Going on a first date question

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Tintin

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Test_F_i_2_Luv said:
You're bringing yourself, so you're the gift. Perkins is a good safe public place to meet. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into anything awkward afterwards.

You write that you've been communicating for a few weeks. 7 days a week? Once a week? 10 minutes average per conversation? 3 hours average per conversation?

Cross examination over...for now. :p
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Give the girl a break. What are you, the Jack Bauer of online relationships? :p
 
Roh_Chris

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Some people have very strong parental tendencies. :p

Just saying..
 
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amymine712

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We talk daily for 45 minutes to a couple of hours. And I won't be pressured into anything. He agrees with me about going slow and really getting to know each other. He is also fine with me wanting to remain celibate until I have a commitment. He respects me for my faith and how I walk it out. I will enjoy meeting him. :)
 
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amymine712

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Tintin said:
Give the girl a break. What are you, the Jack Bauer of online relationships? :p
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lol I don't mind. It's nice to have people concerned about you. At least that is how I took it. :D
 
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Tintin

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amymine712 said:
lol I don't mind. It's nice to have people concerned about you. At least that is how I took it. :D
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Sorry, I didn't mean anything by that. I'm a bit of a cheeky monkey.
 
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amymine712

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Tintin said:
Sorry, I didn't mean anything by that. I'm a bit of a cheeky monkey.
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Hey no need for an apology. I am a bit of a cheeky monkey also. :)
 
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Arlene89

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I know this has nothing to do with the thread, but a fair few weeks ago I bought this beautiful 1960's style deep purple wrap dress for a very specific occasion. I won't wear it until September because I'm saving it for the first date I have with Tintin. (Oh, I'm very corny). But I can't wait to wear it and I can't wait to finally rub faces with him.

Oh, as for presents on the first date? I was thinking of putting a bow on my head and shouting, "TA-DAH!". Does that count?
 
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Arlene89 said:
I know this has nothing to do with the thread, but a fair few weeks ago I bought this beautiful 1960's style deep purple wrap dress for a very specific occasion. I won't wear it until September because I'm saving it for the first date I have with Tintin. (Oh, I'm very corny). But I can't wait to wear it and I can't wait to finally rub faces with him.

Oh, as for presents on the first date? I was thinking of putting a bow on my head and shouting, "TA-DAH!". Does that count?
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ok, now i'm dying to see the dress. i love vintage wrap dresses, especially DVF-esque inspired and i really love purple...

no fair dropping cute fashion references that we're not going to be able to see...; p
 
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jer2911

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amymine712 said:
lol I love reubens. However, I will probably get a bowl of soup. I can't eat much anymore and their portion sizes are huge. Maybe a salad if they sell half sizes.
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You don't need an upset stomach on a first date. . :)
 
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Tintin

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gypsygirl said:
ok, now i'm dying to see the dress. i love vintage wrap dresses, especially DVF-esque inspired and i really love purple...

no fair dropping cute fashion references that we're not going to be able to see...; p
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Maybe I could encourage Arlene to upload a photo?
 
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amymine712

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Arlene89 said:
I know this has nothing to do with the thread, but a fair few weeks ago I bought this beautiful 1960's style deep purple wrap dress for a very specific occasion. I won't wear it until September because I'm saving it for the first date I have with Tintin. (Oh, I'm very corny). But I can't wait to wear it and I can't wait to finally rub faces with him.

Oh, as for presents on the first date? I was thinking of putting a bow on my head and shouting, "TA-DAH!". Does that count?
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I would love to see the dress! It sounds gorgeous! lol the bow idea is great. ;)
 
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amymine712 said:
I am going on a first date with a guy I met online. We have been talking for a few weeks. He goes to church and takes his kids with him. We are on the same page morally and belief wise. I am meeting him for lunch at Perkins.

My question is do I bring him a small gift? If so, what would you suggest?
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I have an idea which you can see if it helps you. We men love to eat and lunch is a very good excuse for us to devour some food. If you are a foodie with a voracious appetite, then go ahead, you guys can easily bond over good food! But if you are not, then you may want to suggest a coffee shop. This happened to me once, which is why I am suggesting that this may not work. I once went for a lunch date with a girl who was not a heavy-eater. She kept talking while I kept eating and nodding along to her. At the end of the date, I had no clue over what we had spoken about because I was busy eating.

I am not sure if this could happen, so I suggest that you check this with some of your good guy friends here. Nevertheless, I wish you good luck and I hope God shows you the right thing to do. Oh, and if he seems more interested in the food, just let him eat. You can talk to him before the food is served or after it while he is waiting to pay. :)
 
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amymine712

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Roh_Chris said:
I have an idea which you can see if it helps you. We men love to eat and lunch is a very good excuse for us to devour some food. If you are a foodie with a voracious appetite, then go ahead, you guys can easily bond over good food! But if you are not, then you may want to suggest a coffee shop. This happened to me once, which is why I am suggesting that this may not work. I once went for a lunch date with a girl who was not a heavy-eater. She kept talking while I kept eating and nodding along to her. At the end of the date, I had no clue over what we had spoken about because I was busy eating.

I am not sure if this could happen, so I suggest that you check this with some of your good guy friends here. Nevertheless, I wish you good luck and I hope God shows you the right thing to do. Oh, and if he seems more interested in the food, just let him eat. You can talk to him before the food is served or after it while he is waiting to pay. :)
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yeah I am not a heavy eater anymore...changing my life around to be healthy. ( i have lost 160 pounds to date) Which he respects and admires about me. I know when to shut up ;) I hope he has a healthy appetite because we both talk about God and food quite often. :D He is a sweets man. I was thinking about making a dessert for him but that can wait until we see if we click in real life.
 
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sassylady

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No. Don't jump into this all that quickly. Been there and done that, especially online dating sites. Give it plenty of time and stay friends (if it works that way) for awhile. There are so many deceptions out there. I once met a man in church who was one of the worship leaders and long story short ended up getting a protection order on him.
 
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YouCanCallMeDave

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amymine712 said:
I am going on a first date with a guy I met online. We have been talking for a few weeks. He goes to church and takes his kids with him. We are on the same page morally and belief wise. I am meeting him for lunch at Perkins.

My question is do I bring him a small gift? If so, what would you suggest?
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No...just bring him the gift of yourself . Its great you've established a friendship online but its pretty different meeting in person so id take it very sloooooow and think with lots of objectivity during your meeting and future ones if that should occur. At this point, you are in the infancy of your friendship and I wouldn't allow any huge expectations and plans to cloud your objective consideration of him. He may be the real-deal or he may be like many other church going Men out there who are drastically in need of Gods direction and power in their life to walk their talk. Id hang onto your feelings, keep them in check, and keep the brakes applied in addition to not seeing too much of each other initially. A friendship needs to mature and grow like wine takes to ferment . Moving too fast will cloud issues typically. Hope that helped.
 
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amymine712 said:
yeah I am not a heavy eater anymore...changing my life around to be healthy. ( i have lost 160 pounds to date) Which he respects and admires about me. I know when to shut up ;) I hope he has a healthy appetite because we both talk about God and food quite often. :D He is a sweets man. I was thinking about making a dessert for him but that can wait until we see if we click in real life.
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WHAT??? Were you thinking of making a dessert for him on your first date??? :eek: What's for the second? Cute little clothes for all his kids??? :eek:




Your presence is more than enough on the first date. If he brings you flowers this time, then you can get him something simple the next time. You will not cook or bake or anything for him until the 5th date. And nothing for the kids until you have met them! :eek:

​You can thank me later ..
 
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Brighthouse

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Sister I would say, you are his gift!! However i do believe he should bring you one! The reason he should bring you one,is because by example, he is, with the gift thanking you to remember him! I just hope you are not being led astray is all. And by all means test him sis!!Get to the truth from the get go!

People online can be anything they wish to be as we all know. Pay attention to Holy Spirit in you as well!! He will really confirm some things as he speaks to you! I hope you enjoy yourself!! It is the older man in me speaking to you sis,LOL I would if i was your dad go with you myself!! LOL And if you did not wish for me to go with you,I would be there without you knowing it!! LOL No girl of mine would ever be without an escape!

Trust in others has never been a strong quality with me. I would be very nice to him if you wished for me to be sis,i would show him my gun collection,reminding him I much I care for my little girl,and woe to anyone who would ever hurt her. hehe Without saying anything more to him, I know he would get the point!! LOL As Jesus loves so do I sis,and protects as well! And NO!! It does not matter how old you are either!! LOL To dad's around the world, you will always be there little girl!
 
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