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Modesty is the only virtue that will stop your husband from cheating on you.
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For me, it´s hard to be sure enough on whom of both sexual genders is more of a cheater because, during my married life of 13 years, I only cheated once sexualy and, emotionally, I didn´t count the times I thought I wanted having chosen another partner (so I sinned like Jesus said in Mat_5:28)
I never asked about those thoughts my ex-wife and, by inferences, I knew she had ONLY two crushes on her friends but, after I got divorce, the ammount of ladies I have met, had given me the impression THEY have those thoughts (Mat_5:28) as MUCH as I have mine.
During several relationships I had, during several love affairs, too, I knew they also wanted or had those thoughts I had.
In a casual conversation I had with and ex, she told me that, in a disco she was with her sister, she was talking about sex and both shared about their preferences, famtacies (and more). My ex talked and talked while, any moment in that disco, her OWN DAD phone called her sister, side by side with, because my ex, unadvertedly, had kept a botton pressed on her mobile and their dad had heard ALL that sexual conversation HE considered very nasty and disappointed and he had no other way to ask my ex to stop it, except by calling his other daughter who also was sharing similar thoughts about those things they had done as "cheaters" and much more (1 day I will try to become a writer of the things I learned).
My saying -publicly- things like these, has shown I´m also inmodest, worldly, unholy but, this doesn´t make me a lair for the thihgs God and ppl know in their minds.
There´s a cliché thought, and a switch, that made me to believe all human beings forget about everything once they became Christians and -that- is NOT the only truth this secular world is spinning on: Life spins on my life, as well as it spins on everybody´s else life, cheating or not, and the Lord Jesus is completely right when He said Matt 5:28 We all sin and have sinned, before and afterwards marriage (untill the day He becomes the center of our life).
I will never say men or women cheated more than the other, because I don´t have access to read ppl´s mind (I don´t want to, either). It´s enough taking my shame and the burden of knoing the things I´ve learned this secular life I lived.
I cheated? Yes?
Did other ppl cheat on emotionally and sexually? Yes, too.
Hmmm!
I´m gonna use a pic to show it better...
Which of these -a married man- will look at (checking) the moment he leaves his house and wife (in case she spends her life all day home)?
If he had to choose, if I was ALLOWED to post this picture well, whom of these ladies he would think more?
I don´t mind loosing my time but I have the hunch time is a good teacher because, if I tell my daugher: "Do not show off your "chest" and "butts" they way your are doing it on FB and on the streets" she is still blind to UNDERSTAND she is saying the world I´m a JAIL BAIT of 14 and, they clear message men understand is: "Come and EAT me".
I have a daughter who also doesn´t undertand this, and she loves to show "all that she´ve got".
I pray no MOD edit what I tried to say, but I own nothing here.
So you, blind ppl, don´t get mad when your men get ANOTHER, and PUBLICLY stared at others, because they ALSO are blinded that way I wish I were blind
to not see them.
Seriously?? I mean... really!! I could tell you why a man cheats but it wouldn't be very "modest" of me. Smh
You are right, and that is NOT being inmodest.
I cheated because I chose to it.
I was cheated on, becasue I also sinned and failed.
We sinned! Because we´ve made wrong use of free will.
Fudge monkeys? Interesting. Never heard of that before, but they look delicious.
I did notice that they aren't wearing any makeup or earrings, so maybe the Op would enjoy them too. He obviously has very selective taste.
Your comments seem appropriate to me, but please don't vomit. The OP probably wouldn't deem that very modest of you. Haven't you heard? Modest women shouldn't vomit either because it's a real turnoff. If a wife vomits (get's sick) it might cause her poor, weak, defenseless husband to cheat.
Hmmm!
I´m gonna use a pic to show it better...
Which of these -a married man- will look at (checking) the moment he leaves his house and wife (in case she spends her life all day home)?
If he had to choose, if I was ALLOWED to post this picture well, whom of these ladies he would think more?
I don´t mind loosing my time but I have the hunch time is a good teacher because, if I tell my daugher: "Do not show off your "chest" and "butts" they way your are doing it on FB and on the streets" she is still blind to UNDERSTAND she is saying the world I´m a JAIL BAIT of 14 and, they clear message men understand is: "Come and EAT me".
I have a daughter who also doesn´t undertand this, and she loves to show "all that she´ve got".
I pray no MOD edit what I tried to say, but I own nothing here.
So you, blind ppl, don´t get mad when your men get ANOTHER, and PUBLICLY stared at others, because they ALSO are blinded that way I wish I were blind
Since I like to talk on verifiable sources I have, I brought this video NO ONE would watch (and no Spanish here would be translated for you).
See it if you wanted
[video]https://youtu.be/9xJc69LrjR4[/video]
I must be pretty immodest then. I wear makeup.
In all reality, being modest is something I strive for. However, makeup and earrings? I personally don't think that would make a woman immodest. Modesty is much more than dressing right. I try to be modest in my speech, in the way I dress, and in the way I act.
In all reality, being modest is something I strive for. However, makeup and earrings? I personally don't think that would make a woman immodest. Modesty is much more than dressing right. I try to be modest in my speech, in the way I dress, and in the way I act.
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I've never ever heard anyone else say 'fudge monkeys', so I thought I made it up. Maybe I didn't. It's meant to be an alternative to stronger language. Kudos for finding some monkey treats though. That's an awesome effort!
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VioletReigns
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Jesus humbled Himself and got down on the ground with the woman caught in adultery. And when Jesus got back up onto His feet, He lifted the woman up with Him. "Neither do I condemn you," He said to her, "Now go forth believing who I say you are in Me."
Where's a white knight to save me from this thread...?
sorry had to...
Jesus is our White Knight, sister! \
/ Hallelujah! Every time men publicly judged women (e.g. the woman caught in adultery, the prostitute kissing Jesus’ feet, the Samaritan women at the well, the Canaanite woman asking for healing for her demon-possessed daughter, the old “unclean” woman who against Jewish Law touched Jesus’ robe in public, Rahab the harlot, etc.), Jesus would obliterate their condemnation by openly giving honor, love and respect to these women. Jesus always treated women tenderly.
If Jesus Christ the Lord demonstrates such tenderness, mercy and acceptance of all women, who are you Godson13 to publicly post such a judgmental slander of women who wear makeup and jewelry? Do you realize how self-righteous and unloving your statements appear to the entire site? Do you know that out of your heart, your mouth is speaking (or in this case, your typed words) against the Lord’s loving heart toward women?
Do you even realize that you’re putting faith in something other than God? And you’re telling women to focus on themselves, to focus on becoming something desirable for Christian men in order to be loved and accepted. That is contrary to Jesus’ teaching us to focus on Him alone and allowing Him to conform us into His image, male and female alike.
The submission you and some other men on this site blather on to women about contradicts Jesus’ submission. Jesus lifts women up in honor. Do you honestly believe your post reflects that? Women respond to love, respect and tenderness. Jesus tells husbands to surrender their lives to their wives and to lift them up, just as Christ lifts up the church and gave His life for it. Are you better than Jesus?
There are so many godly men on this site who reflect Jesus’ position toward women. We women know who they are and we praise God for them! The words they post don’t cause women to recoil in their spirits, but to blossom and grow in spiritual strength. These brothers treat us women with dignity and love, lifting us up above worldly judgments. They consider their sisters and protect us from carnal statements such as yours.
I recommend you ask God to search your heart and reveal your true motive. Because there is certainly nothing godly about men judging women by their outward appearance.
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VioletReigns
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Amen, Brother Tourist! It is absolutely unreal and fails completely in reflecting the reality of Jesus' loving heart toward women. Posts like Godson13's hinder Christian women and cause them to value themselves by their appearance.
Jesus humbled Himself and got down on the ground with the woman caught in adultery. And when Jesus got back up onto His feet, He lifted the woman up with Him. "Neither do I condemn you," He said to her, "Now go forth believing who I say you are in
Jesus is our White Knight, sister! \
Every time men publicly judged women (e.g. the woman caught in adultery, the prostitute kissing Jesus’ feet, the Samaritan women at the well, the Canaanite woman asking for healing for her demon-possessed daughter, the old “unclean” woman who against Jewish Law touched Jesus’ robe in public, Rahab the harlot, etc.), Jesus would obliterate their condemnation by openly giving honor, love and respect to these women. Jesus always treated women tenderly.
If Jesus Christ the Lord demonstrates such tenderness, mercy and acceptance of all women, who are you Godson13 to publicly post such a judgmental slander of women who wear makeup and jewelry? Do you realize how self-righteous and unloving your statements appear to the entire site? Do you know that out of your heart, your mouth is speaking (or in this case, your typed words) against the Lord’s loving heart toward women?
Do you even realize that you’re putting faith in something other than God? And you’re telling women to focus on themselves, to focus on becoming something desirable for Christian men in order to be loved and accepted. That is contrary to Jesus’ teaching us to focus on Him alone and allowing Him to conform us into His image, male and female alike.
The submission you and some other men on this site blather on to women about contradicts Jesus’ submission. Jesus lifts women up in honor. Do you honestly believe your post reflects that? Women respond to love, respect and tenderness. Jesus tells husbands to surrender their lives to their wives and to lift them up, just as Christ lifts up the church and gave His life for it. Are you better than Jesus?
There are so many godly men on this site who reflect Jesus’ position toward women. We women know who they are and we praise God for them! The words they post don’t cause women to recoil in their spirits, but to blossom and grow in spiritual strength. These brothers treat us women with dignity and love, lifting us up above worldly judgments. They consider their sisters and protect us from carnal statements such as yours.
I recommend you ask God to search your heart and reveal your true motive. Because there is certainly nothing godly about men judging women by their outward appearance.
Heed the words of this wise woman.....no one could have said it better.......
No one can argue with the truth........but i feel it will be attempted.......
thank you my sister......i agree with every word.....
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VioletReigns
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Glory to God! The Truth sets us FREE. If men want to know what women want, all they have to do is look at how women respond to Jesus' love. ♥
Oh sorry, I forgot you guys use the drying machine to dry your clothes.. hence no ironing, right?
We hang out washed clothes on clothes line like this...
Can you imagine a poor woman being married to a man like that? He seems so insecure.
I was going to live in Asia for a year. Actually, I was supposed to go in two weeks to make the trip.Oh sorry, I forgot you guys use the drying machine to dry your clothes.. hence no ironing, right?
We hang out washed clothes on clothes line like this...
Plans changed and I'm not going. HOWEVER, they do the same thing.
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ServantStrike
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Modesty eh?
Godson, I'm praying for you man. You didn't get the memo the last time I talked to you I guess.
You will not find the woman you're looking for if you continue to have the bitterness you do. You'll scare them away. Light and darkness do not have fellowship with one another, and you are dark brother, very dark! So much anger, so much desire to control a woman.
Ephesians 5 is a lovely chapter. After the submission command, men get a bit of a raw deal towards the middle of the chapter
25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Yeah.... a submissive woman has the EASY end of the bargain. Christ died for the church.
Keep raging though,
Godson, I'm praying for you man. You didn't get the memo the last time I talked to you I guess.
You will not find the woman you're looking for if you continue to have the bitterness you do. You'll scare them away. Light and darkness do not have fellowship with one another, and you are dark brother, very dark! So much anger, so much desire to control a woman.
Ephesians 5 is a lovely chapter. After the submission command, men get a bit of a raw deal towards the middle of the chapter
25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Yeah.... a submissive woman has the EASY end of the bargain. Christ died for the church.
Keep raging though,