, and a few sensitive members, but there are also many positive, knowledgeable, and even influential voices here who you would be benefited by meeting and chatting with.