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One other thingy I learned that I forgot to put on my little listy above is that........
You had better be able to live with 85%-90% of how the potential mate/spouse is currently cause you ain't gonna change them not one little bit so if you don't like what you see RUN..... in the opposite direction.
You had better be able to live with 85%-90% of how the potential mate/spouse is currently cause you ain't gonna change them not one little bit so if you don't like what you see RUN..... in the opposite direction.
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All I can say is, it is in your best interest to marry one who is as Christian as you, and not only puts Him first, but truly respects you and the two of you together (the relationship). Someone who truly loves you will not let other people influence them or you into anything that could be a problem. You must both be happy with the idea of submitting to each other in love, life and anything else.
I will add a phase that my grandparents had on a wall hanging they made. "Be kind and true, as I be unto you". this really says it all.
I will add a phase that my grandparents had on a wall hanging they made. "Be kind and true, as I be unto you". this really says it all.
I totally agree with your statement. My ex did something similar but somehow manipulated me to leave. It happened starting on the honeymoon. It was like, "Now I got her and she won't leave so I can be corrupt and evil" (most AMerican churches and pharisees). It was the most cunning disgusting thing on earth. He also turned the church against me, and they all believed him and basically exhiled me. I do not believe there are many believers in america. Most are false. It's a false Christianity. The biological brother in law and sister are the same way. And I was an 'orphan' my entire time living there. They try to use the name of the Lord to put real belivers down. I had to leave the country to see how bad this disease of American Christianity is (a legalisitc religion of arrogance). In the end they all will say, Lord did we not prophesy in your name. Now when I see the "Kirk Cameran, I have a perfect life you don't Christian" abroad, I stay the heck away from them and know their manipulative arrogant prideful tactics. The devil is the accuser of the brethern and who accused Jesus? THE PHARISEES = THE SYNAGOGUE LEADERS!!! I am a follower of the Lord, not an american christian.
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https://bible.org/seriespage/23-submission-christian-wife-ephesians-521-32 PLEASE read this! So many women get turned off from Christianity because of the word "submit" women and MEN need to read this...[FONT=Bitter, Georgia, Times New Roman, sans-serif]Of the 13 verses which constitute our text, only 3 1/2 verses are directed to the wives, while the remaining verses are directed toward the husband!!!! [/FONT]
[FONT=Bitter, Georgia, Times New Roman, sans-serif]I have only been married going on seven years in June. I have no idea what the Lord has in store for us as a married couple but I can tell you my husband cheated on me two years into the marriage. If you read some of my other blog post you can learn more detailes of that I wont clog up your post with them
My advice in my very few years and VERY hard struggling marriage is... put Christ at the center and DONT just say this act it out every day, every hour, every second! Read the five love languages its a great book even if your not married or dating so you can tell your husband HOW you need to be loved and figure out how you can love him. Also go to marriage retreats thats been a great blessing for me be around people who are working on there marriage it does not need to be broken to be improved..marriage is work you should be working on it all the time...get strong so you can deal with the hard times and LOVE the good times. I dont have many years under my belt but ive learned what DOES not work and a couple things that do. or have for us...and remember each marriage if different just like each person. [/FONT]
[FONT=Bitter, Georgia, Times New Roman, sans-serif]I have only been married going on seven years in June. I have no idea what the Lord has in store for us as a married couple but I can tell you my husband cheated on me two years into the marriage. If you read some of my other blog post you can learn more detailes of that I wont clog up your post with them
My advice in my very few years and VERY hard struggling marriage is... put Christ at the center and DONT just say this act it out every day, every hour, every second! Read the five love languages its a great book even if your not married or dating so you can tell your husband HOW you need to be loved and figure out how you can love him. Also go to marriage retreats thats been a great blessing for me be around people who are working on there marriage it does not need to be broken to be improved..marriage is work you should be working on it all the time...get strong so you can deal with the hard times and LOVE the good times. I dont have many years under my belt but ive learned what DOES not work and a couple things that do. or have for us...and remember each marriage if different just like each person. [/FONT]
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Marry someone who loves God more than they love you.
A long courtship (dating, engagement, whatever you like to call it, I'm not suggesting anything in particular, just a long period of getting to know the person, preferably More than 12 months!) helps to ensure that there are fewer surprises, like mental health issues that could crop up later!
Decide what you are going to stand your ground on and THEN talk about the big issues... BEFORE getting married. Some of these include who & how to handle finances, # of kids, timing of kids (though God has more say in this, lets be honest), child rearing issues (broad umbrella, I know), geographically acceptable places to live (ie, what happens if that job offer comes along but it is far from everyone yall know).
Regularly schedule in Couples Time... and make it happen. Getting away from the kids, the dog, the job, the housework, the Everything and devoting a little time to talking, listening, and doing some activity together keeps the marriage going. As part of that, Date Your Spouse. By going and doing New things once a month, it actually activates the part of the brain that made those cool chemicals that your brain enjoyed when the relationship was new. The newness really is (from a brain chemical standpoint) part of the fun of the relationship. Couples who do new activities together (trying a new restaurant, taking classes to learn new skills, anything outside of their normal routine) continue to experience that newness and stay married longer.
A long courtship (dating, engagement, whatever you like to call it, I'm not suggesting anything in particular, just a long period of getting to know the person, preferably More than 12 months!) helps to ensure that there are fewer surprises, like mental health issues that could crop up later!
Decide what you are going to stand your ground on and THEN talk about the big issues... BEFORE getting married. Some of these include who & how to handle finances, # of kids, timing of kids (though God has more say in this, lets be honest), child rearing issues (broad umbrella, I know), geographically acceptable places to live (ie, what happens if that job offer comes along but it is far from everyone yall know).
Regularly schedule in Couples Time... and make it happen. Getting away from the kids, the dog, the job, the housework, the Everything and devoting a little time to talking, listening, and doing some activity together keeps the marriage going. As part of that, Date Your Spouse. By going and doing New things once a month, it actually activates the part of the brain that made those cool chemicals that your brain enjoyed when the relationship was new. The newness really is (from a brain chemical standpoint) part of the fun of the relationship. Couples who do new activities together (trying a new restaurant, taking classes to learn new skills, anything outside of their normal routine) continue to experience that newness and stay married longer.
https://bible.org/seriespage/23-submission-christian-wife-ephesians-521-32 PLEASE read this! So many women get turned off from Christianity because of the word "submit" women and MEN need to read this...Of the 13 verses which constitute our text, only 3 1/2 verses are directed to the wives, while the remaining verses are directed toward the husband!!!!
I have only been married going on seven years in June. I have no idea what the Lord has in store for us as a married couple but I can tell you my husband cheated on me two years into the marriage. If you read some of my other blog post you can learn more detailes of that I wont clog up your post with them My advice in my very few years and VERY hard struggling marriage is... put Christ at the center and DONT just say this act it out every day, every hour, every second! Read the five love languages its a great book even if your not married or dating so you can tell your husband HOW you need to be loved and figure out how you can love him. Also go to marriage retreats thats been a great blessing for me be around people who are working on there marriage it does not need to be broken to be improved..marriage is work you should be working on it all the time...get strong so you can deal with the hard times and LOVE the good times. I dont have many years under my belt but ive learned what DOES not work and a couple things that do. or have for us...and remember each marriage if different just like each person.
I have only been married going on seven years in June. I have no idea what the Lord has in store for us as a married couple but I can tell you my husband cheated on me two years into the marriage. If you read some of my other blog post you can learn more detailes of that I wont clog up your post with them
My advice in my very few years and VERY hard struggling marriage is... put Christ at the center and DONT just say this act it out every day, every hour, every second! Read the five love languages its a great book even if your not married or dating so you can tell your husband HOW you need to be loved and figure out how you can love him. Also go to marriage retreats thats been a great blessing for me be around people who are working on there marriage it does not need to be broken to be improved..marriage is work you should be working on it all the time...get strong so you can deal with the hard times and LOVE the good times. I dont have many years under my belt but ive learned what DOES not work and a couple things that do. or have for us...and remember each marriage if different just like each person.