I'm really sorry that these kinds of things happen to people. I too know the sadness of friends who have given up their faith in Jesus Christ because of a disturbing discrepancy. The Mormon church, however, does not have a monopoly on sad Jesus-rejecting apostasies. In fact all Christian organizations are experiencing these kind of experiences.
Your wife's second cousin did not leave the church because of this discrepancy. It may have been the excuse, but it was not the cause. He left because he no longer felt the passion to be Christ-centered any longer. He wants to live his life the way he wants, not the way the Lord wants. You don't think I can see the discrepancies that seem to exist in the Mormon church? You don't think I can't see the discrepancies that seem to exist in the Bible. You don't think I can't see the discrepancies that exist between competing Christian evangelical preachers and the books they write. I see it all, but I do not make those discrepancies the centerpiece of my life and use them to turn away from Jesus Christ. Jesus is the centerpiece of my life and I have studied and prayed about these discrepancies enough to know that what seems to be true, is not necessarily true. Many discrepancies are man made also. Sometimes men say things that are of a personal belief that is not church doctrine, and when they write about it, it can be disturbing. Again, if you are going to be Christ-centered, you have to overlook many man-made and satan-made discrepancies in order to focus on the direction you need to be going. So good luck to all of us.
I agree that every denominational doctrine has their shortcomings. None of our relatives practice polygamy, and I believe the true Mormon doctrine of today doesn't either as other “offshoots” do. In relation to our cousin, the reason he started questioning the doctrine leading up his rejection was that he recognized doctrine that taught incest concerning the conception of Jesus Christ. You and I both know this was not intentional by the teaching of the church but is connected with the doctrine of "spirit children" and its aspects of relationship. It started with the doctrine that doesn't recognize how we are made in accordance with God. (Their image) We have a motivating spirit, a thought process to learn and decipher, and a physical body.
I can only say that you cannot enter the Kingdom of heaven unless you are born-again, regardless of the pre-existence or not.
We were not perfect little spirit children in the pre-existence. Lucifer/Satan was one of the spirit children and look what he turned into. God's number one rule is that all have "free agency" to choose. So in the pre-existence we also had the right to choose and 1/3 followed Lucifer and lost everything. 2/3 followed Jesus and had the opportunity to progress.
I agree we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven unless we are born again through the spirit of God in Christ Jesus. Speaking of Satan being a spirit child, I am wondering if Michael and Gabriel were also spirit children before they were born, or were they? Lucifer rebelled before coming to earth, but I see nowhere that he was born as a baby after his expulsion.
Isaiah 14:12-17
12 How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning ! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations!
13 For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north:
14 I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High.
15 Yet thou shalt be brought down to hell, to the sides of the pit.
16 They that see thee shall narrowly look upon thee, and consider thee, saying, Is this the man that made the earth to tremble , that did shake kingdoms;
17 That made the world as a wilderness, and destroyed the cities thereof; that opened not the house of his prisoners? Lucifer came to earth in the form of a serpent.
Adam and Eve, the very first man and woman, were sent into a precarious situation. God places them in a beautiful garden and then leaves, but allows satan to come to them and temp them to eat of the forbidden tree. We don't know how long it took for satan to finally persuade Eve to partake, so he could have been working on her for a while. Finally she succumbs to the pressure and does eat. We only know a small amount of information about this situation, but the lie was that if she ate, she would be like the gods, knowing good and evil. I am sure that this did not happen in a short 2 or 3 days. I am sure that when God said, don't eat, Eve did not go out the next day (even being tempted by satan) and eat. So I believe there is much more to this story than what is recorded. Nonetheless, God left Adam and Eve in close proximity to satan and that seems a little unfair. Why did God throw Adam and Eve into that situation, knowing they would transgress? (God knows everything).
From Adam to today, I believe God allows (rather than throws) situations to develop that will ultimately be for our good. We may stumble occasionally, but if we have the right attitudes and know about the grace of Jesus Christ, we pick ourselves up and we become better persons in the effort of building up the Kingdom of God.
Why would a loving God do this is a question you and I both have, or had. As we know God can use evil to fulfill His purpose like hardening the heart of Pharaoh. This situation then confirms that choosing good and evil is something that happens after natural birth. It seems obvious to me that we are created to respond to a loving relationship with our Father in heaven. If all was perfect, and there had been no transgression, there would be no law, or the need for salvation. The salvation plan is not an afterthought by our Father in Heaven and His only begotten Son Jesus Christ. With all these questions that might arise because we are not given finite details, one thing is evident. The need we see in choosing Christ as our Savior shows us a greater depth of God's love and compassion for us. There are many different choices we can make, but God desires us to make one choice after we are born in the flesh. If the situation concerning Eve's temptation in the garden of Eden had never happened, it would be like a certain dictatorship rather than a sacred romance as He desires. We are created to respond to His love.
We weren't perfect spiritually or physically. The most important concept is that we needed to be faithful in our first estate and progress to our second estate. In the second estate, we would gain a body that would be united with our pre-existent spirit and that combination is the soul of man. (I know we can discuss what the make-up of man is and what the soul is and all of that, but the information that we have is sketchy and what it comes down to is what you believe).
We have the opportunity to act on our own outside the closer contact with God found in the pre-existence. Very much like God formed Adam and Eve and then placed them in the garden and then left them alone. He has left you and I alone to see how we use our free agency. If we keep our second estate, then we will have the right to return to Him once again and the future is bright. (see my post 507 towards the end, you will find out why it is important that we do not remember the entire experience of the pre-existence.)
If we were once spirit children in heaven and weren't perfect, we would be cast out like Lucifer, following him with the fall after the heavenly war was waged. It is clear that the flesh wars against the spirit so if we were not perfect as “spirit children” we would have a body of flesh before we were born. Speaking of being left alone as you mentioned Adam was, that isn't what the Bible says in Genesis 2:16-19. Adam relayed the message to Eve about the tree same a Moses relayed the message about the law. Both Adam and Eve knew the sound of God walking in the garden because they had heard it before.
Your quote in post 507 says “I'm going to tell you why you don't remember the pre-existence. If you were completely aware of what happened in the pre-existence, your free will would be put at risk.” My thought is God's purpose in Christ is risk free. If we had the capability to choose right and wrong before natural birth free will wouldn't be at risk. Lucifer had the choice. It's more that choosing between good and evil. It's having
the knowledge of the truth to boot.
1 Timothy 2:2-4
2 For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.
3 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;
4 Who will have all men to be saved , and
to come unto the knowledge of the truth.
The entire story of what "angels" are, and how long have they been around, and how were they created and all of that is very sketchy from the scriptures. We believe that angels are spirit beings. We also believe that they are the spirit children of God. You cannot refute that. The word "angel" is simply "messenger" and that leaves lots of room for the Mormon church to interpret angel as a spirit child of God, who uses this spirit child as a messenger at times and it then become an "angel". It leaves lots of room for you to interpret what an "angel" is and I can't refute it either. We can only tell each other what we believe. That's pretty much what we are doing. So thanks for the discussion.
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Genesis states that Angels (whether fallen or not) are the Sons of God, but the Bible doesn't call them spirit children the same as LDS says we are. Angels are messengers for sure to accomplish the divine plan of God from the beginning. They even sustain and monitor the cycles of heaven and earth in the natural perfect order of God's creation.
Revelation 5:2 And I saw a strong angel proclaiming with a loud voice, Who is worthy to open the book, and to loose the seals thereof?
2 Corinthians 12:7 And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure.
We are also messengers of the gospel (good news) after being born again from our natural carnal and fleshly state.
1 John 3:11 For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.
That message of love, in detail, is written in the law, God using Moses for His messenger. In the new covenant Jesus is the "first born" of many to deliver the completion of the divine plan called salvation. Salvation from certain death.