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Ahhhh... I'm going to say... yes. Really it depends on what kind of love is being talked about. I think its better to have real godly love at some point because growth comes from that in ways that from lovelessness would not. But when most people hear this saying I think they interpret it as "it's better to have had a relationship that ended badly than never to have had one." In that case I vehemently disagree.
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Yes definetly to me! Because bible says love one another! It doesn't say...never love for fear you may get heart broken. We all know to love is to take a chance. You may be broken, you may not be. But at least...even though through tears in life, at least we gave love along the way, without holding back...or becoming cold. Good question though cmarieh. People wonder that a lot in life. I remember the phrase when I was a child even. 
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Siberian_Khatru, I think that it is very noble of you to feel that way about past relationships. It truly takes a real person who has the love of Christ to say that and that is a very admirable trait
JonahLynx, you are wise beyond your years. Although, I am sure you have been told that a few times.
SkyLove, thank you for your input I do strive to show love in everything I do because without God I wouldn't be able to because God is love and he is our everything.
Wisebeardman, I wanted to say that appreciate your honesty.
JonahLynx, you are wise beyond your years. Although, I am sure you have been told that a few times.
SkyLove, thank you for your input I do strive to show love in everything I do because without God I wouldn't be able to because God is love and he is our everything.
Wisebeardman, I wanted to say that appreciate your honesty.
I am ever thankful for my marriage, grief of loss aside, it has been one of the most healing relationships we had. Sometimes I would give just about anything to have him here again. But my marriage taught me to love.
Every person I've been in love with has gifted me with things I did not have prior to the relationship. I say person, because I have loved some women friends (not in a sexual way), and that love has also been so important for me...and I hope for them too.
Every person I've been in love with has gifted me with things I did not have prior to the relationship. I say person, because I have loved some women friends (not in a sexual way), and that love has also been so important for me...and I hope for them too.
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When you think about the phrase, I can agree to it. It's better to give love a chance and face the possibility of losing it than never taking the chance and forfeiting on what could've been something great.
It goes back to the philosophy I firmly believe in to this day. Everything good in life has a catch to it. Big or small, it's never a free ride.
It goes back to the philosophy I firmly believe in to this day. Everything good in life has a catch to it. Big or small, it's never a free ride.
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Never love at all, I will assume never love a particular person.
The loss, I will assume the loss is a parting of ways, a breakup of a relationship.
Now the question: Is it better to love and suffer loss than to never love at all.
This is difficult to answer. Loss is all around. Change always includes a loss.
We will always have regrets. There's not one person who will not to some degree disappoint us or let us down. Loss is a part of life.
It is better to love and suffer loss than not to have loved.
I'll never love again, someone says. Really! Love is greater than our pain. God suffered loss when He created man. He continues to love and continues to see people deny Him, reject Him. But He keeps on loving everyone single one of us.
There's no benefit in saying I wish I would have never loved him or her the way I did. That's a regret. Instead we must realize and focus on the lessons learned.
This might sound silly, but if a person has been heartbroken by a fool that person will be careful in the next relationship, but will also grow to appreciate and value the other person all the more.
The loss, I will assume the loss is a parting of ways, a breakup of a relationship.
Now the question: Is it better to love and suffer loss than to never love at all.
This is difficult to answer. Loss is all around. Change always includes a loss.
We will always have regrets. There's not one person who will not to some degree disappoint us or let us down. Loss is a part of life.
It is better to love and suffer loss than not to have loved.
I'll never love again, someone says. Really! Love is greater than our pain. God suffered loss when He created man. He continues to love and continues to see people deny Him, reject Him. But He keeps on loving everyone single one of us.
There's no benefit in saying I wish I would have never loved him or her the way I did. That's a regret. Instead we must realize and focus on the lessons learned.
This might sound silly, but if a person has been heartbroken by a fool that person will be careful in the next relationship, but will also grow to appreciate and value the other person all the more.
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Fellow Oregonian, I am truly sorry to hear about your late husband. I can't imagine the emotions you went through and at such a young age, but I do agree with you that after a loss of a relationship whether it was a friend or a relationship between a man and woman that it changes you because they gave you gifts and abilities that was never seen before.
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I loved how you said this. I am the type of person that wears her heart on her sleeve and puts my heart and soul in everything and I so very much want to be desired and appreciated. By the way it doesn't sound silly because many people don't realize what they had until it is gone and there are some instances where it can be obtained, but not many. You a wise man Galahad
I think it is better to love and lose than to never love at all.
I am speaking of a romantic love between two partners, whether Christian or not. Love brings with it its share of happiness and sorrow, laughter and tears and highs and lows. It comes with a myriad of emotions and it can sometimes make you feel like you are on a rollercoaster. It's a beautiful experience to be in love with someone but it's also an experience to lose that someone. In my opinion (and mine alone), you would not know the value of true love until you have lost one.
I am speaking of a romantic love between two partners, whether Christian or not. Love brings with it its share of happiness and sorrow, laughter and tears and highs and lows. It comes with a myriad of emotions and it can sometimes make you feel like you are on a rollercoaster. It's a beautiful experience to be in love with someone but it's also an experience to lose that someone. In my opinion (and mine alone), you would not know the value of true love until you have lost one.
I can only speak for myself (and I apologize to those who have read my thoughts before about this) but I lean toward the thought of believing it can be better to have never loved than to have the great love of your life and then lose it, depending on the situation.
I heard the song "All At Once" by Whitney Houston on the radio the other day. This song sums up a lot of how love was for me, "All at once, the smile that used to greet me... Brightened someone else's day. She took your smile away... and left me with just memories... all at once."
The problem for me is that I had this one time in my life that was so intense, both good and bad, that I now have a fear that this was my only shot, lost to someone else, and will never occur again. And it's a really terrible feeling.
I know this will be somewhat controversial but it's kind of like sex. Would a person rather have an experience that made you feel like you were really missing something (in a Godly context, let's say a marriage that ended in the death of a spouse) or just not have any experience at all?
I know this is a bit cynical (but that's just the kind of mood I've been in lately--my ex-wedding anniversary is coming up soon) but in many ways, love, to me, has been kind of like one of those death traps from the Saw movies...
It feels like you lose something vital no matter which way life goes, but we trust God that He has something greater in the end.
I heard the song "All At Once" by Whitney Houston on the radio the other day. This song sums up a lot of how love was for me, "All at once, the smile that used to greet me... Brightened someone else's day. She took your smile away... and left me with just memories... all at once."
The problem for me is that I had this one time in my life that was so intense, both good and bad, that I now have a fear that this was my only shot, lost to someone else, and will never occur again. And it's a really terrible feeling.
I know this will be somewhat controversial but it's kind of like sex. Would a person rather have an experience that made you feel like you were really missing something (in a Godly context, let's say a marriage that ended in the death of a spouse) or just not have any experience at all?
I know this is a bit cynical (but that's just the kind of mood I've been in lately--my ex-wedding anniversary is coming up soon) but in many ways, love, to me, has been kind of like one of those death traps from the Saw movies...
It feels like you lose something vital no matter which way life goes, but we trust God that He has something greater in the end.