Should I be concerned

[ArtsieSteph]

So I've been at my job for about two months now, and I had a major oops happen on part. Fortunately my manager was able to sort it out, but he made it clear that this was not something that he enjoyed doing. He also said that if he needed to be more of an ironfisted person to get the job done right he would. (This is said in half jest.) But there are some comments he said that worried me.

"I try my best to be a good person and let everyone kind of (mess) around. But I can be a bad person."
"I once had someone that I scared so so much they had a heart attack because of me and he died....yeah I had to scare them that much to get the job done."

Now at first I was seriuosly scared for a second, but I have seen him react protctively towards other people when there was a possibility for someone to get hurt/messed with by another customer.

I guess the question is, should I try and look for new jobs? My mom says to let it go and sort of keep in mind if anything else worries me, but there seems to be a real trend towards anger in my work, all the way to the head owner. I guess I'm just worried because I have a hard time "disregarding that statement" as in legal terms.

 

[JustAnotherUser]

The unfortunate thing is with many jobs, whether from retail to CEO managing, there will be people who jerk around and abuse their position and harass some employees because they can. I've seen this happen even while working in retail and it was more of an occurrence than bumping into rude customers (in fact, when helping a nice customer it would make the workday a bit of a better day...) Since it wasn't a personal attack or a direct threat, there's really not much you can do since it's only word for word that another can deny. I'd say let it go unless it escalates to anything personal.

With that said, I would say that the second comment went a bit overboard for showing frustration over something that could've been any party's fault. It could have been true, it could have not. If you don't feel like the pay is worth the frustration if this happens often then consider on finding another (and better paying) job, but don't call it quits during the process since you may not be able to find one and need the income still. That's all I can really advise.

 

[Galahad]

Your mom is right.

How long has your manager been working with company?

What is the anger? Your boss is angry with you? Your bosses boss?

Are you still in a learning mode with the job?

What kind of job is it?

Just so much information left out of your response.

Can you really afford to consider whether you should you stay or not?

 

[ArtsieSteph]

Your mom is right.

How long has your manager been working with company?

What is the anger? Your boss is angry with you? Your bosses boss?

Are you still in a learning mode with the job?

What kind of job is it?

Just so much information left out of your response.

Can you really afford to consider whether you should you stay or not?

Well this manager is a comanager with another fellow, one who is very nice but has honestly only been there for 6 months. So in truth, the one in question is really the head manager. The anger is more that he has to deal with the situation and not so much me. He doesn't really enjoy people per sey, he's said he may well have borderling personality disorder... that being said the other anger I mentioned was the owner, in that she is very wirey and when speaking about bad situations with people she talks in many explatives. My problem is also that learning mode for me may well take months, which may not bode well with others. It's an art supply store job that pays $8.25 an hour and I am part time.

I guess I wonder if I should look for another job... it just looks so bad on a resume to bounce around...

 

[Galahad]

Well this manager is a comanager with another fellow, one who is very nice but has honestly only been there for 6 months. So in truth, the one in question is really the head manager. The anger is more that he has to deal with the situation and not so much me. He doesn't really enjoy people per sey, he's said he may well have borderling personality disorder... that being said the other anger I mentioned was the owner, in that she is very wirey and when speaking about bad situations with people she talks in many explatives. My problem is also that learning mode for me may well take months, which may not bode well with others. It's an art supply store job that pays $8.25 an hour and I am part time.

I guess I wonder if I should look for another job... it just looks so bad on a resume to bounce around...

Okay. It comes down to your patience and temperance. Okay.

My advice: Stay where you are.
From what you told me, I warn you: DO NOT GOSSIP. BITE your tongue there.

Stay or not: Put in another 2 mos to 3 mos, then start looking for another job.

If it is a franchise art store, you might be able to move up into management. Learn as much as you can. Show stability by staying. But learn while you are there.

The employment opportunities are not many, as you know. So just wait things out. Grow from the experience. If you just leave to escape, it's not a challenge, there's no growth.

Use what you know to be true:
You know it is unwise to float around from job to job. Okay. So stay with it for a bit longer.
You know you will learn from staying. Okay. So learn more. e
You know you job opportunities are scarce. Okay. So wait, then look. c
You know work conditions are never what we want them. Okay. So adapt at the job you have.
You know growth comes from challenges. Okay. So exercise your faith, your wisdom, your mind in addressing your concerns most constructively.

One way to think of your time at work is as going to the gym to exercise. You go there to exercise your spiritual virtues. Your patience. Your temperance. Your focus. Your focus on why you are there. Focus on: "The manager is angry. That's okay. Just be calm. Move with ease. Speak clearly. Know that the manager is not always right. Nothing wrong with questions." So on.

Read Colossians 3. Pay attention to the concept doing all things heartily, as unto the Lord.
Remember, you are not jus an employee. You are working. You are being responsible. You work for the Lord.

Thank you for your response. I feel for you. Work conditions in many places, well; a lot of them are managed by the selfish folks we meet everyday.

I hope this helps.

 

[ArtsieSteph]

I thank God for the notion of good cop and bad cop, because basically I got to work with my other manager today and he was able to explain what happened and what needed to be done in more of a way that I could grasp. It was a good day

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

"I try my best to be a good person and let everyone kind of (mess) around. But I can be a bad person."
"I once had someone that I scared so so much they had a heart attack because of me and he died....yeah I had to scare them that much to get the job done."

What the heck?! Who says that?? Is this guy 5'3", and does he drive a really expensive sports car, too?

Let it ride but always keep your options open. Should he actually get hostile or behave inappropriately with you then you might consider leaving, prospect(s) or not prospect(s).

 

[jamie26301]

Some people have a really crude sense of humor... Not saying that was it, but strong statements doesn't necessarily indicate a hostile or dishonest person. A comedian once said of his child in a stand up "I brought you into this world and I can take you out!" No one thinks that predicts a homicidal act by a parent... I hope.

Strong language may make us uncomfortable, but often drives the point home. It's actually common to my knowledge for this to be used (or used to be common) to express authority in uncertain terms, but we have become so politically correct as a cultue, it's very surprising.

And different people have different metaphors/illustrations for what they want to say, depending on background, personality, etc. And some people are joking but they look serious to most people, cause they just don't have the joker face that most people associate with jest. I don't know, just some things to think about.