Marital Discipline

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lydever91

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Biblically, what does God tell us is acceptable when wanting to discipline a spouse, whether it be wife to husband or visa versa?

Certainly hitting is not an option, if the Bible tells us to help our neighbor when in trouble, then surely someone we have become one with is superior (know what I mean?).
 
Loveneverfails

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Uh, I didn't realize we were supposed to discipline our spouses. Do you mean loving rebuke from one believer to another? My future husband is my brother in Christ so yeah if he has biblical grounds to rebuke me and reveal sin in my life I want him to do it. I'd do the same for him.

Sorry, I've just never heard of marital discipline. Id love to hear more about what you mean.
 
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Your spouse is not your child.
 
Angela53510

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I think we can gently rebuke our spouse if we see them falling away from God. But probably better just to pray for them and model what it means to serve God. And be joyous!

What on earth would you disciple an adult for? Just curious.
 
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lydever91 said:
Biblically, what does God tell us is acceptable when wanting to discipline a spouse, whether it be wife to husband or visa versa?

Certainly hitting is not an option, if the Bible tells us to help our neighbor when in trouble, then surely someone we have become one with is superior (know what I mean?).
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Do it gently and with great concern and love. And then pray together. And kiss goodnight.
 
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What kind of discipline do you have in mind? My wife is a mature, responsible person, so I can't really talk about this much from my own experience.

But I could imagine if a man were married to a woman who was irresponsible, maybe kind of young, who did stuff like ran up bills on a credit card and liked to go out and party, he might remove her from his credit cards or something like that and tell her they can't go on vacation next month if she goes out to drink and dance with her friends. I guess that would be 'grounding' her. My wife doesn't do any of that stuff, but I've read posts on the Internet about people in those sorts of situations.
 
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Oh, my! What a nutso thread!
 
Loveneverfails

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Tintin said:
Oh, my! What a nutso thread!
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My sentiments exactly, but then again, we still haven't heard back from the thread author, so I'm still holding out hope that maybe it's not what it sounds like lol.
 
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I try not to do the spanking thing whenever my wife messes up. I'm more apt to just make her sit with her nose in a corner for time-out.

Wait....What are we talking about here???
 
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Bushido8000 said:
I try not to do the spanking thing whenever my wife messes up. I'm more apt to just make her sit with her nose in a corner for time-out.

Wait....What are we talking about here???
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You may end up in the corner.
 
lydever91

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Sorry, busy stay-at-home momma.

Say my husband were to spank our 18 month old for crying, and I were to get mad and hit him back. Would that be feasible?

since that's more touchy because a baby who is learning new things getting abused is involved, here is another example:

Say my husband were to spank me with a belt because, while getting him ready for work, I was getting his lunch ready instead of helping look for the work keys.

Mind you that these are hypothetical and any baby-spanking will not be tolerated, and neither will belt-spanking from one adult to another.
 
Red_Tory

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lydever91 said:
Sorry, busy stay-at-home momma.

Say my husband were to spank our 18 month old for crying, and I were to get mad and hit him back. Would that be feasible?

since that's more touchy because a baby who is learning new things getting abused is involved, here is another example:

Say my husband were to spank me with a belt because, while getting him ready for work, I was getting his lunch ready instead of helping look for the work keys.

Mind you that these are hypothetical and any baby-spanking will not be tolerated, and neither will belt-spanking from one adult to another.
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That would be rather absurd.
 
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lydever91 said:
Sorry, busy stay-at-home momma.

Say my husband were to spank our 18 month old for crying, and I were to get mad and hit him back. Would that be feasible?

since that's more touchy because a baby who is learning new things getting abused is involved, here is another example:

Say my husband were to spank me with a belt because, while getting him ready for work, I was getting his lunch ready instead of helping look for the work keys.

Mind you that these are hypothetical and any baby-spanking will not be tolerated, and neither will belt-spanking from one adult to another.
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You follow Matthew 18 Process
Go to him one on one
If that dosent work have two others confront him
If that dosent work you tell it to the church.
 
Loveneverfails

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lydever91 said:
Sorry, busy stay-at-home momma.

Say my husband were to spank our 18 month old for crying, and I were to get mad and hit him back. Would that be feasible?

since that's more touchy because a baby who is learning new things getting abused is involved, here is another example:

Say my husband were to spank me with a belt because, while getting him ready for work, I was getting his lunch ready instead of helping look for the work keys.

Mind you that these are hypothetical and any baby-spanking will not be tolerated, and neither will belt-spanking from one adult to another.
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1) you striking your husband out of anger is not discipline. It's just immature. You are both adults and you should use your words to discuss parenting beliefs.

2) if your husband spanked you (especially for the absurd hypothetical reason you described) I would be really concerned. That is not godly leadership. That's being a dictator. You are not a child.

You're both adults fully capable of reasoning and compromise. Use your words.
 
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Loveneverfails said:
1) you striking your husband out of anger is not discipline. It's just immature. You are both adults and you should use your words to discuss parenting beliefs.

2) if your husband spanked you (especially for the absurd hypothetical reason you described) I would be really concerned. That is not godly leadership. That's being a dictator. You are not a child.

You're both adults fully capable of reasoning and compromise. Use your words.
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