Need some advice where to find a girl

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Iamblessed

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Hello cc and God bless everyone
I am a 23(24 in july) male and I'm still single.Girls like me thats not the problem. Heck on cm people that lived 2000 mies away flirted with me:D But no seriously i can't think of a "real" place so to say to find the one. Do you guys(or girls) have any suggestions?
Love,
Iamblessed
 
Iamblessed said:
Hello cc and God bless everyone
I am a 23(24 in july) male and I'm still single.Girls like me thats not the problem. Heck on cm people that lived 2000 mies away flirted with me:D But no seriously i can't think of a "real" place so to say to find the one. Do you guys(or girls) have any suggestions?
Love,
Iamblessed
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What do you want in a girl? What is most important to you?
 
This made me laugh really. You make it sound as if your over the hill. Brother... I was 24 before I even really started to date... anyone... other than a movie or something. My suggestion..honestly, wait. I would seek God on it and ask Him to guide you to the girl or woman that He has for you.
 
Maybe church?
Pray to the Lord that you want to find your future wife and that you would like to be ready. Let him prepare you into the husband your wife will need. Really listen and read the word. Marriage is tough and a lot of work. Make sure you are ready for that :) God bless.
 
find the biggest churches in ur area and visit a different one every weekend.
 
School/college, parks, malls, churches, bookstores, performance theatres, jazz clubs, cafés, libraries, at work, internet, town fairs, bars, volunteering, gaming, comedy gigs, the beach, conventions, community outreach, music stores, cinemas, bowling alleys, ice skating, tennis.

Plus dragways and race events if you're lucky.
 
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Here's some sound advice, stop looking. It'll save a lot of effort, time and heart ache. :)
You know how you find something when your not looking, it's like that!
 
get a really cute puppy, go to the grocery store and leave your window open and then wait. puppys are like lady magnets. anywhere you stop and see a cute lady working, remember that location. when i was in my 20s i would get like 4 dollars worth of gas at 20 different places that had pretty girls.
 
breno785au said:
Here's some sound advice, stop looking. It'll save a lot of effort, time and heart ache. :)
You know how you find something when your not looking, it's like that!
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This. Most people who are actively seeking fall into either a) can't find anyone and get depressed or b) blow through a lot of relationships and get hurt a lot.
Why not try praying? Pray first that God will teach you and grow you into the kind of man who wil know how to be a proper mate to someone. Most people date to seek out a spouse. Go learn what it means to be a husband and don't presume you now it all already. You don't. I grew up with my parents having a good marriage, so i thought i knew it all. Wasn't until my 30s i began realizing there was a lot i didn't understand.
Focus mostly, though, on your walk with God and living your life as it is. Single. Otherwise you get so caught up in seeking someone your mind gets so consumed you can't be happy without someone. And then you begin getting bitter towards God. Even though the very fact you're getting bitter at God for not getting what you want will show that you aren't ready.

And churches? I hate when people suggest going to other churches. Churches are not singles mixers and if you go to a church with the intent on meeting someone then you are misusing what church should be about by placing your wants and goals ahead of God by using His time for your gain.

I know of a woman who was in her late 30s before she met her husband. She refused to date anyone. She had a lot of hard nights where she was tempted to go on dates or struggle with how she felt being single, but she remained steadfast. In the end, when Gods timing was ready, she met a man in her own church. Someone she'd never paid attention to before for years. She was convinced there was no one in her church to marry, but God kept them apart for a reason and revealed each other when the time was Right. Both were virgins who had never dated. Similar ages. And clicked immediately.
 
Volunteer, doing something that interests you. Not only will you meet lots of people, but you will meet lots of people with similar interests to yours.
 
Malls, shoe stores, Starbucks, WalMart, NASCAR races, ballet classes, knitting classes, square dancing, theme parks, museums, movie theaters, laser tag arenas, at stop lights, etc.
 
If you're looking for a real girl, I agree with what has been said before. Stop looking. Just really be concerned about getting to someone for themselves, and then let a relationship flourish after that.

Just want a hottie? Go to the bars if you're content with that.
 
breno785au said:
Here's some sound advice, stop looking. It'll save a lot of effort, time and heart ache. :)
You know how you find something when your not looking, it's like that!
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I agree with breno,stop looking and let god find a really great girl for you,it takes a long time,but it's better to wait then to rush it.
 
I should reiterate. Just because you find a girl at a bar doesn't mean you just want a hottie. I just wouldn't pick up guys at bars personally.
 
nobody mentions libraries. pff. kids these days. . . ;)

no really, breno hit nail on head. stop looking. the only thing you'll find when you're looking for a girl under every rock are the kinds of girls who hang out under rocks.

you want a wife who loves the things you love? go do the things you love. she'll be doing the same thing.
 
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