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You mean like each of my exes did when they had gotten their fill of me and went over the fence to browner pastures? LOL!! I would tend to say no, but I'm sure there are some out there....somewhere..who don't just want to get in your pants and then leave. However, they are few and far between!! jmo..
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I don't believe that's true. Them being few and far between. Just because you happened to date guys that have been this way doesn't mean they are ALL like that.
I think the bigger question here is. Why are you letting them get in your pants? You wouldn't have that problem if you weren't sleeping with them
I think the bigger question here is. Why are you letting them get in your pants? You wouldn't have that problem if you weren't sleeping with them
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No, I'm pretty sure they are few and far between. Just like a good woman is hard to find too.
As for avoiding the problem altogether, you're absolutely right. If the pants stay on, this issue doesn't even crop up, and the guys who are only in it to sleep with someone eventually get tired (and usually pretty quickly). Lots of time gets saved at the same time that a bullet is dodged. Win win!
The ones who have a bad boy complex are truly a lost cause, but they aren't usually right in the head. The rest of them, not all of them are looking for a payout, although I will admit that looks and/or money do seem to help find someone faster, albeit someone who probably would leave as soon as said looks or money dry up.
As for avoiding the problem altogether, you're absolutely right. If the pants stay on, this issue doesn't even crop up, and the guys who are only in it to sleep with someone eventually get tired (and usually pretty quickly). Lots of time gets saved at the same time that a bullet is dodged. Win win!
The ones who have a bad boy complex are truly a lost cause, but they aren't usually right in the head. The rest of them, not all of them are looking for a payout, although I will admit that looks and/or money do seem to help find someone faster, albeit someone who probably would leave as soon as said looks or money dry up.
Exactly. This is also why I hate my life to the point of taking it. Its so unfair. The girls who offer their intimacy with liars don't even bother to notice what they are doing to the honest, and when they do find out they don't care. They just keep making the same mistake over and over. Bonding sexually with liars and destroying the hearts and romantic hope of honest guys.
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Like I said in that other thread, if you can't find a woman, refocus and concentrate on fixing whatever it is that scares them away. I never said you'll attract a rich supermodel, but I guarantee you could get the attention of a woman.
But... you're contradicting yourself here.
Think about this - you're a guy who's just interested in getting in a girl's pants. Do you really think you have anything to offer the OP, given the frustrations she posted in this thread? Is it not possible that this desperation is scaring away the women you meet?
From my teenage years on. When ever I had a girlfriend. I was very happy with just her. My ego was based more on how happy we were together.
In my early days. Guys get on this ego trip. Being able to catch or have there way with a girl to boost there ultra ego.
Now days the morals have really gotten low. Many people treat others more like objects for there own personal fulfillment,
A lot of rude, crude, dudes on the online dating sites. Men expecting to have there way on the first date, or because they bought a woman a coffee, or just showed up.
Its like you take God out of humanity. People behave and act like animals.
In my early days. Guys get on this ego trip. Being able to catch or have there way with a girl to boost there ultra ego.
Now days the morals have really gotten low. Many people treat others more like objects for there own personal fulfillment,
A lot of rude, crude, dudes on the online dating sites. Men expecting to have there way on the first date, or because they bought a woman a coffee, or just showed up.
Its like you take God out of humanity. People behave and act like animals.
I waited for 35 years for the right good guy to come along....sure I made mistakes during those years but I held to my guns and did not settle because I was waiting for that Godly man to come along. I can tell you it has been worth the wait. We both put God first which is His rightful place and my guy respects the fact of waiting until marriage. Which rates in high respect for each other.
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As a man who has fallen for women who were not good for me at all, I can say that if you are having problems with all the wrong guys or girls in your life (just as I had problem with all the wrong girls in my life) then it is time for some self-reflection on your walk with Christ. Until you give Christ your full heart and bring all things (including your dating life/preferences), you are going to have sin and the associated chaos thereof running rampant in your life.
The Word of God says "Seek the Kingdom first". Many of us would rather change that to "Pursue a career, education, bf/gf, or spouse first and pursue God as a secondary or co-equal goal." Set your eyes on God and He will take care of the rest. But if you try to grasp at the straws that the rest of the world around you does (and encourages you to do the same) that were never meant for you in the first place, you are never going to accomplish the great things that God wants for your life.
I encourage you to set your eyes on Jesus. If we would only do this one thing, we would see all else fall into place. Again, set your eyes on Jesus.
The Word of God says "Seek the Kingdom first". Many of us would rather change that to "Pursue a career, education, bf/gf, or spouse first and pursue God as a secondary or co-equal goal." Set your eyes on God and He will take care of the rest. But if you try to grasp at the straws that the rest of the world around you does (and encourages you to do the same) that were never meant for you in the first place, you are never going to accomplish the great things that God wants for your life.
I encourage you to set your eyes on Jesus. If we would only do this one thing, we would see all else fall into place. Again, set your eyes on Jesus.
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Sexual manipulation & exploitation are used by both genders. The only differences are the methods used.
Had one woman, a school teacher, tell me that her girlfriends would go out on dates just to get out of the house from boredom and for the freebies: movie & dinner. They had no intention of establishing a relationship.
Had one woman, a school teacher, tell me that her girlfriends would go out on dates just to get out of the house from boredom and for the freebies: movie & dinner. They had no intention of establishing a relationship.
Am I not allowed to have hope in meeting a beautiful woman who hasn't been with 20 guys already?
There are so many unrepentant sinners blossoming in life, health and pleasure. Why is that happening?
Jesus said 'I came so that they may have life and have it full.'
As believers in Christ are we supposed to suffer to death on Earth because earthly enjoyment is demonic?
A good father doesn't neglect his children. Nor is he too hard on them.
There are so many unrepentant sinners blossoming in life, health and pleasure. Why is that happening?
Jesus said 'I came so that they may have life and have it full.'
As believers in Christ are we supposed to suffer to death on Earth because earthly enjoyment is demonic?
A good father doesn't neglect his children. Nor is he too hard on them.
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There are Trust me there are lots of men like that out there. I have met a couple the only bad part is its sooo hard for me to actually like someone and I haven't really liked those guys and the ones I have, end up not liking me or stuck on their ex :/ So trust me they are guys out there
For me the struggle is to find someone I like who actually likes me back, isn't stuck on their ex and will be faithfull.
For me the struggle is to find someone I like who actually likes me back, isn't stuck on their ex and will be faithfull.