This may be an over analytical spew session, but I am interested in hearing what others think. Been thinking about the idea of God’s guidance and how we can be certain (or at least certain enough to stick with it through the times when it isn’t easy). A couple situations in my life have me questioning a lot of what I thought was God at the time but now I’m not so sure. I’ll talk about them in more detail as illustrations, but I’m a big picture thinker and not really looking so much for advice on my situations as I am the overarching principle and thoughts that I can apply to knowing what God wants me to do (and yes I already know it has to line up with what God has revealed in the Bible, you don’t need to say that).
Example 1: I met a guy at church and after some prayer on my part, I thought God wanted me to be his friend. We had a lot in common in terms of how we process the world and talk about things, but very little in common in terms of values and lifestyle. Bottom line he’s a mess (possible mental illness, drug and alcohol use, sleeping around, rejection issues, etc.), but early in our acquaintance I really felt like God said he needed a friend that would see the good in him and stick by him no matter what and that that was what God wanted me to do. He moved back to the US a year ago but still writes occasionally and kind of emotionally dumps on me. And I wonder, did I hear God right about sticking by him or was that my own loneliness speaking because I was desperate for a good friend? Should I keep sticking by him and letting him emotionally dump on me or should I try to subtly extricate myself from the friendship through silence? ( I simply do not and don’t think I ever would have the heart to tell him to get lost because he’s too messed up for me to keep being his friend even if that were the truth)
Example 2: Watched a very good video last year that called into question whether a lot of my Holy Spirit experiences over the past decade and a half or so have truly been the Holy Spirit or if they have a different spiritual source (see my first blog post for more details). So yeah if every way I’ve ever been taught to hear God and receive guidance came from people who are now suspect of being under the influence of an unholy spirit, how can I know much of anything? Yet without the experience (can’t say without the Holy Spirit because I don’t intend to live without the Holy Spirit) everything seems so dry and abstract and faith doesn’t seem real life and practical but more pie in the sky wishful thinking.
So how do you (you specifically not the generic you meaning anyone) determine how God is guiding you in the difficult situations where there is no clear cut answer in Scripture? Do you have any checks in place to make sure that your “guidance” isn’t just you trying to justify what you want to do?
Example 1: I met a guy at church and after some prayer on my part, I thought God wanted me to be his friend. We had a lot in common in terms of how we process the world and talk about things, but very little in common in terms of values and lifestyle. Bottom line he’s a mess (possible mental illness, drug and alcohol use, sleeping around, rejection issues, etc.), but early in our acquaintance I really felt like God said he needed a friend that would see the good in him and stick by him no matter what and that that was what God wanted me to do. He moved back to the US a year ago but still writes occasionally and kind of emotionally dumps on me. And I wonder, did I hear God right about sticking by him or was that my own loneliness speaking because I was desperate for a good friend? Should I keep sticking by him and letting him emotionally dump on me or should I try to subtly extricate myself from the friendship through silence? ( I simply do not and don’t think I ever would have the heart to tell him to get lost because he’s too messed up for me to keep being his friend even if that were the truth)
Example 2: Watched a very good video last year that called into question whether a lot of my Holy Spirit experiences over the past decade and a half or so have truly been the Holy Spirit or if they have a different spiritual source (see my first blog post for more details). So yeah if every way I’ve ever been taught to hear God and receive guidance came from people who are now suspect of being under the influence of an unholy spirit, how can I know much of anything? Yet without the experience (can’t say without the Holy Spirit because I don’t intend to live without the Holy Spirit) everything seems so dry and abstract and faith doesn’t seem real life and practical but more pie in the sky wishful thinking.
So how do you (you specifically not the generic you meaning anyone) determine how God is guiding you in the difficult situations where there is no clear cut answer in Scripture? Do you have any checks in place to make sure that your “guidance” isn’t just you trying to justify what you want to do?