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Something mentioned in another thread (thanks PopClick) about not judging an individual's merits based on the actions of family members made me take a closer (uncomfortable!) look at my own family and their history- things like divorce, bad relationships, that stuff. I know that people learn their behavior largely from family, so I suppose that a person who grows up surrounded by certain behaviors would be more likely to practice those behaviors in their own life, intentionally or not.
And that stinks.
But what stinks worse is when others judge an individual based on what their family has done and predict that the person will go down the same path. Doesn't matter how true it may or may not be; it's negative and makes a person feel like they're just doomed to repeat their family's mistakes.
Anyway, I'm just wondering what you guys think about this- is it fair to assume someone is going to be a screw-up, based solely on what their family has done? Do you think people can avoid that kind of "fate"? Any personal experience with judging someone else or being the one judged for your family's issues?
And that stinks.
But what stinks worse is when others judge an individual based on what their family has done and predict that the person will go down the same path. Doesn't matter how true it may or may not be; it's negative and makes a person feel like they're just doomed to repeat their family's mistakes.
Anyway, I'm just wondering what you guys think about this- is it fair to assume someone is going to be a screw-up, based solely on what their family has done? Do you think people can avoid that kind of "fate"? Any personal experience with judging someone else or being the one judged for your family's issues?