Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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Jessiemusical

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oh forgot to say, when you give your singlehood to God 100%, you will not get a girl overnight, or the next couple of days. This is a process that takes time. To those who wait, God says "Wait on the LORD; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD!" it will be the most rewarding thing...marriage is going to be so blessed...single years is only a couple of years, marriage is rest of your life...so why not give it to God for those few years! you will get the double, faith in God is better than an answer, look at Job. He didn't know what the outcome was going to be, he didn't have an answer, but He trusted in the Lord! and in the end, he got twice as much!
 
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The thing I'm worried is that I'll never get married or almost as bad, I won't get married till i'm in my 40's or 50's. If I knew that I'll get married in my mid 20's to early 30's, I wouldn't be so worried about it...
 
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Jessiemusical

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dothackzero said:
The thing I'm worried is that I'll never get married or almost as bad, I won't get married till i'm in my 40's or 50's. If I knew that I'll get married in my mid 20's to early 30's, I wouldn't be so worried about it...
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seriously, don't worry about it, God knows the desires of your heart. we would all like to know, but the fact is that we don't know, and that is where faith comes in. Like I said about the example of Job, faith is better than an answer. Philipians 4:6 says "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God" so don't worry about it and pray about it. it will give you peace...verse 7:"and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." And instead about worring about things you don't have control of, think of good things, Philipians 4:8 says" Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things." I am not trying to attack you or anything, i am just trying to help you get beyond this to the way God sees it. It will help you a lot. So don't worry, it's in the hands of God, in His perfect time, He will do it.
 
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greatkraw

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2Tim1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
 
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Marcus2x2

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greatkraw said:
2Tim1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
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Yes, I've always liked the "... sound mind ..." part lol.
 
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I'm getting depressed about this again, I need some encouragement...
 
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greatkraw

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no body ever told you this before dot but do not look at yourself, look at Christ
 
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Dude why are you so depressed about this all the time? I am about to be 24 Sunday, and have the same problems as you, and I believe that once I get my degree I will get married. There is a proper time for it.

What do you think whining about it on this website will do for you? Do you believe some girl here will absolutely fall in love with you because you can't stop thinking about girls and dating. How many times do we need to tell you, you have to be mentally independent of the opposite sex for the opposite sex to be attracted to you. You have to be happy with yourself and have fun living and not care about girls this much. Then they will start being interested.
 
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greatkraw

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Dot the time will come when you post threads about the unhappy marriage you are in and surely it is God's will that you divorce and become a priest
 
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eugenius said:
Dude why are you so depressed about this all the time? I am about to be 24 Sunday, and have the same problems as you, and I believe that once I get my degree I will get married. There is a proper time for it.

What do you think whining about it on this website will do for you? Do you believe some girl here will absolutely fall in love with you because you can't stop thinking about girls and dating. How many times do we need to tell you, you have to be mentally independent of the opposite sex for the opposite sex to be attracted to you. You have to be happy with yourself and have fun living and not care about girls this much. Then they will start being interested.
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Have you ever heard of OCD. I'm sure this one of my obssesions/fears.
 
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Yea I have a form of OCD too but it has to do with cleanliness like the show MONK lol. Yea my friend has depression, it sucks.
 
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Marcus2x2

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eugenius said:
Dude why are you so depressed about this all the time? I am about to be 24 Sunday, and have the same problems as you, and I believe that once I get my degree I will get married. There is a proper time for it.

What do you think whining about it on this website will do for you? Do you believe some girl here will absolutely fall in love with you because you can't stop thinking about girls and dating. How many times do we need to tell you, you have to be mentally independent of the opposite sex for the opposite sex to be attracted to you. You have to be happy with yourself and have fun living and not care about girls this much. Then they will start being interested.
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YES! THE END!
Next topic please! lol
 
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tennisguy2010

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Trying to comfort and get rid of a highly obsessive and compulsive thought is extremely difficult. This thread could go to a million pages and unless there is a girl waiting with open arms a christian attitude and near him its pointless. General consensus is to be patient and have faith in the lord, to me that sounds like the best advice one can give.
 
dothackzero

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So, is it probably that my social skill that are giving me problems with the girls more than anything else. Will I finally be able to make friends with girls once I fix my shyness and stuff?

btw, I'm also starting to work on my negitivity.
 
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Well this sucks... I was in a bookstore looking for a job. Though I stopped by the manga section. Then a couple came up, and the were looking the manga section too. They talking about stuff I know about, but I couldn't say anything to them... :(
 
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tippyhope

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hey! its really hard to find someone. i understand how you feel. im the same way and im 24...except for me its not being able to find a guy. but dont worry when God is ready to send you the special someone he will. you have to trust in Him. that is what i tell myself all the time =]
 
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SeekinHIM

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Stay focused brother,

It's not you, don't think that there isn't anyone for you.........There are uh, about 6 and a half billion people on the planet.............As some of the other responders have said also, hang in there, be patient. The more you draw closer to the LORD, HE will sustain you til' you meet your mate..........
You never know when and where..........usually when your not looking...........

Be blessed

SeekinHIM
 
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SeekinHIM

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I have to say also, You are very blessed indeed, you are open and honest, and certainly transparent as you have stated so much about yourself.............Hang in there brother...............

I'll be praying for your peace in the midst of your wait................Just a reminder: Woman love to be rescued, and men love an adventure and to conquor.............so embark on some venture, as the LORD leads you, even if it has to do with computers............Don't worry, surrender it, cast it on the LORD, and HE will sustain you............

SeekinHIM
 
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