I don't understand why anyone would dwell on what might have been, or what was in the past...........??? That is the deceivers favorite weapon to use against Christians............
Philippians 3:
13 .) Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
14 .) I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
15 .) Let us therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in any thing ye be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you.
Isaiah 43:
15 .) I am the LORD, your Holy One, the creator of Israel, your King.
16 .) Thus saith the LORD, which maketh a way in the sea, and a path in the mighty waters;
17 .) Which bringeth forth the chariot and horse, the army and the power; they shall lie down together, they shall not rise: they are extinct, they are quenched as tow.
18 .) Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.
19 .) Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.
Just saying...........Seems to me folks would have far more joy and far less strife if they put what is forgiven, forgotten, remembered no more where it belongs...........in the depths of the sea.