Sexual purity has been the BIG struggle in my walk with God, I guess because I spent the first 26 years of my life thinking that nothing is wrong with all that stuff. And I say "all that stuff" because sexual purity involves a lot, not just having intercoarse, and not just almost having intercoarse...you catch my drift? What it came down to for me is that I had to make a personal commitment to God, like our own little covenant. Basically I stay pure and He helps me....but thats just a basic idea. You see, through many trials and errors I came to find out this was the only way I would accept sexual purity in my life. When I was first saved, I kinda just put the idea of sexual purity aside for the time being, I was just happy to be fellowshiping with God. Then the time came where I had to make some decisions. I looked to the law and said, "this is how I need to live my life", but looking to the law doesn't work......I failed. Then I would look to my own strength.....and I failed. Then I would try to keep sexually pure just because I wanted to be a righteous man for God, but God is the one who makes us righteous not ourselfs.....and I failed. It came to a point where I had to turn to God with all weakness and just rely on His help, cause i couldn't do it. I made a commitment to Him to accept living my life this way and all the sacrafices that came with it, and He gives me strength to do it because I do it to glorify Him. And thats the key, He gets the glory. Also what was a huge help was coming to grips with the things I would be sacraficing. When you count the costs, its easier to prepare yourself for the road ahead. Anyways, thats my story. I do it for Him and only Him. If you try to do it because the bible says to or because its the christian way, you going to fail. You have to do it for your Father.