Tell us about your journey to "singledom"

[Raine]

How long have you been single?

Are you enjoying being single?

Is there any prayer or encouragement you'd like to receive here?

Are you currently praying that God leads you to the person you're meant for? Or are you enjoying this time to get closer to Him?

I've been single for 1 1/2 years now; feels like ages ago though... As if it never even happened.

I enjoy being single most of the time. . Except in winter, I need my cuddle buddy lol, jk.

Cant think of anything specific at this time. I have moments when I do long for a spouse but other times I'm glad I'm still single. In the end, I realize that marriage doesn't exist in heaven, so it really doesn't matter... But if it would glorify Him here on earth for me to have a spouse then that is good too. . I do think being single has taught me to rely on God alone and not others to fill this void in my heart.

 

[kayem77]

I've been single for 22 years and 4 months and counting! I know nothing better, so I guess I'm happy . I do want to be ''un-single'' one day though, when God wills it.

 

[Phillster]

It started at 1.0 where all good things tech and non-tech related begin. Fresh out of the belly of the beast, I was in time to have my hair dried and permed before the Sunday service in ward 16(I found this out later). There I joined the baby choir and sung falsetto. I quickly began to enjoy the freedom of the single life, but soon realised though, that the good path was a straight and narrow trail of carrots that mysteriously led to my cot(thanks mum). After that I quickly developed a taste for golden syrup sandwiches and yodelling.

Although I mingled at the daddy day care with other tots, I often explored my creative side, carving my initials in the paint work of my caregivers Ford GT40 replica. A few more years down the track, I put my newly honed talents to the test and produced a single titled "Ode to a Single Pringle" which was composed in diminished 4th chromatic semitones. After my Single hit top of the charts in the Maldives, the rest was history....

 

[IBDesmond]

You should be happy in your singleness. If you can't be secure in your singleness then you shouldn't even enter into a relationship. Relationships aren't about being a half and finding another half to complete you. It's about being whole on your own and finding someone that adds to you....

That being said, I'm am really struggling with being single. I've had so much time on my hands to contemplate how I would be in a relationship and I've thought long and hard about the functions and dynamics of a relationship to the point where I feel like I'm over thinking it now.
I find that it's very much a feminine mindset to believe that God has one perfect person laid out in his plan for our lives (no pun intended). What I mean is I find that it's mostly females who believe that and I find that us dudes (and don't worry if you don't fit in my theory) believe that there are many perfect people out there that God could match us perfectly with. I mean, if we don't get with who God has set for us, does that mean that our destiny is messed up and God won't be there with us in our marriage? I don't think so! What about if we choose to never marry/get into a relationship?
I do pray from time to time that God would comfort me in my singleness and I pray that the lady I will marry will someone he fully approves of and orchestrates into my life....after all....24 years single, I think I deserve it haha!


Now I know some people are particularly gifted in the certain areas of prayer. Like, I know some people pray for people to get jobs and those people get jobs straight up, some people pray for healing and it happens instantaneously, some people pray for peace and etc etc etc. So, firstly I want my finances in check so that I can afford a gf....so anyone with that favour with God, feel free to send a few prayers up to my paps for me. Any then people with that cupid-like favour with God, pray that Miss Right comes along in perfect timing.

Much appreciated!

 

[39Cross27]

How long have you been single?
I have been single for almost a year

Are you enjoying being single?
I enjoy things about being single like. I have more freedom to do what God has for me to do at the moment. I am not obligated or expected to make someone else happy. I don't like that I find myself looking at pretty girls which can come off as being rude. I don't like that I'm not available. (financially, spiritually, and emotionally.)

Is there any prayer or encouragement you'd like to receive here?
Just that the Lord's will be done. I do see myself meeting a woman who I believe that God has set apart for myself the same way Jesus is setting apart His church for Himself. Probably sooner than I think but not within the next year or possibly three. All in his timing. She's worth waiting for.

Are you currently praying that God leads you to the person you're meant for? Or are you enjoying this time to get closer to Him?
I don't pray that God leads me to my wife. I know this will happen in time. I do pray that He will protect her and I do talk to Him trying to figure out what she is like because until I know so much about her I will not recognize her.

 

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Question: "What does the Bible say about a Christian staying single?"

Answer: The question of a Christian staying single and what the Bible says about believers never marrying is often misunderstood. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:7-8: “I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.” Notice that he says some have the gift of singleness and some the gift of marriage. Although it seems that nearly everyone marries, it is not necessarily God's will for everyone. Paul, for example, did not have to worry about the extra problems and stresses that come with marriage and/or family. He devoted his entire life to spreading the Word of God. He would not have been such a useful messenger if he had been married.

On the other hand, some people do better as a team, serving God as a couple and a family. Both kinds of people are equally important. It is not a sin to remain single, even for your entire life. The most important thing in life is not finding a mate and having children, but serving God. We should educate ourselves on the Word of God by reading our Bibles and praying. If we ask God to reveal Himself to us, He will respond (Matthew 7:7), and if we ask Him to use us to fulfill His good works, He will do that as well. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2).

Singleness should not be viewed as a curse or an indication that there is “something wrong” with the single man or woman. While most people marry, and while the Bible seems to indicate that it is God’s will for most people to marry, a single Christian is in no sense a “second class” Christian. As 1 Corinthians 7 indicates, singleness is, if anything, a higher calling. As with everything else in life, we should ask God for wisdom (James 1:5) concerning marriage. Following God’s plan, whether that be marriage or singleness, will result in the productivity and joy that God desires for us.

Recommended Resources: Single Servings: 90 Devotions to Feed Your Soul by Lee Warren and Logos Bible Software.

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[gymnerd]

I have been single my whole life, except for a short time during middle school but I don't think that counts.

I don't know if I can honestly answer if I enjoy it or not since I haven't been in an actual relationship. But most of the time I do wish I had that special person to share my life with. Sometimes it makes me kind of depressed that I don't, but if I take an honest look at my self I am not ready for that. I am kind of selfish sometimes, I have trouble holding a conversation, and the path that I am currently going down makes it hard to be in a relationship.

I have never asked anyone to pray for me or anyone before so it feels kind of odd. I guess if anyone does feel like including me in their prayers than having better social skills would help me a lot.

I'm not currently praying that God leads me to the person that I am meant for because I know I have to work on the things listed above first. If I were to meet that person now I am sure I would blow it big time. So I just need to work on becoming a stronger individual and having a stronger relationship with God first and everything else will fall into place.

 

[secularhermit]

To post #1:

Too weeks single? At your age that´s not a big term of time, yet it´s a beginning to go somewhere.

 

[secularhermit]

I've been single for 1 1/2 years now; feels like ages ago though... As if it never even happened.

I enjoy being single most of the time. . Except in winter, I need my cuddle buddy lol, jk.

Cant think of anything specific at this time. I have moments when I do long for a spouse but other times I'm glad I'm still single. In the end, I realize that marriage doesn't exist in heaven, so it really doesn't matter... But if it would glorify Him here on earth for me to have a spouse then that is good too. . I do think being single has taught me to rely on God alone and not others to fill this void in my heart.

An idea! just serve yourself:


https://www.google.es/url?sa=i&rct=...ZnOCq81ev1ruI2T6Fw8P--hg&ust=1418956396397505

 

[Chopper]

Been single since 2001, and suffered severe depression after that, but recovered, and learned to live single.
I good with being single, but having someone to share with all the time would be much better.

 

[hannahbeth1124]

It started at 1.0 where all good things tech and non-tech related begin. Fresh out of the belly of the beast, I was in time to have my hair dried and permed before the Sunday service in ward 16(I found this out later). There I joined the baby choir and sung falsetto. I quickly began to enjoy the freedom of the single life, but soon realised though, that the good path was a straight and narrow trail of carrots that mysteriously led to my cot(thanks mum). After that I quickly developed a taste for golden syrup sandwiches and yodelling.

Although I mingled at the daddy day care with other tots, I often explored my creative side, carving my initials in the paint work of my caregivers Ford GT40 replica. A few more years down the track, I put my newly honed talents to the test and produced a single titled "Ode to a Single Pringle" which was composed in diminished 4th chromatic semitones. After my Single hit top of the charts in the Maldives, the rest was history....

This was perfect. lol

 

[hannahbeth1124]

Been single since 2001, and suffered severe depression after that, but recovered, and learned to live single.
I good with being single, but having someone to share with all the time would be much better.

Aw I'm sure there will be someone out there for you. The closer you get to Him, the more you see things in people you might not have seen before, and the more you shine to those people. God knows the desires of your heart, brother. I'll be praying for you.

 

[Chopper]

Aw I'm sure there will be someone out there for you. The closer you get to Him, the more you see things in people you might not have seen before, and the more you shine to those people. God knows the desires of your heart, brother. I'll be praying for you.

Thanks, I'm good with it either way. As was stated before, easier in some ways being single, in other ways perhaps not.

 

[letstalkaboutjesus]

How long have you been single?
Ive been single for 7 years.

Are you enjoying being single?
I like being single. I prefer to have friends because they stick around longer.

Are you currently praying that God leads you to the person you're meant for?
Nope. I already have what I need.

Or are you enjoying this time to get closer to Him?
Yes I am. I have so much free time to learn about God.

 

[ServantStrike]

So this thread got bumped, and some of you all have actually broken my record.

9 years here

 

[sammybots29]

I have been single now for 2 years.

Do i enjoy it? Well I am not coping so well with the single life but I have to deal with it and lean on Him to fill that void.

Prayer for encouragement? Yes please to stay strong and to grow spiritually so that I may learn to satisfy myself on his love alone.

Prayer to lead me to that person? Yes everyday!

 

[AgnusDei]

Yes, I am praying for my wife, but I am not pressing God to bring her to me when I want. I have a goal to pursue. A fate to be lived.

Been single all my life and discovering new things everyday.

I have the unbreakable determination to glorify God in my natal country, Venezuela.
I have so many projects for this nation that I need to be alone with God to perform it.

I will travel to Scotland, New Zealand, and all Scandinavia this 2015-2016 to learn and make a plan to take the airports of Venezuela for God. I am reading books and making schemes to make this dream come true. I am building little by little an Spanish Online School that will have its Headquarters in the Venezuelan cities of Caracas, Barquisimeto and Valencia.

So, yes. for all these projects I think I still need to be alone. The issue is, I have talked to many women, and most of them here in Venezuela dream of a kind of man I am not: popular, with tons of money, from overseas, etc.

I cannot waste my time hanging out with such girls, because less that 1 per cent of them have a real goal for God. MANY of them wants to leave the country for a "better life" in another nation and I would like to be with someone that wants to stay here and to struggle together to bring God's glory to this nation.

 

[wisebeardman]

How long have you been single?

Are you enjoying being single?

Is there any prayer or encouragement you'd like to receive here?

Are you currently praying that God leads you to the person you're meant for?

32 years
no
no
and no

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Yes, I am praying for my wife, but I am not pressing God to bring her to me when I want. I have a goal to pursue. A fate to be lived.

Been single all my life and discovering new things everyday.

I have the unbreakable determination to glorify God in my natal country, Venezuela.
I have so many projects for this nation that I need to be alone with God to perform it.

I will travel to Scotland, New Zealand, and all Scandinavia this 2015-2016 to learn and make a plan to take the airports of Venezuela for God. I am reading books and making schemes to make this dream come true. I am building little by little an Spanish Online School that will have its Headquarters in the Venezuelan cities of Caracas, Barquisimeto and Valencia.

So, yes. for all these projects I think I still need to be alone. The issue is, I have talked to many women, and most of them here in Venezuela dream of a kind of man I am not: popular, with tons of money, from overseas, etc.

I cannot waste my time hanging out with such girls, because less that 1 per cent of them have a real goal for God. MANY of them wants to leave the country for a "better life" in another nation and I would like to be with someone that wants to stay here and to struggle together to bring God's glory to this nation.

Agnus!! Good to see you!

 

[secularhermit]

Yes, I am praying for my wife, but I am not pressing God to bring her to me when I want. I have a goal to pursue. A fate to be lived.

Been single all my life and discovering new things everyday.

I have the unbreakable determination to glorify God in my natal country, Venezuela.
I have so many projects for this nation that I need to be alone with God to perform it.

I will travel to Scotland, New Zealand, and all Scandinavia this 2015-2016 to learn and make a plan to take the airports of Venezuela for God. I am reading books and making schemes to make this dream come true. I am building little by little an Spanish Online School that will have its Headquarters in the Venezuelan cities of Caracas, Barquisimeto and Valencia.

So, yes. for all these projects I think I still need to be alone. The issue is, I have talked to many women, and most of them here in Venezuela dream of a kind of man I am not: popular, with tons of money, from overseas, etc.

I cannot waste my time hanging out with such girls, because less that 1 per cent of them have a real goal for God. MANY of them wants to leave the country for a "better life" in another nation and I would like to be with someone that wants to stay here and to struggle together to bring God's glory to this nation.

I wish I could welcome you to that club I knew your age. I saw the same in Colombia and in Cuba and, by using the internet, I knew the dream was widespread. ("The issue is, I have talked to many women, and most of them here in Venezuela dream of a kind of man I am not: popular, with tons of money, from overseas, etc.")