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I'm posting this because I continue to cross paths with ladies who may not know, or may have forgotten.
Yes I know, a woman could be dressed in a hijab/burqa and SOME guys would still gaze/lust/etc. But please don't go from that premise to, "Well if SOME guys will lust even if I'm in a burqa, then I should be able to wear super skimpy clothes that show tons of skin. It's not my fault for what guys think."
The absurdity of SOME guys on one extreme doesn't justify dressing to another extreme.
Please don't feel shame for having curves.
Please don't feel guilt for being attractive.
Please don't feel condemnation because SOME guys will see you and think thoughts no matter what you do.
This isn't an on or off issue.
You do have some responsibility in this issue.
Guys have a lot more responsibility.
To an extent you are your brother's keeper.
To an extent you can be a means that leads a guy into temptation.
So please, at least cover up certain girl parts that are above the waist, and please watch how much skin you show above the knees. Guys don't need to see the skin on the parts above the waist and below the shoulders. Save that for any future husband. And yes, I know context matters. Of course what you wear at the beach may be a lot different than what you wear at work/school/getting a coffee. Regardless, please be mindful.
If a guy still stares or lusts after you've reasonably covered those areas, then that is his issue, and you shouldn't feel guilt, shame, or condemnation. But if you are showing tons of skin, dressing super skimpy, and letting parts show that normally wiggle and jiggle, and it leads to a guy lusting, then you do share some of the responsibility for that.
Flashing someone in the eyes with a bright light will cause them to squint. Saying hurtful words to someone will lead to them having negative emotions/feelings. Flashing too much skin and wiggly jiggly body parts will lead a guy to look. Some actions simply have inherent reactions. Knowing this can help you help a brother.
And yes, the general ideas in this post apply to how guys dress and act as well.
Yes I know, a woman could be dressed in a hijab/burqa and SOME guys would still gaze/lust/etc. But please don't go from that premise to, "Well if SOME guys will lust even if I'm in a burqa, then I should be able to wear super skimpy clothes that show tons of skin. It's not my fault for what guys think."
The absurdity of SOME guys on one extreme doesn't justify dressing to another extreme.
Please don't feel shame for having curves.
Please don't feel guilt for being attractive.
Please don't feel condemnation because SOME guys will see you and think thoughts no matter what you do.
This isn't an on or off issue.
You do have some responsibility in this issue.
Guys have a lot more responsibility.
To an extent you are your brother's keeper.
To an extent you can be a means that leads a guy into temptation.
So please, at least cover up certain girl parts that are above the waist, and please watch how much skin you show above the knees. Guys don't need to see the skin on the parts above the waist and below the shoulders. Save that for any future husband. And yes, I know context matters. Of course what you wear at the beach may be a lot different than what you wear at work/school/getting a coffee. Regardless, please be mindful.
If a guy still stares or lusts after you've reasonably covered those areas, then that is his issue, and you shouldn't feel guilt, shame, or condemnation. But if you are showing tons of skin, dressing super skimpy, and letting parts show that normally wiggle and jiggle, and it leads to a guy lusting, then you do share some of the responsibility for that.
Flashing someone in the eyes with a bright light will cause them to squint. Saying hurtful words to someone will lead to them having negative emotions/feelings. Flashing too much skin and wiggly jiggly body parts will lead a guy to look. Some actions simply have inherent reactions. Knowing this can help you help a brother.
And yes, the general ideas in this post apply to how guys dress and act as well.
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