Dear Future Husband Letter (Read)

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girlwhoneedsachange

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I've seen many Single christian ladies do this, I decided to do it and i think it is important to think about.

“Dear future husband,
Hey. How are you? I just wanted to write to you to tell you that I am waiting for you. I’m waiting for you because I already love you. I’m waiting for you now and I will continue waiting for you until the day that God chooses to cross our paths.
I know that life can be hard and you might be tempted to despair or settle for relationships or situations that will not bring you true happiness or joy. But through all of this I just want you to know that I am also praying for you. Even though we may not have met yet, you are not alone in this. I know how you feel.
I wanted to say I’m sorry in advanced. I am sorry that I didn’t wait for you to be my first. I look back now with regret that I can’t share that moment with you like I hope I would. Forgive me. God has forgiven me and I am working on forgiving myself so I hope you can forgive me. So I know how easy it seems to just hook up with someone or use someone to fill in the loneliness that you feel in your heart. I know how tough it can be to say no to impurity. From now on I have chosen to be pure for you. I know some people don’t believe in second time virgin, and even though I can’t be physically I believe it spiritually. So Just know that every time I feel this way, I think of you. I offer up this loneliness I feel in hopes that it will bring you some consolation on your journey. If you’re reading this, I hope you will do the same for me, whether you have given it up already or you have stayed pure. If you have stayed pure for me as your future wife, I am so grateful and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried wishing I could do the same. If you haven’t I hope you choose the same to sustain from sex again, for me.
I hope you think of me when life gets hard. I hope you pray for me like I do for you, and just as much as I want you to wait for me, I don’t want you to wait for me. I want you to live your life to the fullest. I hope you take every opportunity to grow as a person and fall in love with God.I want you to do this because this is what I’ll be doing with my life until the time comes when I can do it together with you. I am not going to sit around waiting for you to come sweep me off of my feet. I am going to live a life that allows me to be the best person I can be and grow to be in a place where I can love you as much as I possibly can when the time comes.
Whenever it is going to be that I can share my life with you, I want to give you all of my past experiences as a part of my gift of self … and I want it to be a great gift.
So please, Get out there and experience this beautiful gift of life that you have been given! Ill meet you somewhere along the way. So if you see me in a coffee shop or in a chapel, don’t be afraid to say hi (If in a chapel, let me pray first … I might be praying for you). Eventually we’ll get to catch up on everything that has happened since the last time our souls met.
I want you to know in advance, I have insecurities. I get mad easily, and I can be a little selfish. I hope that when the day comes for us to meet God has changed this in me. God is working on those things in me for you. I have trust issues due to my past. I know God has chosen you for me because you already know these things. I just wanted to be honest about them, so when you do come into my life I am not afraid to share these things with you. So I am not afraid to tell you what I’ve been through.
I also want you to know I pray for our careers, and our future life, where we are financially stable and have kids and are involved in a church. I pray that you grow in Christ every day that you can be apart and lead a men’s ministry. I pray that you also grow and learn from your young ages to lead young men while I help lead young women in the youth ministry. I pray that God is working in you and setting these plans in you like he is in me. I pray that you don’t get in over your head in work. As well as you work hard for your dreams. I want you to know I pray for our future kids, if God’s will we have any. I pray that they are healthy, that you shower them with love. I know that you will be a great dad. I pray that they grow in Christ and you lead our household.
My Vows to you before we meet:
I vow to from now on substain from sexual relations with anyone unless until we are married.
I vow to pray for you.
I vow to grow in Christ everyday to be the Godly wife you and God want me to be.
I vow that I will live my life to the fullest and be positive so I can share these experiances with you when we finally cross paths.
My vows to you when we do meet:
I vow I will not provoke or tempt you in any sexual way, with the way I dress, with the way I talk, and with what we do.
I vow that I will respect you.
I vow that I will listen to you.
I vow that I will support your walk with God.
I vow that I will always remember that God comes first.
I vow that I remember to keep God first.
I vow to remember that we are only dating and that everything happens on God’s time and I will not rush it.
I vow that I will trust you.
I’ll be seeing you around.
Love,
Me.
 
blue_ladybug

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This was hard to read because it's a wall of text, not broken into paragraphs for people to read it easier. I skimmed over it, and it's a good letter. :) Please use paragraphs next time because alot of people don't bother reading walls of text like this.
 
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girlwhoneedsachange

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It was originally broken down into paragraphs, that's how i wrote it in word and on my blog, but when i pasted it in here it must have blocked together i'll fix it. Thanks
 
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cmarieh

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It is so beautiful. I too have written a letter to my future husband and I have prayed for him since I was sixteen. I know he is out there thinking of me whether we have met yet or not. Good for you to write, when I wrote mine it was emotional and hard because I am eager to meet him, but praying that God will prepare us for each other.
 
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girlwhoneedsachange

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I am the same way
 
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I read your entire letter. In one part you were saying you were sorry to your future husband for your past life. You have nothing to be sorry about, what is important is who you are today and what you stand for. You were correct in your vows about putting God first and foremost in your future relationship with your future husband. God does have a timetable in the development of relationships. If this is something you are praying about you must be ready to act when the time is 'now'.

I will say one thing, don't wait your entire life waiting for Mr. Perfect and a perfect marital environment, waiting for all green lights up ahead and making sure to cross all of the 't's and dotting the 'i's. This man of yours may or may not be part of an organized ministry but that does not mean that he does not have a ministry in his humble service to the Lord.

You wrote an interesting letter and one day God may place this letter into the heart of the man of your heart's desire.
 
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girlwhoneedsachange

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I wasn't saying he had to be apart of an organized ministry. I just want him to be involved in church, and us to grow and serve in a church together in the future. I want God to teach him and develop his spiritual growth so we can do that, an help me grow as well. About my past life I felt like i had to say i was sorry because, it's something i felt compelled by God to d. I told myself a long time ago i would wait until marriage, and throwing that away one day in college I felt guilty to my future husband. I believe in abstinence even though i haven't been doing it. It just something i felt i needed to add in there. Lastly i don't believe in "the perfect man" per say but i do believe in a perfect man for me. Someone who isn't perfect but i will still love him for his imperfections.
 
JonahLynx

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This letter is a blessing to whoever receives it. :eek:
 
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Wow, that is a beautiful letter. I can only hope that the woman that God has for me (if He so wills it) is thinking the same thing! Tourist is correct. Don't put yourself down about your past. You have nothing to answer for. Romans 8:1 - "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." If you have earnestly sought forgiveness from Abba,Father for your past He is just to forgive and forget! Remind the enemy of this Word when he comes to try to hurt you.

I know you feel it in your heart and mean asking your future husband for forgiveness in a good way, but make sure you don't tear yourself up over it. The weight of the Holy Spirit convicts you to repentance and pulls you closer to Father, the weight of the enemy only crushes you and doesn't drive you to the Lord. I will pray for strength and perseverance in your life. :) May Jehova Jireh (The Lord Will Provide) keep you. God bless!
 
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I love your letter, I hope you will get what you are looking. God bless you.




#Out of the depth I cry to you o Lord, Lord hear my voice.
 
GandalfTheWhite

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blue_ladybug said:
This was hard to read because it's a wall of text, not broken into paragraphs for people to read it easier. I skimmed over it, and it's a good letter. :) Please use paragraphs next time because alot of people don't bother reading walls of text like this.
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I am sure her future husband wont mind this at all :p
 
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tourist said:
I read your entire letter. In one part you were saying you were sorry to your future husband for your past life. You have nothing to be sorry about, what is important is who you are today and what you stand for. You were correct in your vows about putting God first and foremost in your future relationship with your future husband. God does have a timetable in the development of relationships. If this is something you are praying about you must be ready to act when the time is 'now'.

I will say one thing, don't wait your entire life waiting for Mr. Perfect and a perfect marital environment, waiting for all green lights up ahead and making sure to cross all of the 't's and dotting the 'i's. This man of yours may or may not be part of an organized ministry but that does not mean that he does not have a ministry in his humble service to the Lord.

You wrote an interesting letter and one day God may place this letter into the heart of the man of your heart's desire.
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Sadly, the past life tends to show its ugly claws once all the butterflies have flown away, and when things are rocky... then apologies for things in your past, is irrelevant, because they shaped you, and your shape is sadly judged by the one you once thought, loved you forever, through better or worse... Good letter none the less.
 
YankeesGurl

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I can agree with this for the most part. Sometimes people think they have had enough time, or worked past their past....but what it really comes down to is God healing hurts, and repairing those old memories with his Grace.



ThePottersClay said:
Sadly, the past life tends to show its ugly claws once all the butterflies have flown away, and when things are rocky... then apologies for things in your past, is irrelevant, because they shaped you, and your shape is sadly judged by the one you once thought, loved you forever, through better or worse... Good letter none the less.
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I do love the letter but as many have said, do not apologize. God has used everything in your life for the good, to make you the beautiful person you are. He's the only one you need to talk to in order to feel forgiven. And to add to Potterclay's words, show up to that future husband with full acceptance of yourself and everything that has happened to you, and be sure he knows its a part of you and he will need to accept it like he accepts you. My (ex) husband told me the past didn't matter when we married. He didn't want to discuss it. At the time, I didn't pray about it and I'm going to guess I should have made sure ALL was discussed and accepted. It's damaging to suppress these things and go into a relationship apologizing for them.
I'm praying, like you, that God will heal you and make you whole before you get to that future husband so you can say, "Yes, This happened. I can't change it......but if I did, I might not be me, and you might not be standing here loving what you see. When you get me, you get everything I am, from the most shameful to the most proud." Honestly, I truly believe if you love everything about you and understand yourself, as God does, then you are ready to share and that human man is going to love you that way too, as God does.
 
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Letter is awesome. Straight up awesome. Dang. Wow. Great job.

Expressing love for a man, as well as loyalty to someone you've never met is an amazing thing. May God bless you with a Godly man.

Little does he realize that at this moment you are praying for him. He is receiving assistance that he is totally oblivious to.... and that is a beautiful thing. :)
 
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zeroturbulence

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Dear future husband... leave the seat up in the middle of the night and I WILL KILL YOU.

- your loving wife
 
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The bible is even older, people still read it.... #JustSaying

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