Do christians really know the importance of marriage and how much God hates divorce?!

[zoii]

I mean, brethren, I feel so sad seeing so many brothers and sisters having their lives shattered by divorces. What´s behind all this? The enemy? Distance from God? Lack of faith? Not knowing the functions each part should have?

Even when the spouse divorces for the "right" reasons (the only valid reason Jesus said), do they both know they should not get involved or marry again? Why so many adultery? Why so many "I´ll divorce because I do not want to put up with you anymore."?

What about the spouses that, in spite of being mistreated by so many reasons, are willing to forgive and continue to build the marriage, love and serve God, but still, are abandoned?


Dear brethren, recently I´ve been more sensitive to this matter, and believe me, I feel so sad about it...! So sad...


I pray for all brothers and sisters that are facing such devastating reality. May our dear Lord give them all the strength, peace and comfort they need to deal with it every day of their lives...!


May the Lord bless you all, dear brethren!

Let me just say that if I was married...the first time I was assaulted by my husband, that relationship would end right then n there and I scarcely believe in todays world anyone would suggest going back into a violent situation.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

I don't need to start a separate thread because discussing whether or not God's hatred of divorce affects scriptural requirements for church leaders with respect to their families is wholly on-topic here in this thread.

Start a thread... this one is supposed to be about the importance of marriage and got hating divorce. I think it would be a good idea to swing back that direction.

 

[BarlyGurl]

I don't need to start a separate thread because discussing whether or not God's hatred of divorce affects scriptural requirements for church leaders with respect to their families is wholly on-topic here in this thread.

Good point.

Basically what would be the "PURPOSE" of God specifying qualifications and disqualifications of overseers... and preserving the same thru scripture if he expected us to IGNORE IT... and choose any ole' overseer we wanted according to our own priorities???

I don't suspect you are of the persuasion of "do whatever ya want, however you want... it's all GOOD" kinda person. But you do know that the fall-out from the aforementioned "professors" is going to fall on me... and I kinda feel like you are attempting to me shove me off on the tracks... and there is a train coming. So what is your response to my concern?

 

[VioletReigns]

I mean, brethren, I feel so sad seeing so many brothers and sisters having their lives shattered by divorces. What´s behind all this? The enemy? Distance from God? Lack of faith? Not knowing the functions each part should have?

Even when the spouse divorces for the "right" reasons (the only valid reason Jesus said), do they both know they should not get involved or marry again? Why so many adultery? Why so many "I´ll divorce because I do not want to put up with you anymore."?

What about the spouses that, in spite of being mistreated by so many reasons, are willing to forgive and continue to build the marriage, love and serve God, but still, are abandoned?


Dear brethren, recently I´ve been more sensitive to this matter, and believe me, I feel so sad about it...! So sad...


I pray for all brothers and sisters that are facing such devastating reality. May our dear Lord give them all the strength, peace and comfort they need to deal with it every day of their lives...!


May the Lord bless you all, dear brethren!

I find it remarkable, just amazing that Jesus doesn't despair of mankind. Yes, the plight of sin and terrible circumstances around us are apt to make us sad and discouraged. And yet Christ says, "Be of good cheer. I have overcome the world."

When we put our eyes on Jesus and trust that He is able to deliver people from sin and make all things beautiful in His time, we are pliable instruments in His hands. And what a hope we have in Him! The Lord has already given us His strength, peace and comfort and when we rest in Him we can see Him moving in men's hearts, in our own hearts and making us more into His beautiful image.

Of course God hates divorce... as well as adultery, self-righteousness, hatred, jealousy, greed, pride, lust, etc. etc. because these things hinder us from the liberty of grace that He has given to us. But He has taken care of that on the Cross. All things work together for good to them who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. That is truth. Be encouraged, brother. The Lord is still reigning on the Throne and is completing what He started.

We can pray for one another... love one another... fellowship and encourage one another... remind one another that it's a walk of faith in Christ, knowing He is always in control, He is Lord of ALL, now and in the life to come.

I Corinthians 15:19 - "And if our hope in Christ is only for this life, we are more to be pitied than anyone in the world." Remember, the cares of this temporary life can blind you of the eternal future and can make you cynical and depressed. Keep your eyes on Jesus and praise Him, brother! We're don't need to look for the victory, we have the Victor! Praise the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. \/

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Look, I'm a conservative Christian. I'm certainly not a "do whatever ya want, however you want" person at all.

I simply asked you to support your argument, using scripture, for church leaders being disqualified from leadership as a result of their family leading out of control immoral lives.

It's not fair of you to personally attack me by making false assertions about my character because I asked you to support your assertion using scripture and you feel nervous that I asked you to.

I'm not here to hurt you. I'm not preparing to waylay you. I'm just asking you to support your belief with scripture. I'll critique it but I'll be nice.

Good point.

Basically what would be the "PURPOSE" of God specifying qualifications and disqualifications of overseers... and preserving the same thru scripture if he expected us to IGNORE IT... and choose any ole' overseer we wanted according to our own priorities???

I don't suspect you are of the persuasion of "do whatever ya want, however you want... it's all GOOD" kinda person. But you do know that the fall-out from the aforementioned "professors" is going to fall on me... and I kinda feel like you are attempting to me shove me off on the tracks... and there is a train coming. So what is your response to my concern?

 

[BarlyGurl]

Look, I'm a conservative Christian. I'm certainly not a "do whatever ya want, however you want" person at all.

I simply asked you to support your argument, using scripture, for church leaders being disqualified from leadership as a result of their family leading out of control immoral lives.

It's not fair of you to personally attack me by making false assertions about my character because I asked you to support your assertion using scripture and you feel nervous that I asked you to.

I'm not here to hurt you. I'm not preparing to waylay you. I'm just asking you to support your belief with scripture. I'll critique it but I'll be nice.

I think you mis-understood...
My concern is the "fall-out" (from others) falling on me from being the author of the "teaching" you are requesting me to present.

I was NOT making any accusations at your character. I sincerely do not SEE from my post where I wrote something to cause you to draw that conclusion?

I will work on the Scriptures, I do have appointment today... so I will post at a later time.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Forget the "fall out." If you are, in fact, a genuine Christian then I think you should choose to NOT be so concerned what everyone else thinks.

Do as I do and make arguments, support them with scripture, and defend them even in the face of fierce resistance if you believe they are true.

And if in the course of that you learn something is not true, and that happens, then change your position to align with the truth and be wiser for it.

Make one scripturally supported argument for this position of yours. I personally agree with your position btw that church leadership roles should not be populated by people whose families are living in utter immorality and rebellion to God's holiness.

All you'll find from me, is that I'm supportive of that position. So stand up and do it. Peace.

I think you mis-understood...
My concern is the "fall-out" (from others) falling on me from being the author of the "teaching" you are requesting me to present.

I was NOT making any accusations at your character. I sincerely do not SEE from my post where I wrote something to cause you to draw that conclusion?

I will work on the Scriptures, I do have appointment today... so I will post at a later time.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

*cricket* *cricket* *cricket*

 

[Mae1117]

I am currently standing for my very broken marriage. I serve a God of restoration and believe with Him all things are possible. This year has taught me to trust God for EVERYTHING!

 

[Sanfam]

Well, I actually have the answer to your question. And in a way you wouldn't expect.

I was engaged to a woman. Well, she was still married. Well, she was not even divorcing the guy.

Long story, but I thought I had biblical grounds. She did not consummate her marriage and she believes he cheated on her. So, we thought we were simply going to annul her marriage and get married ourselves. Others told us not to do this but our pastor allowed us to start pre marriage counseling so we felt we had their blessings.

But, the Holy Spirit was tugging hard at my heart and I felt guilty and dirty and did not know why. I thought it was ok?

But, after the marriage I realized all the sin we committed.

It makes since now. I logically and emotionally and sunfully argued the Holy Spirit out of the warnings and that is what is happening to others as well. They feal a slight tug on their heart saying "no" but there are so many misunderstandings about divorce and remarriage that they go
By their mind and not according to the Spirit. We American Christians for the most part really don't know the Spirits leading or voice anymore. Too much sin and too much love of the World.