Well I have fallen for a number of women who were glowing with spiritual beauty , I was like "Lord are these women really that great", to which I get replies of "They will make you a good wife".
So I am like "WOW", I see they are beautiful, they are so amazing, but the thing is, they were not anything special looks wise and one was not really that physically attractive at all, it is just I could see and was shown tier "inner beauty", but of course I am not exactly the worlds most attractive guy, and freewill being what it is, they just refused my company.
I honestly don't know how to answer you there, dear brother Agricola. But I do know when people want a partner for life, it's important that they're drawn to each other. Here's the thing though, it takes time to like someone, let alone love them and commit yourself to them.
I think people jump the gun too often when they're attracted to someone. They might be led to believe that the feelings they have for that attractive person might be "love", when in fact, it's just physical attraction. Which is fine, but we need to take time to get to know the person inside their hearts and minds.
I don't know who said it in an earlier thread, but someone made the comment that sometimes people want to find an attractive BF or GF who they can parade in public like a trophy so they feel more valuable. I think that happens a lot. Look at Hollywood, how they trade each other off like Topps baseball cards.
I feel heartache for young people today who are looking for a GF or BF because it's not like when I was young and people looked uniquely different. And MTV hadn't ruined it for us and we all wore cheap jeans and plain t-shirts and dime store sneakers. Most teens didn't have what you'd call a "hairstyle". Your hair was either long, short, frizzy or straight. That's it. And we were all various shapes and sizes, girls curves were all different shapes, not like cookie-cutter images they strive for today. But according to the commercials you see on television today, everyone is supposed to look like perfect robots. Women are supposed to look like underage teens. Men are made to look like they are not even men, but young boys. What is UP with that?
So I understand your dilemma. Even so, if we all support one another and remind each other of the abundant life Christ offers us, of how valuable we each are, and love one another, I think we can get through this life easier and with less mental scars.