The suppositions of Calvinism and associated man made theories all do violence to scripture. Scripture will never align with Calvinism. If it was actually scripture it would not be called Calvinism.
You are banging your head against a wall. All you will get is quips and assertions from these people. They cannot address the substance and therefore must respond superficially without substance.
Here is what they believe...
[video=youtube;wRGMp0md5CE]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRGMp0md5CE[/video]
Paul Washers starting point it that man is "radically depraved." That it the fundamental premise of his entire theology and it is the same thing Elin and others are promoting.
We see in that video...
1. People are all BORN radically depraved.
2. People are truly dead in sin and truly hate God from BIRTH. All are equally evil.
3. People are TOTALLY DISABLED from being able to respond to God.
4. Therefore there MUST be an OFFSET to this TOTAL DISABILITY.
5. Irresistible Grace is what offsets the disability and Irresistible Grace is only given to those who are elected.
Paul Washer creates a false dichotomy in his answer to the young man. His premise is ALWAYS Original Sin. Thus presents the young man with two alterntives..
1. All are born wicked, depraved as well as hating God. Thus all a born TOTALLY DISABLED from being able to turn to God even if God offers them mercy if they would turn. Thus without Irresistible Grace being an offset every single human being would perish and go to hell.
2. All are born wicked, depraved as well as hating God. Thus all are born TOTALLY DISABLED from being able to turn to God yet God draws a select number via Irresistible Grace and that particular group is able to be saved.
That is EXACTLY what Augustine taught in the Fourth Century although he didn't adhere to "Total Depravity" but rather a "Partial Depravity." Yet it doesn't matter because in both instances man is disabled in being able to respond to God.
This doctrine takes ALL RESPONSIBILITY away from man and puts ALL RESPONSIBILITY on God.
So not only do we have Satan's first lie of...
Lie 1. Ye can sin and not surely die.
...we have a second lie of...
Lie 2. Ye cannot obey God.
Build your theology upon those two lies and you end up with an entire system of error which argues in favour of sin.
THAT is why these people won't touch purity of heart, crucifixion of the flesh, escaping the corruption in the world through lust, as you can see by the silence in this thread and pretty much every other thread on these forums. Those are the elephants in the Bible few want to touch because to do so would expose their false religion and their false salvation.
I also bet that many of the vacuous responses they make is to get information like that which I present off the last page because it is so damaging to their theology.