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First of all, I am completely aware that I have been sort of really flooding the forum with questions and TMI. I'm not sorry.
Secondly...have you ever been completely taken by surprise by discovering somebody was interested in you? I don't mean that as in like, you didn't think anyone would be attracted to you- I'm talking about finding out someone you never would have suspected either admitting their attraction or asking you out. Basically just coming out of left field and dropping this bomb on you when you were completely preoccupied with life.
How did you deal with it? Was it funny, or kinda sad, or totally awkward?
I ask because...
Today, I had two extremely out-of-the-blue experiences like that.
One me was a Facebook message from a long-time friend, telling me he wasn't entirely sure he should say anything, but was tired of not saying it, and that he'd wanted to date me for a very long time.
I was kind of like...Wuuuut? (Yes, my whole brain went stupid out of shock). And then I tried to explain, gently, that I wasn't interested in dating, and that my circumstances don't really...ugh. You guys know, I won't repeat myself. But basically, the whole thing was very awkward and I felt pretty bad; he's a very nice guy.
And then...because once my day gets weird, it goes for gold...
I was actually able to leave my apartment without my kids for a short period of time this afternoon. No car, so I just walked over to the nearby school and sat in a swing. I spent half the time staring at the ground, some of the time swinging, some of it posting here. While all lost in my own little world, a man and a little girl showed up. The little girl took the swing next to mine and was all friendliness and smiles and wanted me to swing with her. Her dad joined in on her other side.
That at was a pretty fun few minutes, and then I told the girl I had to go home to my own kiddos, which elicited a million questions that I answered patiently. Then she asked me my name, and told me here and her dad's names, and I said goodbye and started walking home.
The man caught up with me and said he would really like to take me to dinner sometime.
And I, of course, said the most logical thing I could think of- "I um...I don't really do dinner."
Which caused an extreme awkwardness, and I realized I was being dumb, so I said I appreciated the offer but wasn't interested.
This has all made me feel super incredibly weird, and kinda sad too. I dunno. Not because I wanted to go out with him, or the other guy, or anyone at all for that matter, but because I don't even know how to gracefully (or at least not awkwardly) handle being approached like that.
Wow, I didn't really intend to babble so much...right, back to the question- your most unexpected admirers?
Secondly...have you ever been completely taken by surprise by discovering somebody was interested in you? I don't mean that as in like, you didn't think anyone would be attracted to you- I'm talking about finding out someone you never would have suspected either admitting their attraction or asking you out. Basically just coming out of left field and dropping this bomb on you when you were completely preoccupied with life.
How did you deal with it? Was it funny, or kinda sad, or totally awkward?
I ask because...
Today, I had two extremely out-of-the-blue experiences like that.
One me was a Facebook message from a long-time friend, telling me he wasn't entirely sure he should say anything, but was tired of not saying it, and that he'd wanted to date me for a very long time.
I was kind of like...Wuuuut? (Yes, my whole brain went stupid out of shock). And then I tried to explain, gently, that I wasn't interested in dating, and that my circumstances don't really...ugh. You guys know, I won't repeat myself. But basically, the whole thing was very awkward and I felt pretty bad; he's a very nice guy.
And then...because once my day gets weird, it goes for gold...
I was actually able to leave my apartment without my kids for a short period of time this afternoon. No car, so I just walked over to the nearby school and sat in a swing. I spent half the time staring at the ground, some of the time swinging, some of it posting here. While all lost in my own little world, a man and a little girl showed up. The little girl took the swing next to mine and was all friendliness and smiles and wanted me to swing with her. Her dad joined in on her other side.
That at was a pretty fun few minutes, and then I told the girl I had to go home to my own kiddos, which elicited a million questions that I answered patiently. Then she asked me my name, and told me here and her dad's names, and I said goodbye and started walking home.
The man caught up with me and said he would really like to take me to dinner sometime.
And I, of course, said the most logical thing I could think of- "I um...I don't really do dinner."
Which caused an extreme awkwardness, and I realized I was being dumb, so I said I appreciated the offer but wasn't interested.
This has all made me feel super incredibly weird, and kinda sad too. I dunno. Not because I wanted to go out with him, or the other guy, or anyone at all for that matter, but because I don't even know how to gracefully (or at least not awkwardly) handle being approached like that.
Wow, I didn't really intend to babble so much...right, back to the question- your most unexpected admirers?