What IS a "bad boy"?

[LionEyes]

Has any man NOT done that with a can of hair spray as a boy?

Not just men. I did that a few times too, lol.

 

[thecreationtutor]

Hmm. A solid Bible Gal, who is veracious in Scripture, knows and acts upon God's word, isn't afraid to encourage, exhort, rebuke. doesn't care for games, will follow my lead, but has amazing wisdom in the Holy Spirit.

 

[thecreationtutor]

This is very insightful. Bad girls always tell the brutal truth, and bad boys never do. Hmmm. I may have to do some thinking about this one. So far in my experience, this rings true.

Actually I find, that most girls, can't take truth, they say they can, but really cannot - and if you tell most this statement, then they will think bad of you - part of the games is it?

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Actually I find, that most girls, can't take truth, they say they can, but really cannot - and if you tell most this statement, then they will think bad of you - part of the games is it?

If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. -C.S. Lewis

It's a work in progress...

 

[zeroturbulence]

 

[agirlandherguitar]

I believe a "bad boy" cheats on you with other women, is verbally or physically abusive, disrespectful of you and your social circle, hates your family, has anger issues, is selfish and does not believe in God. Same goes for the "bad girl" I guess.

I am stubborn, argumentative and brutally honest to the point of being insensitive. Does that make me a "bad girl"? Maybe only on my worst days! Most of the time I try to play nice.

 

[thecreationtutor]

If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. -C.S. Lewis

It's a work in progress...

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I am waiting patiently in hope for a good response, I am confident you can give Grace

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

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I am waiting patiently in hope for a good response, I am confident you can give Grace

Could you repeat the question? I want to give a good response too. I got a little lost somewhere!

 

[tourist]

"Bad boy" is a term that has been thrown around so often that it's nearly lost all meaning. In real life, it's usually the self-proclaimed "nice guys" who accuse other men of being "bad boys". They hurl these accusations for no other reason than because the "bad boy" in question is dating a woman the "nice guy" fancies. If the "bad boy" is genuinely bad, meaning criminal or at least immoral, it seems that those types of guys typically attract women who are also immoral. The women I know who have dated criminal types were also prone to criminal activity.

In fiction, the romanticized "bad boy" seems to be a Byronic Hero who usually had a tragic past, has internal conflicts as a result of aforesaid tragic past, and can be redeemed by True Love. I think the main appeal of "bad boys" in fiction is their emotional vulnerability. If an otherwise confident and strong man is vulnerable in some fashion, a female character can feel needed by protecting him. The female character can play an important role in his life and not be deemed a mere trophy wife.

I think that you just nailed it.

 

[thecreationtutor]

Could you repeat the question? I want to give a good response too. I got a little lost somewhere!

Actually I find, that most girls, can't take truth, they say they can, but really cannot - and if you tell most this statement, then they will think bad of you - part of the games is it?

I would add to this, I am still hoping their is one out there - who knows what the Lord will do

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Actually I find, that most girls, can't take truth, they say they can, but really cannot - and if you tell most this statement, then they will think bad of you - part of the games is it?

I would add to this, I am still hoping their is one out there - who knows what the Lord will do

I don't know that this is part of "game playing" so much as someone thinking they can handle the truth when perhaps they struggle more with it than they would have expected.

But it all depends on what "truth" you speak of. The truth that a dress looks terrible on them, or the truth that their husband is seeing another woman, or the truth that they are actually quite wrong in the argument you are having?

My husband kept his affair from me for 6 months, and when I did find out, I couldn't believe he'd lied about it for so long. When questioned, he said "Why do you want to know these things that will only hurt you?". He actually felt justified in lying to me so that I wouldn't be hurt. This is what I'm thinking of when I quoted CS Lewis about finding only despair when you seek only comfort. I'd rather seek TRUTH, take that bitter pill, and go on with life. Am I strong enough to handle it? Well, I'm still standing, praise the Lord.

If you mean more frivolous things like how her hair looks or what you are REALLY thinking when you shut your mouth tight during an argument... every woman handles those things differently. My comment referred more to "big" lies that really matter.

For example: In my post that you quoted about bad boys never telling the truth, I was thinking of my ex I'm afraid, who found it easier to lie and pretend everything was great, than deal with issues that could have been easily corrected had they been brought out in the open.

 

[AbbeyJoy]

What ya going to do do when the cops go for you "bad boys bad boys" lol sorry had this song in my head when I saw this xD

 

[thecreationtutor]

I don't know that this is part of "game playing" so much as someone thinking they can handle the truth when perhaps they struggle more with it than they would have expected.

But it all depends on what "truth" you speak of. The truth that a dress looks terrible on them, or the truth that their husband is seeing another woman, or the truth that they are actually quite wrong in the argument you are having?

My husband kept his affair from me for 6 months, and when I did find out, I couldn't believe he'd lied about it for so long. When questioned, he said "Why do you want to know these things that will only hurt you?". He actually felt justified in lying to me so that I wouldn't be hurt. This is what I'm thinking of when I quoted CS Lewis about finding only despair when you seek only comfort. I'd rather seek TRUTH, take that bitter pill, and go on with life. Am I strong enough to handle it? Well, I'm still standing, praise the Lord.

If you mean more frivolous things like how her hair looks or what you are REALLY thinking when you shut your mouth tight during an argument... every woman handles those things differently. My comment referred more to "big" lies that really matter.

For example: In my post that you quoted about bad boys never telling the truth, I was thinking of my ex I'm afraid, who found it easier to lie and pretend everything was great, than deal with issues that could have been easily corrected had they been brought out in the open.

I think it's really sad to pretend it was for your good, I am sorry these things happened to you and your girls. I am however Joyful to see what God has done in your life through these things - it is a blessing

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I think it's really sad to pretend it was for your good, I am sorry these things happened to you and your girls. I am however Joyful to see what God has done in your life through these things - it is a blessing

Thank you. I count it all as loss for the sake of knowing Christ and HIS faithfulness. I didn't mean to get onto that subject though, sorry - I just wanted to give insight as to what I meant by not being truthful. I hope it helped.

 

[jeremyPJ]

This is very insightful. Bad girls always tell the brutal truth, and bad boys never do. Hmmm. I may have to do some thinking about this one. So far in my experience, this rings true.

Some bad girls keep very silent, just like bad boys. I was married to a bad girl like that. Quiet, and denied everything. Even if I stood right there and watched it happen.

 

[Roh_Chris]

There are two versions of a "BAD BOY".

1) The kind who drives a Harley, wears leather jackets & boots and has a bunch of tatts on his arms. Dating a man of this kind is completely an individual preference. As long as he is in Christ, he is free to retain his identity.

2) This is the "player". The one who is "here today, gone tomorrow". He loves the chase but not the kill. They not only womanise, but they take pride in it. Some of them even keep scores! Date him at your own peril.


Similarly, there are two versions of a "BAD GIRL".

1) The girl who is positively independent, outgoing and career-focussed. She speaks out her mind but also knows how to respectfully disagree. She can be submissive in some matters, and authoritative otherwise. She can be a leader and a follower. She can play the part of a loving wife at home and a high-performing employee at work. As long as she has her identity in Christ, she can be the way she is. Personally, I like this kind of a "BAD GIRL".

2) This kind loves to use her body for getting the men's attention. (I am not talking of physical beauty here.) It is preferable to avoid her.


I understand that it is not easy for someone who is attracted to the second type of men/women. Some love to "tame" the untamed and keep them as a prized trophy. It is a risk that they are taking and they alone are responsible for the consequences of their choices.

 

[Arlene89]

What is a "bad boy"?

... a male person who doesn't share their bacon with me.

The end.



(Sorry guys, little sleep, body clock woke me up at 4:15am)

 

[Lynx]

You can have the bacon, but the chocolate is MINE!