My friend is a modest woman down to everything you just said. Her husband.. Cheated 7 times.
So yeah..that's not why men (or women) cheat.
For me, it´s hard to be sure enough on
whom of both sexual genders is more of a cheater because, during my married life of 13 years, I only cheated once sexualy and, emotionally, I didn´t count the times I thought I wanted having chosen another partner (so I sinned like Jesus said in Mat_5:28)
I never asked about those thoughts my ex-wife and, by inferences, I knew she had ONLY two crushes on her friends but, after I got divorce, the ammount of ladies I have met, had given me the impression THEY have those thoughts (Mat_5:28) as MUCH as I have mine.
During several relationships I had, during several love affairs, too, I knew they also wanted or had those thoughts I had.
In a casual conversation I had with and ex, she told me that, in a disco she was with her sister, she was talking about sex and both shared about their preferences, famtacies (and more). My ex talked and talked while, any moment in that disco, her OWN DAD phone called her sister, side by side with, because my ex, unadvertedly, had kept a botton pressed on her mobile and their dad had heard ALL that sexual conversation HE considered very nasty and disappointed and he had no other way to ask my ex to stop it, except by calling his other daughter who also was sharing similar thoughts about those things they had done as "cheaters" and much more (1 day I will try to become a writer of the things I learned).
My saying -publicly- things like these, has shown I´m also inmodest, worldly, unholy but, this doesn´t make me a lair for the thihgs God and ppl know in their minds.
There´s a cliché thought, and a switch, that made me to believe all human beings forget about everything once they became Christians and -that- is NOT the only truth this secular world is spinning on: Life spins on my life, as well as it spins on everybody´s else life, cheating or not, and the Lord Jesus is completely right when He said Matt 5:28 We all sin and have sinned, before and afterwards marriage (untill the day He becomes the center of our life).
I will never say men or women cheated more than the other, because I don´t have access to read ppl´s mind (I don´t want to, either). It´s enough taking
my shame and the burden of knoing the things I´ve learned this secular life I lived.
I cheated? Yes?
Did other ppl cheat on emotionally and sexually? Yes, too.