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Yes and no.
If we're talking about online dating then yes since there has been an increase of people who would meet online and find themselves to pair up. Usually this would happen after they have met in real life a few times after getting to know one another online in order to advance into having that relationship as compared to people one would casually make contact with online alone.
Online relationships, while they can be claimed to have two people involved into being close and having easy access to communicate online, would not completely replace the communication and intimacy as compared to a relationship with two people offline. Online can restrict from a person to do and know as much about the other person and would require a bit more of trust to take the other person's word without you being there to prove anything other than what was said (cheating, mostly.) You cannot replace the intimacy and bonding that can take place face to face through the Internet.
To answer your other question, sort of. It was with someone from a different country and we shared our interest with one another after conversing for a while. We had to break off contact not long after because of the fear of how it would or would not work out. I wouldn't personally engage in it.
If we're talking about online dating then yes since there has been an increase of people who would meet online and find themselves to pair up. Usually this would happen after they have met in real life a few times after getting to know one another online in order to advance into having that relationship as compared to people one would casually make contact with online alone.
Online relationships, while they can be claimed to have two people involved into being close and having easy access to communicate online, would not completely replace the communication and intimacy as compared to a relationship with two people offline. Online can restrict from a person to do and know as much about the other person and would require a bit more of trust to take the other person's word without you being there to prove anything other than what was said (cheating, mostly.) You cannot replace the intimacy and bonding that can take place face to face through the Internet.
To answer your other question, sort of. It was with someone from a different country and we shared our interest with one another after conversing for a while. We had to break off contact not long after because of the fear of how it would or would not work out. I wouldn't personally engage in it.
Well, My late husband and I met online by accident kinda in 96 (when such things were not done, and OMG, does that date make me feel less than young). We talked exclusively online for about 2 weeks, then progressed to hours and hours long conversations when no one had cell phones, and you both paid for each minute on the phone.... but I digress. We met at the end of the second month of our online meet. A few months later I went out to his state, stayed with his parents for two weeks and at the end of that period of time he asked me to marry him and we went ring shopping. A few months later, I moved to his city and we married six months later. Commence happy (for the most part) marriage.
I have had a few online bits of interest in the last few years, but no real romance... one guy and I are still good friends, but for me at least we're better suited as friends.
So... I guess I'd err on the side of YES it's like the real thing, in that courting/dating is more communication and understanding each other. No, it's not like in-person dating because there are mannerisms that you miss, expressions that are new to you... but in a fun way it's a neat thing to rediscover someone you are pretty over the moon for. If odd quirks like eating habits drive you bonkers? Get to know the person in person pretty quickly, because honestly that stuff probably won't change.
I have had a few online bits of interest in the last few years, but no real romance... one guy and I are still good friends, but for me at least we're better suited as friends.
So... I guess I'd err on the side of YES it's like the real thing, in that courting/dating is more communication and understanding each other. No, it's not like in-person dating because there are mannerisms that you miss, expressions that are new to you... but in a fun way it's a neat thing to rediscover someone you are pretty over the moon for. If odd quirks like eating habits drive you bonkers? Get to know the person in person pretty quickly, because honestly that stuff probably won't change.
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Lol! Maxwel I love your reply! Super funny! I had a online relationship recently and that turned out bad but thank God I got out when I did. We are human; there will be people who make it seem amazing and real and those who make it seem terrible and unstable. There is good and bad. For me it was good when it was good and when it was bad; well lessons where learnt and I'm grateful. I met my ex on a bbm pin facebook page and we started texting; super long phone calls then sadly short video calls (that's stuff is expensive) lol! For me I kinda prefer online relationships because I have a lust problem. Once I'm near a guy who is my boyfriend my thoughts are as dirty as a mc donalds trash can. Lol! Apart fron that I'm also very introverted; I can spend a whole weekend in my apartment all alone; would only leave on monday to go to class. I moved to a new city and I literally only know the road to my university; to the grocery store and to my flat. So yeah; I like the online stuff; with the right person.
K
Online romances are definitely a thing, but it's just not for everyone, really.
Some people tend to be quite terrible with socializing in real, due to being very shy and overall just not good with the communication thing, can be lack of confidence for example. Therefore they rather seek to online romances, but those are just examples, there's also those who aren't shy, great in real, but still manage to find online romances. Me having been one of them, it's quite nice to get an online romance from time to time, it can be easier at some points, but more challenging at other points. Depending on who it is you find online, it can feel truly amazing, even though there's the distance between the two of you. As long as it's the right person.
Also it is very possible to meet up in real, this one girl and I met on a website, then exchanged Skype and Facebook, and from there continued our long talks, really great connection, then met a few times in real, an amazing time it was. So just because you meet each other online, isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Some positive things that come from starting online: You build a great bond together, which is merely dependent on communication, you also have to build great trust towards each other, since you won't know what each other is doing 24/7, you have to trust the other person. Most relationships in real are kinda pushed / forced, not a lot of communication, always being together, eventually the communication starts fading a little for many people, but if you start off online, the communication is kind of all you have, therefore you build a strong bond, and if you're serious about each other, it can lead to a good and healthy relationship once you decide to get together in real. (Just my opinion though, some may disagree)
Some people tend to be quite terrible with socializing in real, due to being very shy and overall just not good with the communication thing, can be lack of confidence for example. Therefore they rather seek to online romances, but those are just examples, there's also those who aren't shy, great in real, but still manage to find online romances. Me having been one of them, it's quite nice to get an online romance from time to time, it can be easier at some points, but more challenging at other points. Depending on who it is you find online, it can feel truly amazing, even though there's the distance between the two of you. As long as it's the right person.
Also it is very possible to meet up in real, this one girl and I met on a website, then exchanged Skype and Facebook, and from there continued our long talks, really great connection, then met a few times in real, an amazing time it was. So just because you meet each other online, isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Some positive things that come from starting online: You build a great bond together, which is merely dependent on communication, you also have to build great trust towards each other, since you won't know what each other is doing 24/7, you have to trust the other person. Most relationships in real are kinda pushed / forced, not a lot of communication, always being together, eventually the communication starts fading a little for many people, but if you start off online, the communication is kind of all you have, therefore you build a strong bond, and if you're serious about each other, it can lead to a good and healthy relationship once you decide to get together in real. (Just my opinion though, some may disagree)
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A little hypersensitive are we? This is fairly normal speech in forums and especially with new threads. The intention under these circumstances is not demanding but to inform you of what they are looking for.
The use (or lack of) please and thank you is largely personal. I see some people use it starting threads and some don't. I've not really given it much thought.
The use (or lack of) please and thank you is largely personal. I see some people use it starting threads and some don't. I've not really given it much thought.
To Maria and Practice English - It looks like both of you may not be native English speakers. For that I commend you both for participating here using a language that is other than your primary one.
Chatrooms and forums have their own culture, and while the OP may have been abrupt if worded in a "real time" conversation or in formal writing, it was fine for a post. In learning and practicing a new language, we often make embarrassing mistakes, or we may struggle with the nuance of the language and miss a lot of the sarcasm and humor. Hopefully, we can laugh at some of the misunderstandings and keep good relations.
If you haven't been welcomed yet to CC, then Welcome!
Now, carry on with your regularly scheduled thread...
Chatrooms and forums have their own culture, and while the OP may have been abrupt if worded in a "real time" conversation or in formal writing, it was fine for a post. In learning and practicing a new language, we often make embarrassing mistakes, or we may struggle with the nuance of the language and miss a lot of the sarcasm and humor. Hopefully, we can laugh at some of the misunderstandings and keep good relations.
If you haven't been welcomed yet to CC, then Welcome!
Now, carry on with your regularly scheduled thread...
Yes and No...
A good thing about online is that you can chat back and forth to get to know the person. Being that we are on a Christian chat site I would up the hopes that people are telling the truth a few percentage points and being that this particular site is not a dating site it is better to actually try and get to know a person and not more like a meat market that some dating sites can be.
I joined the site for Christian fellowship we all love Jesus right? Well maybe not the Atheists, but most of us love Jesus. At any rate you can meet people from all over the world and chat your way into friendships which is so nice. It may feel virtual but a great percentage of these chatters are real people on the other end.... Someone has said something about bots but I don't know much about that as I am a young old person and not real tech savvy...Any who.
Online is good for getting to know about a person and their personality without knowing what they look like...again some are more savvy and can post pictures all over the place me not so much...
Where it is not the same is the actual eye contact and real life dating unless there is a meeting set up along the way so it is good and bad...good for chatting not so good for the real dating situation.... Usually you will be long distance on a rare occasion you might live in the same state or country....
I guess I am one of the lucky ones having met tourist on this site through chatting on threads crossing paths back in March or April of 2014. We chatted off and on until around July and then chatted through personal messages, gave out our emails and sent emails back and forth. Then we started writing letters to each other in snail mail... I think he got brave enough to call me in late July or early August once that started we ended up talking for hours almost every night. September 21 we met and had a date he lived about 2 hours away from where I was in the same state.
October 4 tourist moved to Clearwater, FL and we got married November 27th 2014. So it was the real thing for us, but it is not necessarily the real thing for everyone.
We got to know each other very well before we knew what we looked like and by the time we met we didn't care what the other person looked like as we had fallen in love with each other's personalities and knowing we loved God it worked for us. Not all online relationships work so it does not work for everyone. Praying about it is very important that is for sure. I did not know what to pray for but tourist had said a lot of prayers......
We have now been married for little over 6 months and going strong very committed to each other and God....Sometimes you have to take a chance....We did and it worked...
A good thing about online is that you can chat back and forth to get to know the person. Being that we are on a Christian chat site I would up the hopes that people are telling the truth a few percentage points and being that this particular site is not a dating site it is better to actually try and get to know a person and not more like a meat market that some dating sites can be.
I joined the site for Christian fellowship we all love Jesus right? Well maybe not the Atheists, but most of us love Jesus. At any rate you can meet people from all over the world and chat your way into friendships which is so nice. It may feel virtual but a great percentage of these chatters are real people on the other end.... Someone has said something about bots but I don't know much about that as I am a young old person and not real tech savvy...Any who.
Online is good for getting to know about a person and their personality without knowing what they look like...again some are more savvy and can post pictures all over the place me not so much...
Where it is not the same is the actual eye contact and real life dating unless there is a meeting set up along the way so it is good and bad...good for chatting not so good for the real dating situation.... Usually you will be long distance on a rare occasion you might live in the same state or country....
I guess I am one of the lucky ones having met tourist on this site through chatting on threads crossing paths back in March or April of 2014. We chatted off and on until around July and then chatted through personal messages, gave out our emails and sent emails back and forth. Then we started writing letters to each other in snail mail... I think he got brave enough to call me in late July or early August once that started we ended up talking for hours almost every night. September 21 we met and had a date he lived about 2 hours away from where I was in the same state.
October 4 tourist moved to Clearwater, FL and we got married November 27th 2014. So it was the real thing for us, but it is not necessarily the real thing for everyone.
We got to know each other very well before we knew what we looked like and by the time we met we didn't care what the other person looked like as we had fallen in love with each other's personalities and knowing we loved God it worked for us. Not all online relationships work so it does not work for everyone. Praying about it is very important that is for sure. I did not know what to pray for but tourist had said a lot of prayers......
We have now been married for little over 6 months and going strong very committed to each other and God....Sometimes you have to take a chance....We did and it worked...
@ catherder, thank you for replying here. i meant to last night, and totally forgot!
@practice-english: amanda!!! thank you for the nice message! : ) i'm so happy to see you participating in more threads. however, catherder is right, in that there is an accepted style to how these threads are asked. generally, it's not considered "rude" or "bad manners" to post a question in a quick way, brief way, nor is it considered "rude" to omit saying "please" and "thank you".
generally, people will ask questions, and if it's something that you care to discuss, then you answer the question in the thread.
however, if it's a question that you don't want to share about, or have nothing to offer, then you skip it and move to the next one.
sometimes people will post answers and questions from their phone, or have other limitations that make a longer message more difficult. also, some people, are also not native english speakers, as catherder said.
i hope that you continue to share (both maria AND amanda) and find more threads that are interesting to you. OR, you could start your own thread like maria did, and ask your own question!!!
i hope that helps. if you have any questions, you can always message me. : )
@practice-english: amanda!!! thank you for the nice message! : ) i'm so happy to see you participating in more threads. however, catherder is right, in that there is an accepted style to how these threads are asked. generally, it's not considered "rude" or "bad manners" to post a question in a quick way, brief way, nor is it considered "rude" to omit saying "please" and "thank you".
generally, people will ask questions, and if it's something that you care to discuss, then you answer the question in the thread.
however, if it's a question that you don't want to share about, or have nothing to offer, then you skip it and move to the next one.
sometimes people will post answers and questions from their phone, or have other limitations that make a longer message more difficult. also, some people, are also not native english speakers, as catherder said.
i hope that you continue to share (both maria AND amanda) and find more threads that are interesting to you. OR, you could start your own thread like maria did, and ask your own question!!!
i hope that helps. if you have any questions, you can always message me. : )
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Beautiful, thanks for sharing that!!
As a mom if four with kids yalls ages, my advice to them is just be careful, use common sense, and if there's red flags research them, dont justify. Guard yourselves.
talking through text, or message tends to allow interpretation problems, so communication is the key to a great online thing.
Pray.
As a mom if four with kids yalls ages, my advice to them is just be careful, use common sense, and if there's red flags research them, dont justify. Guard yourselves.
talking through text, or message tends to allow interpretation problems, so communication is the key to a great online thing. Pray.
Here, have a cup of cyber coffee, on the house ~~~<(__)7 Smell that aroma? Yumm! Is the cream and sugar mixed perfect for your tastebuds to enjoy? If you imagined my cup of hospitality offered freely to you and you answered the questions....then you just experienced an online scenario , very similar to online romance. I can tell and share anything with you, a total stranger and it's always up to your mental picture and senses that you put into it. DID you enjoy this cup of coffee to the last drop? If you did, then I will also come to your mind's door as a knight in shining armor, bearing roses, sweet kisses and a future of pure happiness for you too. Think about it.
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The title of your thread and the wording of your question seems to imply that you do not believe that online romance is NOT the real thing.
Let us reword the question thusly:
Is swiss cheese just like real cheese?
Romance is romance, but there are different types of romance. To say that one must be real and one must be imaginary is an incorrect framing of the subject matter. They are BOTH real, but they are mere different varieties. Swiss cheese IS real cheese, but it is merely different from whatever the person asking considers "real" cheese. (Maybe they were Dutch and to them, edam is real cheese. Whatever.) To a person who lives in a very secluded place and does not function very well in face-to-face social situations, online romance may be a far more real and successful romance than a face-to-face romance.
Furthermore, one can have both an online AND a face-to-face romance! It can be both at the same time! *points at Tourist and JesusLives...then points at GLR and myself* How does the cut-and-dry division between "the real thing" and "online romance" hold up now, after it's demonstrated that a particular flavor of romance can be both? (This would be like melting the swiss and edam cheeses into a single pot, and then refrigerating them into a hybrid cheese...this actually sounds delicious, and I would totally try it, except you can never find edam in the US except at really expensive, snooty places.)
Just some food for thought. (Pun intended.)
Let us reword the question thusly:
Is swiss cheese just like real cheese?
Romance is romance, but there are different types of romance. To say that one must be real and one must be imaginary is an incorrect framing of the subject matter. They are BOTH real, but they are mere different varieties. Swiss cheese IS real cheese, but it is merely different from whatever the person asking considers "real" cheese. (Maybe they were Dutch and to them, edam is real cheese. Whatever.) To a person who lives in a very secluded place and does not function very well in face-to-face social situations, online romance may be a far more real and successful romance than a face-to-face romance.
Furthermore, one can have both an online AND a face-to-face romance! It can be both at the same time! *points at Tourist and JesusLives...then points at GLR and myself* How does the cut-and-dry division between "the real thing" and "online romance" hold up now, after it's demonstrated that a particular flavor of romance can be both? (This would be like melting the swiss and edam cheeses into a single pot, and then refrigerating them into a hybrid cheese...this actually sounds delicious, and I would totally try it, except you can never find edam in the US except at really expensive, snooty places.)
Just some food for thought. (Pun intended.)