What Assumptions People Made To You That You Dislike Most?

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JustViv

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When one is single, people around us like to make various types of assumptions. Are there any assumptions that people say to you that annoys you?

Mine are as follows:-

  • You are single, so you are very free, not like us, so busy with our children and husband! Now, you go and do this and that.
  • You won't understand! You think married life is good? Why bother to look for a spouse? Just stay single!
  • God does not want you to be married!
  • You're single at this age? Wow...you must be filthy rich then!
  • What? You are still single? How did you manage?

How about you?
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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As a 25 year old male in the United States, it's almost expected for me to be single. I think a lot of people assume I'm a player.

Pentecostal ministers do, anyway.
 
mochi

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Mine:
1. You must be picky, you should get a partner soon before you grow old and no body want you
2. Are you normal?? Have you ever fall in love with man??
 
melita916

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JustViv said:
Mine are as follows:-

  • You are single, so you are very free, not like us, so busy with our children and husband! Now, you go and do this and that.
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this one. someone needed me to do something for them. when i told them i didn't have time, they responded with, "no time? you're single! it's not like you have a family or house to look after!"
 
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LiJo

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When I go out with a male friend and people assume we are a couple, it gets awkward sometimes. Now I just avoid going out alone with male friends, I go in groups of 3 or more.
 
melita916

melita916

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LiJo said:
When I go out with a male friend and people assume we are a couple, it gets awkward sometimes. Now I just avoid going out alone with male friends, I go in groups of 3 or more.
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So a story from yesterday. Friends and I went to lunch. The way we were standing in line: married friends, single melita, then single guy friend.

Married friends ordered then moved to the side. I approach the cashier and ordered. She gives me my price, and I hand her my card. She then asked, "*points to guy friend* is he not ordering anything?"

"Oh he's on his own order." Lol why assume we were together??

People -_- lol
 
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LiJo

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melita916 said:
So a story from yesterday. Friends and I went to lunch. The way we were standing in line: married friends, single melita, then single guy friend.

Married friends ordered then moved to the side. I approach the cashier and ordered. She gives me my price, and I hand her my card. She then asked, "*points to guy friend* is he not ordering anything?"

"Oh he's on his own order." Lol why assume we were together??

People -_- lol
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Sadly, this happens quite often.
 
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JeniBean

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"How can you be single, your're the total package?"
"Have you switched sides?"
"Do you ever think you're single because your so strong and bold? You should be meek."
BLAH...BLAH...BLAH...BLAH
 
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LiJo

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JeniBean said:
"How can you be single, your're the total package?"
"Have you switched sides?"
"Do you ever think you're single because your so strong and bold? You should be meek."
BLAH...BLAH...BLAH...BLAH
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It never occurs to them that we just haven't met the right person or perhaps we are not ready.
People assume right there must be something wrong with us!!
 
melita916

melita916

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[someone talking with my dad]

him: hey brother. looks like i beat ya in number of grandkids.
dad: yeah. i only have 5. you have 7 and one on the way.
him: yup! you could have more, but it looks like melita doesn't wanna give you grandkids.

[melita thinking to self] uhhh i never said i didn't want kids.

all because i'm not "out there" dating, people assume i don't wanna get married and have kids. sigh.
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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I'm the only man who has responded so far. This disappoints me.
 
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Rush

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What's that? she's my age and also single? Wow! You're totally right! I'm sure she's the woman of my dreams :p

Surely you can't REALLY like living alone?! (Coming home to an empty house is like sinking into a hot spa people!)
 
Olerica

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That because I am serious I am no fun.
 
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sassylady

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The one I have often encountered is that I will not meet anybody because I still have kids at home (going to school). I have dated three men that had nothing but good to say about my children, but they wanted me and didn't want my children around. A few friends told me I probably wouldn't marry until my kids were all out on their own. I feel undesirable because of something that should not even be considered bad. As if I need a babysitter to go on a date. It's ridiculous, yet I wonder if there could possibly be a man in my age group that could also care about my children. I don't mean be their father, just care about them too.
 
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PartyOf3

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I do not know how to beat around the bush, I don't speak eloquently, and when asked my opinion I give it, I don't stand and look down and point fingers, but I won't lie either, so lots of people assume I am a expletive, when the truth is I care very much. I have been told I am intimidating, and unaproachable. But my heart isn't that way, I would give you my shirt if you needed it
 
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PartyOf3

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sassylady said:
The one I have often encountered is that I will not meet anybody because I still have kids at home (going to school). I have dated three men that had nothing but good to say about my children, but they wanted me and didn't want my children around. A few friends told me I probably wouldn't marry until my kids were all out on their own. I feel undesirable because of something that should not even be considered bad. As if I need a babysitter to go on a date. It's ridiculous, yet I wonder if there could possibly be a man in my age group that could also care about my children. I don't mean be their father, just care about them too.
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oh sassy!!! I promise there are men out there that would love your children like their own, I do believe they are few and far between. My daddy and my husband are both those types. My divorced mother met my daddy when I was 12(I didn't know my bio father), I was single with 3 kids when I met my husband. Both of these men saw children who needed them and they stepped up. Be specific in your prayers about the man you want to meet and help you raise your children and do sheiks your children for awhile till you get to know him
 
melita916

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i live with my parents. because of it and being single, people believe i have lots of money.
 
seoulsearch

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melita916 said:
i live with my parents. because of it and being single, people believe i have lots of money.
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Wait a minute... If Melita has a lot of money, maybe I need to as HER to bring ME a snocone... :p
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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melita916 said:
i live with my parents. because of it and being single, people believe i have lots of money.
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seoulsearch said:
Wait a minute... If Melita has a lot of money, maybe I need to as HER to bring ME a snocone... :p
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Seeing as how she "liked" this post... Now I'm going to ask her to bring me a penguin. ;)
 
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