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GypsyRebel
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OK does anyone else have a hard time not letting what other people say or think of you affect your thoughts?
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Yes, unfortunately, and I'm dealing with that right now. A few months ago, my friend had said something completely untrue about me and it has affected my thoughts greatly. You're not alone.
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GypsyRebel
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WillieT what is that supposed to mean? Maybe I should have worded it differently. Negative things people say to u
Actually, it is very seldom that they are REALLY thinking of you when people put you down. They are almost always doing it for something that it satisfies in THEMSELVES. You really aren't their primary focus, THEY are.
I think that not letting it get to you comes as you age. Before 50 I was a little sensitive - now hardly at all.
Eventually you realize that you have accumulated a big group of friends who love you - and if someone comes along that talks negative about you, it is like a little fly just landed on you for a moment. Without biting!
Eventually you realize that you have accumulated a big group of friends who love you - and if someone comes along that talks negative about you, it is like a little fly just landed on you for a moment. Without biting!
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GypsyRebel
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Gypsy - that is so sad. Are you not in a church? But friends at work would still count if they really like you.
Proverbs 18:20
king James version(KJV)
21.)A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother
king James version(KJV)
21.)A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother
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Richie_2uk
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Personally I don't devote my time in what other people think of me, I try to live a simple life with Jesus. and what people think? well its what they think, I'm not asking them to think of me what ever they are thinking. Without a doubt, you will find many people has a lot of time on there hands, in thinking good or bad about a person or persons. Then they devote there lives with criticism and pointing the finger to say you are wrong, not realising they should be thinking about there own lives and walk with Jesus if they are Christian.
So if people think wrong of me, let them, its them that's thinking wrong not me. However, if a Christian brother or sister thinks that I may be falling for something that is not right, then I would value there thoughts and respect them for it. But that would be the only time I wouldn't mind people thinking of me. But if people want to think negative? well that's from there own heads not mine. People shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty or down or low and feel bad because someone is thinking or lack of thinking.
Though Sometimes it's wise to keep one's mouth shut and not say what they think, in case it causes more harm than thought. We have to be mindful Jesus said, to be mindful, is to think before we say. be tactful. As you will have experienced in your life, people has just spluttered something before they actually thought it about it which then it would of caused some trouble or grief. which then causes you to think negative.
But Don't get caught up in trying to read people's minds to see what they are thinking. Just concentrate on your own thinking and trying to think right with God and for God.
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sassylady
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Occasionally, but less as I get older and closer to the One who loves me best. Which is the key. When you study how you are loved by Him, and how He sees you, you care less what others think.
I had a recent thing where I had a girl in my office compliment me on the blouse I had on. I was walking back around to my cubicle and heard another girl say a very unkind comment about how it looked on me. It was so unexpected and nasty I felt like I had been punched in the stomach. It was awhile before I could bring myself to even wear that blouse again. I don't think we ever completely get past it bothering us, we just have to draw nearer to the Lord in those times.
I had a recent thing where I had a girl in my office compliment me on the blouse I had on. I was walking back around to my cubicle and heard another girl say a very unkind comment about how it looked on me. It was so unexpected and nasty I felt like I had been punched in the stomach. It was awhile before I could bring myself to even wear that blouse again. I don't think we ever completely get past it bothering us, we just have to draw nearer to the Lord in those times.
A person will recognize when the flesh(I mean worldly thinking)is affected and would want to get revenge in word or deed,
but if you are looking into the spiritual mirror(the bible) and believing and renewing your mind then as the bible says
you will know the truth and the truth will make you free and the body counts for nothing but the words that I speak they are spirit and they are life and you really start believing this when someone says something that would have hurt you before won't bother you as much anymore.
less of you will be affected because you are in the process of renewing your mind(sanctification)and no longer blind to the truth.
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GypsyRebel
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I pray always that God please give me a new heart and mind. One that is clean of pain and negative things. Since I suffer from past verbal and physical abuse before my marriage. It is much needed. Also since I have been married for 15 years to a man I'm still crazy about, he decides 3 weeks ago to move out. I'm really not thinking of positive self image.
So it is possible I am hearing things in that manner.
I know God has a plan for me.
He knows I fear the future, the thoughts of being alone for the rest of my earthly stay.
So it is possible I am hearing things in that manner.
I know God has a plan for me.
He knows I fear the future, the thoughts of being alone for the rest of my earthly stay.
I don't care all that much about what others think or say about me.
Whatever they say to me, about me, is probably true.
The only thing that bugs me is that l instantly think....
..........."l can't believe they actually noticed and pointed out that fact about me, to me. Bummer."
I then go eat pizza.
Whatever they say to me, about me, is probably true.
The only thing that bugs me is that l instantly think....
..........."l can't believe they actually noticed and pointed out that fact about me, to me. Bummer."
I then go eat pizza.
Hi GypsyRebel
I just want to say I'm sorry about what has happened to you and when I hear what you said it makes me wish that everything gets positive for you and I hope someone will say and/or do something that will encourage you better than what I can.
GOD comfort her and strengthen her in JESUS name.amen.
Sorry you are going through this situation....It is hard when the people you love stop loving you.... I have pretty much marched to the beat of a different drum most of my life. When younger I looked for approval, older I don't care if I am approved or not... Want to just live life and keep learning about Jesus and praying to become more like Him everyday.
I always said the worst thing about being talked about it not being talked about....lol
We humans can be so hurtful and say things we should never say at times and I am truly sorry you have been hurt this way.
By the way Welcome to CC and if you need to make some new friends find the Speak Your Mind thread in the Bible Discussion Forum it is a safe haven and we serve cookies there...... Cookie? Enjoy.....
I dont like the feelings I get when other people say negative stuff to me. Society in general has taught me that some feelings are to be avoided and disowned. God is turning that round in me and showing me that when these feelings get triggered I am to take them to him and sit with him through them and turn the thoughts attached to them over to him, trusting him to renew my mind and heal me. In this way I am beginning to see other peoples criticism/negative judgments against me as a gift as they bring up stuff in me that God can deal with 
. IN this way I am learning to be with whatever feeling arises in me and to turn to God through it all. I have a bug bear with our society...in that it doesnt teach us how to deal with the tougher feelings of life. I'd rather know how to "go through successfully" than "run away" from my feelings. God is good.
. IN this way I am learning to be with whatever feeling arises in me and to turn to God through it all. I have a bug bear with our society...in that it doesnt teach us how to deal with the tougher feelings of life. I'd rather know how to "go through successfully" than "run away" from my feelings. God is good.
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