I understand what you are saying, it wasn't like that. It was a way to feel like im worth something, a way to grasp something through my depression. My mental subconscious voice would be "i may be fat, ugly, and socially awkward, but at least im one of the smartest guys in the room. i went to college and that last part switched to "...but at least God made me one of the smartest guys in the room." God started his work in me and it became, "im fat, ugly, socially awkward, and not especially smart. Why do i have any value?" I've been here for a long time.
i realize it is an issue that i haven't given all my trust to God, that i haven't put myself entirely in his hands because i want to trust myself and my ability. This is something else i have worked on. I definitely have trust issues that need to be addressed and yet life makes these trust issues seem necessary. My trust issues are definitely part of my loneliness and if my self esteem ever improved enough to start asking girls out again, they would become an issue there (assuming i am more successful than i was in highschool at being worth dating).
i realize it is an issue that i haven't given all my trust to God, that i haven't put myself entirely in his hands because i want to trust myself and my ability. This is something else i have worked on. I definitely have trust issues that need to be addressed and yet life makes these trust issues seem necessary. My trust issues are definitely part of my loneliness and if my self esteem ever improved enough to start asking girls out again, they would become an issue there (assuming i am more successful than i was in highschool at being worth dating).