My one big personal beef is when people complain about this, that, or the other, but sit on their duff and do NOTHING to make any contribution. That's one of my biggest pet peeves both here and in real life.
I just feel that if a person has a complaint, they should start doing something about it themselves.
I very rarely see the people with the most negative feedback ever trying do to something positive about it except criticize, which I guess they somehow think is going to "help", and then they wonder why all the threads are the same or no one wants to try posting new threads.
I remember Cristen saying that someone criticized her for writing threads and many of us suggested that person should then start writing their own. I don't think they ever did, which was completely unfair. I don't mind constructive feedback for myself or anyone else, but please, if you're not going to do your part in the work to make it better, why bother saying anything?
Writing a thread or trying a new idea here is often like jumping off a cliff with a lot of "helpful" shoves when no one is supportive of the idea or has nothing to offer by jabs. No wonder some people are probably afraid to post here. I'm really hoping that will change though.
I hold back from writing more threads/posts because I don't want people to be like, "Oh great, there's Seoulsearch... AGAIN!!" which is why I've been trying to write shorter, more upbeat posts. But Cristen is absolutely right--if only a handful of people are willing to say anything, what more can we expect?
Nothing makes me happier here than to see a wide spectrum of respectful posts from a VARIETY of different users. We don't have to agree--that's part of what helps us all learn--but we can disagree in a peaceful manner.
I just feel that if a person has a complaint, they should start doing something about it themselves.
I very rarely see the people with the most negative feedback ever trying do to something positive about it except criticize, which I guess they somehow think is going to "help", and then they wonder why all the threads are the same or no one wants to try posting new threads.
I remember Cristen saying that someone criticized her for writing threads and many of us suggested that person should then start writing their own. I don't think they ever did, which was completely unfair. I don't mind constructive feedback for myself or anyone else, but please, if you're not going to do your part in the work to make it better, why bother saying anything?
Writing a thread or trying a new idea here is often like jumping off a cliff with a lot of "helpful" shoves when no one is supportive of the idea or has nothing to offer by jabs. No wonder some people are probably afraid to post here. I'm really hoping that will change though.
I hold back from writing more threads/posts because I don't want people to be like, "Oh great, there's Seoulsearch... AGAIN!!" which is why I've been trying to write shorter, more upbeat posts. But Cristen is absolutely right--if only a handful of people are willing to say anything, what more can we expect?
Nothing makes me happier here than to see a wide spectrum of respectful posts from a VARIETY of different users. We don't have to agree--that's part of what helps us all learn--but we can disagree in a peaceful manner.
