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it depends, if you are both saved then divorce is wrong in the first place and getting remarried is adultery. Paul told the people that once they got saved and their spouse refused that they were free from that bondage. But, encouraged them to stay with their spouse saying oh wife who knows if your husband might get saved from your actions so to speak.
In Matthew 19, Jesus said that he that puts away his wife, except it be for fornication, and marries another, he commits adultery.
In the context, He was talking about a man putting away his wife 'the right way' according to the law of Moses. But Jesus based His teaching on the passage about two being one flesh in the passage about Eve being given to Adam as a wife.
The same passage says that he that marries a woman who is put away commits adultery.
According to the law of Moses, in order for a divorce to be legal, a man gave his wife a certificate of divorce before sending her away. A woman giving her husband a certificate of divorce wasn't a legal divorce.
Paul, communicating a message from God tells the wife not to depart from her husband, but if she departs to remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. In Romans 7, he says that if a woman, as long as her husband lives, be married to another man, she shall be called an adulterous.
I just don't understand the thinking of people who think they can divorce for no Biblical reason and get married again, and think God is cool with it. I don't understand why a single Christian woman would want to marry or even date a man who was married but 'it didn't work out.' I don't understand why a Christian man would marry a divorced woman who divorced her husband because they couldn't get along. Why aren't pastors teaching against this sort of thing more than they are?
Suppose the government went wacko (or even more wacko than it is) and decreed that all marriages were terminated and gave everyone a divorce certificate. Would it be right for you to remarry someone else? What if the government decreed that your son was no longer your son and your mom was no longer your mom. Would that make it so? Would such a decree free people form the obligation to honor their parents or take care of their children?
Why do we think the state has the power to severe marital unions contrary to the teaching of scripture? Why would we accept as valid a unilateral divorce certificate signed only by the wife and not the husband because she wanted to 'find herself.' Why would we think it is not a sin for a man who has legally divorced his wife because they couldn't get along to marry someone else? Shouldn't the church consider whether a divorce is legal according to God's law?
The Jews had courts of law, even within the Roman empire. They tried to decide issues that related to themselves in their own synagogues. There were those who served as judges. When Paul wrote to the Corinthians, he admonished them because they were going to court with one another before unbelieving judges instead of judging matters within the church.
Today, Orthodox Jews do not accept any 'ol state issues divorce certificate. Divorce has to be done according to their understanding of the Law of Moses for them to recognize it. Roman Catholics seem to have a better grip on this principle in some regards than Protestants, since they do not accept secular divorces done contrary to church teaching as valid.
If you get a legal divorce contrary to the teaching of the word of God, the right course of action may be to legally get married again to your former spouse. Sometimes your spouse messes everything up by remarrying. That's one of the dangers of divorce. Pastors and teachers in the church need to teach and warn the people that secular thinking on the issue is not Biblical thinking.
In the context, He was talking about a man putting away his wife 'the right way' according to the law of Moses. But Jesus based His teaching on the passage about two being one flesh in the passage about Eve being given to Adam as a wife.
The same passage says that he that marries a woman who is put away commits adultery.
According to the law of Moses, in order for a divorce to be legal, a man gave his wife a certificate of divorce before sending her away. A woman giving her husband a certificate of divorce wasn't a legal divorce.
Paul, communicating a message from God tells the wife not to depart from her husband, but if she departs to remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. In Romans 7, he says that if a woman, as long as her husband lives, be married to another man, she shall be called an adulterous.
I just don't understand the thinking of people who think they can divorce for no Biblical reason and get married again, and think God is cool with it. I don't understand why a single Christian woman would want to marry or even date a man who was married but 'it didn't work out.' I don't understand why a Christian man would marry a divorced woman who divorced her husband because they couldn't get along. Why aren't pastors teaching against this sort of thing more than they are?
Suppose the government went wacko (or even more wacko than it is) and decreed that all marriages were terminated and gave everyone a divorce certificate. Would it be right for you to remarry someone else? What if the government decreed that your son was no longer your son and your mom was no longer your mom. Would that make it so? Would such a decree free people form the obligation to honor their parents or take care of their children?
Why do we think the state has the power to severe marital unions contrary to the teaching of scripture? Why would we accept as valid a unilateral divorce certificate signed only by the wife and not the husband because she wanted to 'find herself.' Why would we think it is not a sin for a man who has legally divorced his wife because they couldn't get along to marry someone else? Shouldn't the church consider whether a divorce is legal according to God's law?
The Jews had courts of law, even within the Roman empire. They tried to decide issues that related to themselves in their own synagogues. There were those who served as judges. When Paul wrote to the Corinthians, he admonished them because they were going to court with one another before unbelieving judges instead of judging matters within the church.
Today, Orthodox Jews do not accept any 'ol state issues divorce certificate. Divorce has to be done according to their understanding of the Law of Moses for them to recognize it. Roman Catholics seem to have a better grip on this principle in some regards than Protestants, since they do not accept secular divorces done contrary to church teaching as valid.
If you get a legal divorce contrary to the teaching of the word of God, the right course of action may be to legally get married again to your former spouse. Sometimes your spouse messes everything up by remarrying. That's one of the dangers of divorce. Pastors and teachers in the church need to teach and warn the people that secular thinking on the issue is not Biblical thinking.
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Why is it that people keep coming up with excuses to be able to still their conscience and get divorced.
Refer to the bible and live accordingly. ITS VERY CLEAR -
"1 Corinthians 7:10 - 7:11 (10) And unto the married I COMMAND, [yet] not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from [her] husband:
(11) But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to [her] husband: and let not the husband put away [his] wife."
Why do we tend to treat this command any differently as to say "Thou shalt not murder, commit adultry etc....?
Refer to the bible and live accordingly. ITS VERY CLEAR -
"1 Corinthians 7:10 - 7:11 (10) And unto the married I COMMAND, [yet] not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from [her] husband:
(11) But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to [her] husband: and let not the husband put away [his] wife."
Why do we tend to treat this command any differently as to say "Thou shalt not murder, commit adultry etc....?
Wow. How quickly we condemn others and make them feel like horrid people. Hmmm.
Here's what I think: There is therefore no condemnation for one who is in Christ.
If you are currently married and saved and seeking divorce, beware, for unless you are in a very UNSAFE situation, you must remain. However, if you are divorced and a Christian, are we really going to tell you not to marry again? Really? How pompous are we?
I say that so long as you are very careful to seek God and His desire, ensure that you are marrying because it is truly in God's plan, then yes, remarry. I do not know your situation, or the reason your marriage broke apart, so I would not dare to condemn you. Seek God and let His response settle it for you.
And, as a divorced person, you are still of great worth and value and deserve to be loved. You have a powerful plan, purpose and future in Christ and no one can take that from you. Beware the stone throwers. They didn't see what Christ wrote in the sand.
God bless.
Here's what I think: There is therefore no condemnation for one who is in Christ.
If you are currently married and saved and seeking divorce, beware, for unless you are in a very UNSAFE situation, you must remain. However, if you are divorced and a Christian, are we really going to tell you not to marry again? Really? How pompous are we?
I say that so long as you are very careful to seek God and His desire, ensure that you are marrying because it is truly in God's plan, then yes, remarry. I do not know your situation, or the reason your marriage broke apart, so I would not dare to condemn you. Seek God and let His response settle it for you.
And, as a divorced person, you are still of great worth and value and deserve to be loved. You have a powerful plan, purpose and future in Christ and no one can take that from you. Beware the stone throwers. They didn't see what Christ wrote in the sand.
God bless.
S
For the record, My ex husband started touching our daughter sexually...I never knew this ;While I was in prayer God told me to get out of the marital house. How do a strong christian can suddenly feel God's urge to leave her husband...I knew my husband was addicted to porn which I discovered soon after the wedding but I never thought...
My mistake? to get married to him, to not have taken my time to know who I was marrying because he was the pastor's son...what could go wrong with the pastor's son?
When I left under god's guidance, our poor little girl had the courage to tell me what daddy did to her. I went for the divorce.
I asked the church.I was told God hates divorce, I asked them what to do in those circumstances....Nobody could answer me...
Until God said to me, I hate Divorce..it is unfair to me and my plan for humanity but I will always be fair...
I wrote a book about my experience...not to challenge the idea of divorce people have but what God has taught me about where he stands...because here is the thing: Most in the church don't have a clue.
Jesus told the pharisee that they were doing very wrong to just divorce their wives out of the wickedness of their heart...Israel was in such state that, a man can just put a wife away and marry another because he wanted to be free....Jesus was against this...he said to them..in the beginning it wasn't so..Marriage was intended because God had put together a perfect plan....
But do you sincerely think God doesn't have common sense?...In the church these days, people have come up with ways to walk around doing horrible things....Their lives, married or unmarried is full of deadly corpses, wickedness and malices...they do things to their spouses which they KNOW is unacceptable in the eyes of the Lord and they are the first to open the Bible to quote the scriptures about how God hate Divorce and many others hypocrisies.... Woman and men alike are as far from God as earth is far from the sky, yet they call their marriage "christian" because they go to church. They are NO disciples.
I have talked to people who are really trying to save their marriage and are committed to the Lord; the Lord fight with them, bring their heart closer to him and together...but what do you think He does with those who are hypocrites, play church and are hiding their ways but only the spouse in the house can see...
these people are NO disciples. how do the "church" then put everyone in one basket hen it comes to Divorce?
No man should deal treacherously with their spouse, if a man put his wife a way and marries another, he commits adultery, if a man marries a woman such divorced, he commit adultery... Have you ever asked yourself, how come the Bible only addresses the husband only...a husband can divorce, give her a paper, but a woman can only separate,...women were not allowed much... God was talking to them under the jewish tradition. A woman had no right whatsoever to give a husband a divorce paper that was the Law in the Biblical days... a lot can be said these days.
Good or bad, there is a reality not to be ignored.
God intensely , is trying to teach the church to watch out for the ignorance and undisciplined life going on...
My mistake? to get married to him, to not have taken my time to know who I was marrying because he was the pastor's son...what could go wrong with the pastor's son?
When I left under god's guidance, our poor little girl had the courage to tell me what daddy did to her. I went for the divorce.
I asked the church.I was told God hates divorce, I asked them what to do in those circumstances....Nobody could answer me...
Until God said to me, I hate Divorce..it is unfair to me and my plan for humanity but I will always be fair...
I wrote a book about my experience...not to challenge the idea of divorce people have but what God has taught me about where he stands...because here is the thing: Most in the church don't have a clue.
Jesus told the pharisee that they were doing very wrong to just divorce their wives out of the wickedness of their heart...Israel was in such state that, a man can just put a wife away and marry another because he wanted to be free....Jesus was against this...he said to them..in the beginning it wasn't so..Marriage was intended because God had put together a perfect plan....
But do you sincerely think God doesn't have common sense?...In the church these days, people have come up with ways to walk around doing horrible things....Their lives, married or unmarried is full of deadly corpses, wickedness and malices...they do things to their spouses which they KNOW is unacceptable in the eyes of the Lord and they are the first to open the Bible to quote the scriptures about how God hate Divorce and many others hypocrisies.... Woman and men alike are as far from God as earth is far from the sky, yet they call their marriage "christian" because they go to church. They are NO disciples.
I have talked to people who are really trying to save their marriage and are committed to the Lord; the Lord fight with them, bring their heart closer to him and together...but what do you think He does with those who are hypocrites, play church and are hiding their ways but only the spouse in the house can see...
these people are NO disciples. how do the "church" then put everyone in one basket hen it comes to Divorce?
No man should deal treacherously with their spouse, if a man put his wife a way and marries another, he commits adultery, if a man marries a woman such divorced, he commit adultery... Have you ever asked yourself, how come the Bible only addresses the husband only...a husband can divorce, give her a paper, but a woman can only separate,...women were not allowed much... God was talking to them under the jewish tradition. A woman had no right whatsoever to give a husband a divorce paper that was the Law in the Biblical days... a lot can be said these days.
Good or bad, there is a reality not to be ignored.
God intensely , is trying to teach the church to watch out for the ignorance and undisciplined life going on...
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There are 2 points here: divorce and remarrying after divorce.
Divorce in the legal sense is not divorce in God's eyes. If someone gets married in church by a pastor who does not have a secular marriage license, that marriage is valid in God's eyes Then the couple go to some municipal office and get married by a secular bureaucrat for the government, IRS etc. to accept the couple as married.
If now the husband turns abusive, and the wife needs to separate for her and the children's safety (spiritual, emotional and physical) then divorcing him in a secular court is the rational thing to do. The secular "marriage" and secular "divorce" are secular, legal acts and should not be confused with the marriage in God's eyes.
Remarrying again after the divorce is a different issue.
Divorce in the legal sense is not divorce in God's eyes. If someone gets married in church by a pastor who does not have a secular marriage license, that marriage is valid in God's eyes Then the couple go to some municipal office and get married by a secular bureaucrat for the government, IRS etc. to accept the couple as married.
If now the husband turns abusive, and the wife needs to separate for her and the children's safety (spiritual, emotional and physical) then divorcing him in a secular court is the rational thing to do. The secular "marriage" and secular "divorce" are secular, legal acts and should not be confused with the marriage in God's eyes.
Remarrying again after the divorce is a different issue.
Sunburn I agree.
The bible gives us the right way we should live our life, and most times we do.
At the end of the day we all need to remember is God is love, he is our father.
Would you want you child to be with some who either physically abuses them, or mentally? Just naming a few things.
However, I think it is important to recognise that marriage counselling must be tried first a foremost.
Think of this. We all sin right? Some more than others, and some people do terrible things more than others will, yes it's true we all are different. Everyone's spirit is different. You can not know how your relationship will turn out, and we certainly don't go into any relationship knowing it all.
One thing I will say is, Satan is the deceiver, and knowing this we must have our eyes open. He is out to destroy yours and my relationship. He hates seeing you happy. It's unfortunate that your spouse may be deceived by such wicked things.
In my opinion, if your spouse repents, and changes his life for good then stay with him.
If however he continues to down the road of destruction I say leave and divorce him.
I would not want my child to stay with someone who is going to bring him or her down. I know their life would be better off without them.
Why would I want them living in fear or heartache! NO!
We can not re write what is written in the bible it's true.
But if you do divorce your husband or wife and wish to remarry, REPENT, come to God and make sure he is number one in your life. God WILL have your back and he saves.
We all sin!
No sin is greater than the other.
Make sure you are right with God before you get involved with anyone else.....the MOST important thing.
The bible gives us the right way we should live our life, and most times we do.
At the end of the day we all need to remember is God is love, he is our father.
Would you want you child to be with some who either physically abuses them, or mentally? Just naming a few things.
However, I think it is important to recognise that marriage counselling must be tried first a foremost.
Think of this. We all sin right? Some more than others, and some people do terrible things more than others will, yes it's true we all are different. Everyone's spirit is different. You can not know how your relationship will turn out, and we certainly don't go into any relationship knowing it all.
One thing I will say is, Satan is the deceiver, and knowing this we must have our eyes open. He is out to destroy yours and my relationship. He hates seeing you happy. It's unfortunate that your spouse may be deceived by such wicked things.
In my opinion, if your spouse repents, and changes his life for good then stay with him.
If however he continues to down the road of destruction I say leave and divorce him.
I would not want my child to stay with someone who is going to bring him or her down. I know their life would be better off without them.
Why would I want them living in fear or heartache! NO!
We can not re write what is written in the bible it's true.
But if you do divorce your husband or wife and wish to remarry, REPENT, come to God and make sure he is number one in your life. God WILL have your back and he saves.
We all sin!
No sin is greater than the other.
Make sure you are right with God before you get involved with anyone else.....the MOST important thing.
No one is condemning. Just stating what scripture says. If anyone has a problem with what God says then they have something going on that should be dealt with in a personal manner. However, no one can force them and no one can stop them either.
What ever happens is between them and God, all we can do is show what God says in His Word, pray for them, and love them.
What ever happens is between them and God, all we can do is show what God says in His Word, pray for them, and love them.
S
My ex husband molested our daughters and refused to do anything that the judge in family court ordered him to do; counseling, sex offender classes, etc. He also violated orders to have absolutely no contact with the children. Then he started saying child services had brainwashed us and it was actually my dad that molested the girls and he got the blame. The situation to most people looked pretty obvious but I still wanted to be sure God was ok with a divorce. When I knew for sure in my heart I did file, and alot of things could be put in place in the divorce to protect the children. It has been almost 10 years. At times I am lonely, I had been married almost 26 years and it is hard to be alone and also the breadwinner.
I would like having somebody in my life again (my ex still maintains his innocence) but I would still pray alot about remarriage if I did meet somebody. I don't believe just because I divorced due to his fornication that I am automatically free to marry somebody else.
Despite what scripture says about any subject, one should seek God for His guidance. There may be reasons He would lead a person to not do something even if the scriptures says it is not a sin.
I would like having somebody in my life again (my ex still maintains his innocence) but I would still pray alot about remarriage if I did meet somebody. I don't believe just because I divorced due to his fornication that I am automatically free to marry somebody else.
Despite what scripture says about any subject, one should seek God for His guidance. There may be reasons He would lead a person to not do something even if the scriptures says it is not a sin.
U
Just a bit off the topic here has anyone dealt with their husband not believing in god. I have recently been saved and I want to share it with him but he thinks I'm loopy. It makes me mad when he denied our Lord. What should I do 