Being Single Doesn't Mean That You Are ALONE

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Being single only means that one has not met the love of his or her life. Some people NEVER meet the love of his or her life, especially these days. It doesn't matter if you are physically attractive, beautiful or even gorgeous. It doesn't matter if you are highly intelligent or very wise. It doesn't matter if you are extremely talented. It doesn't matter if you are highly educated, debt free, have your own home, or are financially responsible. Still you may NEVER meet the love of your life. So why not put Jesus first? We can't manufacture love, it is either you love someone or you don't. Most people settle in life; therefore, marriages in a "settling case" generally ends in divorce. A lot of people are together because he or she can tolerate the other person's lifestyle or behaviors; however, this isn't love and can end in a mutual disrespect for one another. People get bored with one another or just simply don't like the behaviors of another individual. I have found that if you just focus on yourself and your OWN walk with God, a person WILL realize that none of the semantics matter. But what does matter is how a person can get closer to God. A partner, significant other, or even a husband and wife WILL let you down at some point but God CAN NEVER let us down. He has promised to NEVER leave us or forsake us. Sometimes when people forsake us, it is because God allowed it to be, to make us understand that nobody is perfect except for him. Ultimately when we die, we die alone ..meaning it is just God and the individual. So remember when you are single that you are not alone. God is just a whisper away.

May God Bless each Christian who is single, in a relationship (good or bad), or just struggling. God cares, do you care?
 
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We often encourage people here to focus less on finding a mate and more on their faith. It's a pretty common theme here.
 
secularhermit

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Yes! It´s like saying "put your attention here and not there", possibly bypassing something that worth some attention, corrective attention, by the way.

As you probably have seen, people may say "I will concentrate on making money" or "I will build a new house for me (as long as that mate would come)" and everything done has its value, a use, and these may serve to make life better, even in the "togetherness" of loniless.
 
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For the most part, I believe that being single, for whatever reason, is a choice. This is true for whatever type of relationship you may be in. God is indeed close, even a whisper but cannot be physically grasped, so He made certain provisions to alleviate loneliness and to provide purpose and structure to life.
 
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Why is your screen name ugly?
 
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"Ultimately when we die, we die alone"

I hope I find a pìcture I´ve seen in Italy neglecting that and, when my two grandma were dying, I was close to them.
 
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I like your response ...(secular hermit). I believe where we error is when we say we will build that home, or get that education or become a better person only 'if' we receive that 'perfect' spouse.
 
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Tourist, thank you for responding. But are we taking God's permissive will or perfect will?
 
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That is funny (ugly). lol
 
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Laughsalot said:
Tourist, thank you for responding. But are we taking God's permissive will or perfect will?
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I don't believe that God commands anyone to enter into a relationship. To answer your question I would say that entering into a relationship falls under God's permissive will. You may pray for God to search and find someone to be your prospective mate but you still have to decide for yourself if it is worth the risk of potential heartbreak and damage to your well-being. Pray for wisdom and discernment as well and at the right time and place may you chose wisely and step out boldly in faith.
 
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Laughsalot said:
I like your response ...(secular hermit). I believe where we error is when we say we will build that home, or get that education or become a better person only 'if' we receive that 'perfect' spouse.
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Some put it as a condition, but I tried to mention those who possitively worked to help it happened, by making it (not as a condition) because certan things are a pre-requisite and also a need.
 
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tourist said:
I don't believe that God commands anyone to enter into a relationship. To answer your question I would say that entering into a relationship falls under God's permissive will. You may pray for God to search and find someone to be your prospective mate but you still have to decide for yourself if it is worth the risk of potential heartbreak and damage to your well-being. Pray for wisdom and discernment as well and at the right time and place may you chose wisely and step out boldly in faith.
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Isn´t viewed as a command? That´s good, because love relationships are a pleasure (sometimes).

Each time I see Him saying "love..." it´s easier when I see the oposite sex, as complementary (and wonderful).

Yes, you can love people without a relationship, a connection or bond (that´s the easiest way) but the command is to love the enemy (a thing I don´t want) and the relationship he meant is shown with these:

"Give them food or water..." Prov_25:21

"Put the other cheek..." Mat 5:39

"go another mile with them..." Mat 5:41

Any of these: Luk_6:27, Mat 5:44

Permissive? The complementary, the one that is also welcomed same way pagans do (Mat_5:47)
 
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Surprisingly I do not feel lonely at the present time, but I still want my soulmate. I guess it's kinda like saying I'm not hungry, but I still want chocolate. I have had times in my life that I felt lonely, and I fear having that happen again before I can be with my soulmate. I'm content, but I much prefer spectacular over just ok. I'm happy, but I'd be much happier with him. (sigh) lol

To me there's a difference between feeling lonely and feeling alone. I felt alone my whole life because of not being raised and having to fend for myself. I guess i view alone as needing others on the outside, but that lonely is needing others on the inside. I do have people in my heart, but i can survive on just God emotionally.
 
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im tired of being single i want woman to marry
 
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There's a hope inside me that one day I'll find my ine true love.
 
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Laughsalot said:
Being single only means that one has not met the love of his or her life. Some people NEVER meet the love of his or her life, especially these days. It doesn't matter if you are physically attractive, beautiful or even gorgeous. It doesn't matter if you are highly intelligent or very wise. It doesn't matter if you are extremely talented. It doesn't matter if you are highly educated, debt free, have your own home, or are financially responsible. Still you may NEVER meet the love of your life. So why not put Jesus first? We can't manufacture love, it is either you love someone or you don't. Most people settle in life; therefore, marriages in a "settling case" generally ends in divorce. A lot of people are together because he or she can tolerate the other person's lifestyle or behaviors; however, this isn't love and can end in a mutual disrespect for one another. People get bored with one another or just simply don't like the behaviors of another individual. I have found that if you just focus on yourself and your OWN walk with God, a person WILL realize that none of the semantics matter. But what does matter is how a person can get closer to God. A partner, significant other, or even a husband and wife WILL let you down at some point but God CAN NEVER let us down. He has promised to NEVER leave us or forsake us. Sometimes when people forsake us, it is because God allowed it to be, to make us understand that nobody is perfect except for him. Ultimately when we die, we die alone ..meaning it is just God and the individual. So remember when you are single that you are not alone. God is just a whisper away.

May God Bless each Christian who is single, in a relationship (good or bad), or just struggling. God cares, do you care?
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Well, I won´t use the cliché "God loves me" to back me up on where I know my things being real but, I´d like to share something I felt last week, when I was going home in the subway:

I saw a child steping in the wagon I was in. He walked playing with a yoyo. he wasn´t good at it, but he was so concentrated on it that he anrely motioned with his hand to invite his dad and brother to come in, following him. I quickly saw he was special 8much more than me) and he sad close to my right hand, other seat next me. I started to think of what I saw... Once in a while I looked at him, to see what he was doing, with decency. After few more stops, these three left and I barely could see his hair, his manners and I was shocked by the deep love I felt. I was as if I saw part of me hidden (or exposed) in him, that I wanted to take a picture of what i felt and saw (and it is this I write) because I never felt a love like this: He is not ashame of him. I saw he felt loved by those who walked with him, and he enjoys whatever thing he was doing those few minutes I would have like to address him a word to say: "Hello!" or "What´s your name?".

Here, on this screen, I see his face, it´s not me, but it is a simple and humble child we do not know his name, and he is happy for being the one he is.

I never felt a love like this. :eek:
 
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