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Mikex727

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My whole lifes been a rollercoaster. Everytime something good happens in my life its shortlived and the bad starts coming in sometimes I question myself and my faith I know ive sinned alot in my yeqrs of living and still do this day I struggle with sin I just don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about suicide but I know thats the selfish way to go I've been like this my whole life nothing good ever comes to me ive always been misrable hiding behind fake laughter and smiles.
 
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Mikex727

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Everywhere I turn my kindness is mistaken for weakness I get screwed over and walked on by all
 
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I wonder..... when those good things you mentioned DO happen to you......... Why you?
 
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My whole lifes been a rollercoaster. Everytime something good happens in my life its shortlived and the bad starts coming in sometimes I question myself and my faith I know ive sinned alot in my yeqrs of living and still do this day I struggle with sin I just don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about suicide but I know thats the selfish way to go I've been like this my whole life nothing good ever comes to me ive always been misrable hiding behind fake laughter and smiles.
What are some examples of good happening then bad comes in?
 

BruceWayne

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I think a lot of us have probably gone through times, even long times, where it seems like we can't win. It's definitely frustrating. I don't really have the answer, other than in those times, maybe all we can do is trust that God is bigger than our circumstances and that there will be a turnaround, even if we can't realize it yet. Don't lose faith and hope.

As far as being taken advantage of, keep being kind and keep treating others well. What they do or how they respond is on them, and isn't a reflection of who you are. Just be careful to guard yourself when you do give to others and if people do take advantage of you, take a step back.

I will definitely say a prayer for you and I hope things get better for you, Mike.

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. - Romans 12:12
 
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skylove7

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Everywhere I turn my kindness is mistaken for weakness I get screwed over and walked on by all
I am so sorry for you Mikex

I will pray for you
Please be strong
 

Dino246

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I can relate to some of your post. For years I felt as though the world had a hate on for me. Small joys were crushed by people's insensitivity or downright meanness, or financial challenges, or health issues. I carried a lot of resentment as a result. When I learned that I don't get Life from good experiences, but only from Jesus, and that bad experiences can't take away Life, I was able to let go of the resentments and be at peace. I am convinced that God is both good and powerful, and that not only is He fully able to bring good out of bad, He loves me enough to allow me some bad experiences so that I am reminded to trust in Him alone.

Please find a competent Christian counselor, and tell him you're struggling. There is no shame in seeking help when you need it. Given that you mentioned suicide, you need help... real, face to face help. That's neither a judgment nor a criticism. :)
 
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Sounds like your filling your life with the wrong type of people. I wouldn't say that you give up, but keep on keeping on. Nothing in this world is guaranteed.

Reminds me of a verse I once read in the book of James...

13Come now, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit." 14Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away.15Instead, you ought to say, "If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that."…
If the Lord wills, man. You should get some "prayer warriors" your way. Get in touch with some Jesus in yo' life.

I dunno. Lol Who am I say?
 

christian74

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Everywhere I turn my kindness is mistaken for weakness I get screwed over and walked on by all
I can relate to you.

However, you are being kind to others because that's who are and you are doing the right thing.
Even if you are mistaken for being weak and get screwed over, if you believe you being kind is the right thing to do, then stand by it.
Moreover, I wouldn't care about what they think of you as - being weak - because what really matters is what God thinks of you as you are being kind to others. Lastly, I want you to distinguish the difference between being kind and being unable to say no when someone asks you for a "favor" because it is two different thing. Next time someone takes advantage of you, just look into their eyes and say no - because someone who is kind and meek is stronger than you think.

Take courage my friend.
 

jogoldie

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One of the most important lessons i have learned is......putting things
in proper perspective.....as you see .....bad things happening.....i see..
that you have gotten close to God and the devil is mad...and running
scared.....because he uses people and things around us to try and pry
us from God.....but ..if we hold fast....and stay faithful.....taking one day
at a time....you will soon gain wisdom.....you will have a testimony....
and God will turn that trash to treasure.......dont fall for the devils lies...
nothing is forever......you will rise above it all a better man my friend....peace...jo
 
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Unfortunately, that is life for some. But perhaps you should ask yourself, "Who or what am I living for?" Is it yourself? For your own happiness? If that is the case, you will likely never be satisfied. My life is not the greatest either but I choose to continue to live so that I may find opportunities to be of use to the Lord Jesus Christ by helping others in any way I can, and to ultimately lead them to salvation. Remember, we only have a limited time here on this fallen earth compared to the eternal. So whether good or bad, we should try to make the best of it for His sake.

We are lambs among wolves so it is to be expected that we will be mistreated at times. But that doesn't mean we should be weak pushovers. Another question to ask yourself is, "Why am I getting myself in these situations?" Is it because you are afraid of disappointing others or making them angry? Well, maybe you need to toughen up and learn to say no at times and not worry about what others think of you so much. Or it could be that you are expecting too much in return when you give to others. If so, learn to give freely as Christ did for us.

Christ lived a sinless life and suffered and died as a perfect sacrifice for you and all you have to do is accept His loving gift of complete forgiveness and salvation. Sure, we will fall to sin every day in the flesh but if you have faith in Christ, and Him alone, there is nothing that can separate you from His hand. So keep on living in view of God's mercy regardless of what happens.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Why not you?
 
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skylove7

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My whole lifes been a rollercoaster. Everytime something good happens in my life its shortlived and the bad starts coming in sometimes I question myself and my faith I know ive sinned alot in my yeqrs of living and still do this day I struggle with sin I just don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about suicide but I know thats the selfish way to go I've been like this my whole life nothing good ever comes to me ive always been misrable hiding behind fake laughter and smiles.
Oh heavens Mikex
Don't you dare hurt yourself!
If you need someone to talk to we are all here.

Concentrate on blessings
More than troubles
Do you like making crafts or art? Do you play any instruments?
 
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Mikex727

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Ty for your support I used to draw but not into it no more and I do play the piano what about you?
 
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My whole lifes been a rollercoaster. Everytime something good happens in my life its shortlived and the bad starts coming in sometimes I question myself and my faith I know ive sinned alot in my yeqrs of living and still do this day I struggle with sin I just don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about suicide but I know thats the selfish way to go I've been like this my whole life nothing good ever comes to me ive always been misrable hiding behind fake laughter and smiles.
Hey, Mikex. I think it's normal for us to go through these different kind of seasons. In the hard times, it's especially difficult to see God. This whole year has been a bit of a rollercoaster for me and my life. A Scripture I found comforting is Psalm 61:2-3. "Lead me to the rock that is higher than I." When your heart grows faint, when you can't even rely on yourself or get any strength, pray for God to lead you to Him, to lead you to a place of refuge. I always have to proclaim that to God. "God, You are the rock that I need because I can't do this anymore. Lead me to the rock that is higher than I where I can find comfort and strength. Help me to hunger after you."

Just because you go through a hard season doesn't mean you did anything wrong. It just gives you an excuse to draw closer and to dig deeper into God. Making a choice is important: If you give up, you lose. If you don't give up, you win. Fighting through emotions can be hard because you'd rather just stay in them, but it's important to push through them and cry out to your Father and say, 'God, I'm feeling awful. But, I want to see you be glorified in this and I'm going to allow you to walk with me in these emotions but to also help me grow from this.'

We are here for you and we want to support you. Make a choice to be open to people and to God. We care about you.
 
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skylove7

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Ty for your support I used to draw but not into it no more and I do play the piano what about you?
I peck on the piano lol. I write songs and poetry. I just have a knack for rhyming fast is all it is.

See Mikex...there are alot of things you can do.
If you would like to talk more about what makes you sad...feel free to PM me. Im sad alot. And I pay the consequences for myself and my actions. But I pray constantly God please help me...fix me.
God will love you Mikex
You be strong please.
 
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My whole lifes been a rollercoaster. Everytime something good happens in my life its shortlived and the bad starts coming in sometimes I question myself and my faith I know ive sinned alot in my yeqrs of living and still do this day I struggle with sin I just don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about suicide but I know thats the selfish way to go I've been like this my whole life nothing good ever comes to me ive always been misrable hiding behind fake laughter and smiles.
I couldn't believe I was reading this because its exactly what my life has been like too, except I don't really sin much anymore since i don't do much of anything anymore and I'm probably a lot older. :(
 
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Mello7

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My whole lifes been a rollercoaster. Everytime something good happens in my life its shortlived and the bad starts coming in sometimes I question myself and my faith I know ive sinned alot in my yeqrs of living and still do this day I struggle with sin I just don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about suicide but I know thats the selfish way to go I've been like this my whole life nothing good ever comes to me ive always been misrable hiding behind fake laughter and smiles.
Mikex727,

I have been going through this exact thing pretty much my whole life and at one point I felt like suicide had to be the only answer. I was struggling with my finances, struggling with being alone, struggling with sin, struggling even more after losing my mother. However, I'm slowly figuring out that through all of this, God still has my back and is still in control of my whole life. It seems dark and dreary a lot of the time and I feel like I'm going nowhere but I know God is there for me no matter what the enemy may say.

It's easy to believe the enemy's lies sometimes, that makes us feel like nothing good can come of our life. My strategy has been to look back on the good moments, the times when I knew for sure that it was God who dragged me out barely alive from what ever situation I was faced with at the time.

Here's a virtual hug. Know that you're not the first, or the only one going through this and no matter how much we mess up, God is merciful and sees our heart and our deep desire to serve him and to live a holy life.
 
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JeniBean

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I believe every one who is a Christian goes through this. I often remember that God is faithful (1 Corinthians 10 6-12) and that he will help us endure. In the past 8 years my life is been needless to say alarmingly discouraging and I feel the devil is trying to push me over the edge. However I will not allow it. Every day I find the good in at least one thing, but then that one thing leads to an additional thing. For example, thank you god I woke up today healthy. Thank you god for the rain last night the blessed this city. Thank you god for my children. And so forth. If I sit and think that today my baby bother would've been 40, that my father has an inoperable brain tumor, that my best friend dies 3 months ago, that my grandmother died a month ago, etc., etc. And when I say etc....I mean so much more. I would be allowing the devil to win, torment me and be in a corner huddled in a ball crying. Instead I chose to see God's love, glory and the good things in my life. Do not allow the the things that others do to you to tear you down. You are loved! God Loves you! Look around find the good in your life, pick up your pencil draw what you feel, let your anger and sadness come out through your art and your spirit lifted with each line and Remember God in all times. Be Blessed! Be positive!