Hey I just stumbled upon this and felt i needed to share something. To the poster or whoever decided to read.
I myself am a virgin, but my Fiancee is not. Now granted he wasnt wholly saved when he made his mistakes and choices to sleep with the women he was with, and going into our relationship I knew he wasnt a virgin, but didnt know the details of his past, only in the last year (and weve been together almost 2 years) have i gotten to fully know about his past experiences. Some of it was hard to hear, but God reminded me, He has forgiven me from alot of things and He has forgiven my fiancee, who am I to judge him. When i was younger i did pray for God to send me a husband who was going to be a virgin as i was, but it didnt happen that way, not saying it could not have, it just didnt. I knew I was supposed to marry this person 3 weeks after meeting him and 9-10 months before we even began dating, God told me in a dream he was to be my husband. So i know God chose us to be together. We do all make mistakes and no matter how big the mistake that person deserves forgiveness.. The only other option is to choose not to be in that relationship if it is that much of a bother, but forgiveness is something God desires from us all. AND I will even go farther and tell something very personal on the note of forgiveness and sexual sin. Just recently (in the last year) my fiancee got caught in a version of sexual sin that caused him and I some major problems, so much so we are still going through it. We even had to postpone our wedding because of it, the incident happened one month before our wedding date, so tell me how bad of a shock that was. This sin was something he had been struggling with for years and felt he almost had it under control, but he didnt, and when he got caught it put a strain on alot of people, because it became public knowledge, you know the verse where it is said if you keep hiding something God will bring it to the surface, well this was brought to the surface, not only was I hurt by him, i had to hear about it from everyone we knew, in fact i had to leave where i lived for about 2 weeks and went to stay with my mom just to be away from people. It was hard and harsh, here was the man I chose to marry, that God put in my life doing this and hurting me like this, I had a major choice. But even upon hearing what happened, even in the 1st 5 minutes i knew i could not leave him, God gave me a peace and said, you have to forigive him and stay by his side, he is going to need you through this battle, you are going to be a major part of the puzzle that puts him back together, i know you are hurt, but i chose him for you because i knew you could handle this... God never gives us more than we can bear... It was hard and we are still struggling, he still has thoughts of what took place but he has been in counseling and doing so much better, he is back working with our church, the pastor has worked with him and i am just very proud of him and i love him veery much. I dont know why i shared all this but i just felt the need to. No matter how bad things can get if you believe that God brought this person to you, God already knows what is going to take place even if we dont. Our job is to love honr cherish, forgive and help our significant others and spouses make it thorugh when they have an issiue, stand by thier side and encaourage them. Just think if the show was on the other foot, wouldnt you want them to stand by you? wouldnt you think, yes i made a mistake but I know we can fix it? Wouldnt you want a second chance? I hope ive not offended anyone but just think about it.
God Bless
