Quite lonely

SoulWeaver · Jan 17, 2015

tourist, reading the OP almost gave me a heart attack until I looked at the date and analyzed the sentence.
I thought something happened to Darlene. I can be a real dummy when I read stuff after work.
(whew... takes a glass of water)
Edit... glad that God did what He did, is is more joyful to journey on together.

JesusLives · Jan 18, 2015

SoulWeaver said:

You almost gave me a heart attack thought I was a gonner there for a moment.... In all seriousness tourist was quite heart broken when he first joined CC and it was the lonely guy that touched my heart and made me respond in the first place. It has been a great year for both of us to watch God orchestrate two hearts becoming one. We both pray that this will last for a long time and that we can serve God together bringing Him the honor and glory. Thanks for your concern by the way.

tourist · Jan 18, 2015

SoulWeaver said:

I promise to take very good care of my darling Darlene.

butterfly712 · Jan 18, 2015

tourist said:

I'm so sorry,may she be looking down on you and watching you from heaven every day, and keeping you safe,Amen,and god bless you.

OzDavo34 · Jan 19, 2015

G'day & welcome

Sad to hear of your lose praying for you both

Stay strong

God bless

JesusLives · Jan 27, 2015

I'll Fly Away

I'll fly away, oh glory, I'll fly away
When I die, hallelujah by and by, I'll fly away

Some bright morning when this life is over, I'll fly away
To a land on God's celestial shore, I'll fly away

When the shadows of this life have grown, I'll fly away
Like a bird from these prison walls, I'll fly away

I'll fly away, oh glory, I'll fly away
When I die, hallelujah by and by, I'll fly away

Oh how glad and happy when we meet, I'll fly away
No more cold iron shackles on my feet, I'll fly away

I'll fly away, oh glory, I'll fly away
When I die, hallelujah by and by, I'll fly away

Just a few more weary days and then, I'll fly away
To a land where joy will never end, I'll fly away

Tintin · Jan 27, 2015

Hmm.......

GandalfTheWhite · Jan 27, 2015

Tintin said:

My thought exactly...

tourist · Jan 27, 2015

GandalfTheWhite said:

Perhaps we are thinking along the same lines.

JesusLives · Feb 18, 2015

I am not lonely any more God gave me a Valentine for the rest of my life.

Tintin · Feb 18, 2015

Yes, you know I'm happy for you two, but can you both please not go on about each other all of the time? Thank you.

stabbo · Feb 18, 2015

tourist said:

You will always have your memories of her, they can never die.

JesusLives · Feb 18, 2015

Tintin said:

Don't want to hurt your feelings but probably not going to change the way I feel or who I am.

Tintin · Feb 18, 2015

JesusLives said:

My sister, I don't want you to change who you are or how you feel about each other, I just want you two to consider others a little more. It can hurt. Bless you.

JesusLives · Feb 18, 2015

Tintin said:

Hugs for you my friend.....I try and show love to more than just tourist. You will be o.k. there are many who care about you.

cinder · Feb 18, 2015

Tintin said:

Tintin is right and I'm not going to be as nice about it. Seriously, you live in the same house, right? Do you two talk in person? Why do you keep flirting with each other on CC? You're there to do it in person, and it is nauseating for the rest of us to read. And while we wish you all the happiness in the world, we really don't care about the day to day details and expressions of it. Also it is nothing short of annoying to find that one of you has resurrected a bunch of tourist's old threads and filled up the front page of CC singles with them, please stop. It's hard enough to get good threads going with a good discussion as it is, bumping them off the first page doesn't help.

While I wish you well and hope things work out and you continue to enjoy each other as a blessing from God, you haven't known each other long enough to get out of the infatuation phase of a relationship. I won't be crediting your relationship as an awesome work of God until it has lasted for a few years, until you've gotten beyond the initial emotion of oh wow someone there so I don't feel so lonely. So far what I've seen (and that's only been the public CC stuff so there may be a whole lot more deeper stuff between you two in private) has been extremely fast and emotionally driven. And most of your relational advice to others has been if you want a relationship go for it, regardless of the issues in a person's life. I must honestly say that I do not see your relationship as a model for others, nor see the evidence of much wisdom used in pursuing it. The continued expression of your relationship online looks like emotional exhibitionism, and even making allowance for differences in personalities (and considering the behavior of other CC couples) you guys are extreme past the limits of decency. No one is saying you can never mention each other, but you do need to rein it in some.

JesusLives · Feb 18, 2015

Thank you Cinder for that smashing review. It's o.k. and quite obvious that you are not a fan.....and I don't need fans except for in the summer when it's in the 90's here in sunny Florida.

I resurrected this old thread as not all singles are under 40 years old and there may be someone else that has lost a loved one who might like to post loneliness issue here in a thread that was already started in that area of life when spouses do start leaving this world.

Sorry that you are nauseated and there is medicine for that at your local drug store. Too bad you have already decided that we are not model citizens for CC. I admit that I am defective in that I am a sinner and worthy of death...News flash we all fit into that category. I am not a perfect human and don't claim to be. I don't follow others around and point out their faults and if someone annoys me I really try and avoid that area of annoyance. Hence the ignore button please push it and you never have to see one of my posts again....

I am sincere when I say I hope you have a great walk with the Lord and maybe someday we will be friends in heaven. I believe the Bible says we will be like angels there and not given in marriage so maybe there we are just one big happy family.

cinder · Feb 18, 2015

JesusLives said:

A) This thread isn't in the singles forum, but there are 6 old tourist threads now on the front page of singles all of them were "revived" (not sure if that is a fair word when the last post was several days ago but within the last week which some of them were) by you within the past 24 hours. Why do you feel the need to do this?

B) My post was not about resurrecting threads (and especially not a single thread, that's just not a big deal) nearly as much as it is about your (both of you as a couple) constant self promotion, oversharing, and promotion of romance and marriage as the antidote for loneliness. As I said it is excessive and as it is explicitly stated that matchmaking is not the purpose of the singles community here, it is disrespectful to all the other users.

C) Whenever anyone gives you constructive criticism, tries to correct what they see as you getting off track, or hold you accountable for your behavior, you pull out the christian stock excuse "I am defective in that I am a sinner and worthy of death...News flash we all fit into that category. I am not a perfect human and don't claim to be." The problem I have with this is that you aren't taking any responsibility for your behavior, you are excusing it. You don't show any desire for sanctification by saying this but rather a complacency with the sin you still have (maybe I'll be like that when I'm your age too, if so may God send some young upstart to call me out on it) and again you seem completely careless about how your behavior is impacting others in the community. I hope I will always have friends who care about me enough to point out my blind spots and faults to me, not to tear me down, but to make me better. And my intent was to do the same for the two of you, that you might continue to grow in grace and in love for your Christian brothers and sisters.

I will apologize for making my last post under the influence of frustration and annoyance. It crept in as added harshness and I would have done better to give myself some more time to cool so that I could be more objective. I will also give credit where credit is due and say that knowing that both of you have been through some pretty difficult times, it is possible that if I knew all I would be more amazed at how far God has brought you than annoyed and frustrated by your behavior. I will agree that we all have room for growth and add that liberal use of the ignore button would be ignoring opportunities for iron to sharpen iron…. with all the sparks flying that that includes.

JesusLives · Feb 18, 2015

Cinder

I apologize for not being able to sleep at night and since I have been up since 12:30 AM and to entertain myself I read threads and added myself to them. I apologize that I annoy you and maybe we should go to counseling together and work out the differences in our online relationship. I apologize that I don't grow spiritually fast enough for you. I apologize that I am retired and have quite a bit of time on my hands and post more than you'd like to read. I apologize that I have been single for 35 years and got excited when someone decided to love me. I apologize that I don't have the online social graces that I so obviously need. I apologize that I must not be turning my cheek enough for you.

I do need to grow spiritually as we all do and I am really glad that God knows both of our hearts and that we both seem to be sincere and have a group of friends on CC that do care about how we are doing day to day. We are of a different generation and I didn't have parents after the age of 12 and virtually raised myself from then on so no I don't know how to please all the people some of the time much less all of the time. If I act immature it isn't an excuse for my behavior as I have no excuse. I didn't come here to make enemies and truth be told didn't come here to find a husband either.

I don't know what you have dealt with in your life either but I do know that I have prayed for you and that I would not have angry feelings toward you for posts that are at times harsh and a tad judgmental. I post here to try and help people most of the time and I try to be funny and have fun and for some this is not working, But I have seen people say don't post on new threads cause there are already threads out there and then others say you are clogging up the system with the old zombie threads. So which is the better choice at midnight of a sleepless night?

At any rate we can at least agree to disagree and certainly agree that we are from two different generations.....So can we bury the hatchet and call it a new day?

cinder · Feb 18, 2015

JesusLives said:

That's an awful lot of apologies for stuff I never said (or even thought). Yes the I can't sleep and I've been up for a while and I'm bored helps me understand you and your motivation better. We have different enough ways of looking at the world that it is difficult for us to communicate and understand each other most of the time, but that isn't something you need to apologize for. Neither is being happy that someone loves you. Neither is being an extrovert and wanting to share everything with everyone for that matter.

Yes your sincerity and caring as well as your funny contributions to the lighter side of CC are all reasons that I don't want to put you on my ignore list. I refuse to have an enemies list so you cannot be my enemy either.

I appreciate your prayers. I need them more than I probably realize. And if I'm coming in at only a tad judgmental I think I'm getting better (must be those prayers at work, or you are just being nice). We are at two very different places in life, that's for sure. And I will agree that it is time to leave this discussion since I think anything further will only leave you feeling more attacked and me feeling frustrated that I'm not communicating clearly. However should you ever want an analysis of something, I'm willing to volunteer my overly analytical mind to help you out. Peace and sleep well.

*grabs hatchet and chucks it into the middle of the lake (I live in a city, not enough dirt to bury it here)

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