Is there something wrong with me?
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Why pessimistic? I was born with defect in my eyes. I couldn't see well. I always mocked by my friends at school n my self-esteem was pretty low. But i have a great mom who supported me. She always said that i am precious in God eyes so i didn't have to be afraid or anxiaty for what ppl would say to me. Even my friends mocked me i was brave to show them who i was. Hehehe...
My point to tell you this is that i want to say you are precious and you have a huge capability. And you can do great things like others do.
My point to tell you this is that i want to say you are precious and you have a huge capability. And you can do great things like others do.
Monaki, I knew someone with Asperger's and he said the one thing his non-Christian friends tried to do was basically act like wingmen (for lack of a better word.) They knew, that with Asperger's it was difficult for him to meet women, so they said they would help him by chatting him up to other girls, basically letting them understand what type of person he was, including his difficulty with communicating with others.
I don't know if that would help for you or not, but you might see if others would be willing to step in and help, or just tell the girl you're interest, when you meet her, that you have Autism, and it inhibits your ability to communicate right at first.
I don't know if that would help for you or not, but you might see if others would be willing to step in and help, or just tell the girl you're interest, when you meet her, that you have Autism, and it inhibits your ability to communicate right at first.
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I can relate. I don't want to take your hopes away but the easiest thing is just to remain single all your life so your feelings will never get hurt. When you keep hoping on finding the right girl and it doesn't happen, you could feel very miserable. I suggest that whenever you have a conversation with a woman and you realize it isn't going anywhere, just stop having the conversation. I'd say, just live your life and see what comes on your path. We must not forget this is the 21st century so it will not be easy if you have the desire to find a virtuous woman.
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I agree. By virtuous I mean a God fearing Christian woman who truly loves the Lord and who is very serious about her faith. I must note that literally 99 % of all the women in Belgium my age are atheists and I'm not exaggerating. That's what I meant by saying that it isn't easy in this 21st century to find someone.
This may sound condescending to you, but it's not meant to...
Brother, you are TWENTY years old. To have this attitude of cutting yourself off now? Man, you've got a lot of life left to live. Please don't shut down now. Keep seeking God and submit your heart to Him to keep soft.
I know that you feel very lonely, and when you aren't involved with someone and it seems everyone else is, and there seem to be no prospects? Yes, it's VERY frustrating. I can identify with this. But please don't close yourself off to God's miracle in your life because right now it seems that you are in a very long hallway with no open doors. Just keep your eyes on your Savior.
Brother, you are TWENTY years old. To have this attitude of cutting yourself off now? Man, you've got a lot of life left to live. Please don't shut down now. Keep seeking God and submit your heart to Him to keep soft.
I know that you feel very lonely, and when you aren't involved with someone and it seems everyone else is, and there seem to be no prospects? Yes, it's VERY frustrating. I can identify with this. But please don't close yourself off to God's miracle in your life because right now it seems that you are in a very long hallway with no open doors. Just keep your eyes on your Savior.
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Actually that didn't work out very well for me. I need to find a valid reason why i should stop talking to girls, and i have found my reasons through picking up on their weakness, and since no one is perfect, i end up "hating" a lot of girls and become more miserable.
I might be the only one who thinks like that, but that lie makes me feel powerful and strong. But I felt like i couldnt do that anymore. And to you, i don't think stop talking to them is a long term strategy. It might work on short term basis, but in the long run it would not work because you will wonder what is wrong with yourself when pretty much all your friends are getting married and you are still single. You can lie to yourself, but your surrounding will take you back to reality.
I might be the only one who thinks like that, but that lie makes me feel powerful and strong. But I felt like i couldnt do that anymore. And to you, i don't think stop talking to them is a long term strategy. It might work on short term basis, but in the long run it would not work because you will wonder what is wrong with yourself when pretty much all your friends are getting married and you are still single. You can lie to yourself, but your surrounding will take you back to reality.
Its not a whole lot better in the states. Still early twenties is the im invincible and don't need a God Stage. Not everyone is like that of course but it seems that way in the states. There too busy partying to pay attention to God. I can't say much because im not that much older then you. Still its interesting to hear its like that in Belgium. We got the notion (mostly from movies) that Belgium, Germany, Great Britain etc. Are old fashion. Like castles everywhere and cobble stone roads and stuff. Thats usually how movies portray it. I try not to stereotype like that but im still surprised at that percentage.
Actually, European countries and the UK are both far more socially progressive that the U.S. While yes, the architecture is ancient, and each country's culture has been well established compared to the U.S., Christianity is more cultural than it is here... when it's in use - That's not to say that there aren't awesome, Jesus loving Christians in Europe and the U.K.