We brought my sister in law's 11 year old boy to our new home for 2 weeks (we don't have kids). We bought this house to escape the stress and tension and anger of the rat race, and have someplace peaceful to retire and relax. Which it was until we brought this little monster here. He terrorizes everybody, constantly, mostly because they let him. There's no consequences to anything he does so he does as he d@mn well pleases. They all pussyfoot and awe now Austin and he's just an 11 year old boy, and he plays them like a fiddle with it, laughing in their faces. They know how I feel and I try to stay out of it but the little bstard poked the bear one too many times tonight and I let him have it. I told him all the things he should have been told all along. He looked like someone had pissed in his Cheerios, keeping in mind that his Cheerios needed pissing in a long time ago. Long story short (too late?) I told him we had moved from L. A. to escape it's stress and anger and division, that I wasn't going to allow that spirit into my new home, and if he couldn't leave it behind he wasn't welcome here.
It was the first time the brat's gone to bed without a fight since we got here.
We went thru this 5 years ago, in pretty much the same place. It was at a family reunion, I sat for a week and listened quietly while the supposed grown ups let that kid just mop the floor with them all. One day we were driving and he was carrying on and I finally whipped to the side of the road, ordered everyone out of the car, leaned into his face, and told him that while everyone else was afraid to touch him, I was going to drag him out of the car and paddle his ass until it was bright cherry red if he didn't straighten up. The kid was an angel the rest of the trip. His dad took me aside later and said thanks, I can't get away with that.
I don't advocate child abuse. I advocate discipline and consequences, with an open hand in the butt to enforce it when the mom and apple pie thing isn't working. I mean, the Bible says approach a brother in error in love and if he doesn't respond to it throw him out. Can't really throw out an 11 year old boy can I? But at least one of us has his attention now.
I'll caveat that he's had no parenting and bad influences. But at the end of the day, are we to let him grow up to be an *sshole just because he has an excuse? Not in my house. I've gone to great effort and expense to leave just that kind of spirit behind.
Please pray for this situation. I need wisdom, those around me need their eyes opened, and this little boy needs deliverance.
It was the first time the brat's gone to bed without a fight since we got here.
We went thru this 5 years ago, in pretty much the same place. It was at a family reunion, I sat for a week and listened quietly while the supposed grown ups let that kid just mop the floor with them all. One day we were driving and he was carrying on and I finally whipped to the side of the road, ordered everyone out of the car, leaned into his face, and told him that while everyone else was afraid to touch him, I was going to drag him out of the car and paddle his ass until it was bright cherry red if he didn't straighten up. The kid was an angel the rest of the trip. His dad took me aside later and said thanks, I can't get away with that.
I don't advocate child abuse. I advocate discipline and consequences, with an open hand in the butt to enforce it when the mom and apple pie thing isn't working. I mean, the Bible says approach a brother in error in love and if he doesn't respond to it throw him out. Can't really throw out an 11 year old boy can I? But at least one of us has his attention now.
I'll caveat that he's had no parenting and bad influences. But at the end of the day, are we to let him grow up to be an *sshole just because he has an excuse? Not in my house. I've gone to great effort and expense to leave just that kind of spirit behind.
Please pray for this situation. I need wisdom, those around me need their eyes opened, and this little boy needs deliverance.
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I suggest you tell this brat's parents to do what you did: get in his face and yell at him. Show him THEY'RE in control, and that their not wimps. As I see it this brat needs boot camp before he ends up in juvie..
