How am I supposed to have faith that I'll get a girlfriend if...

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dothackzero

dothackzero

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There's no reason for me to have faith that I'll get one. S

Seriously, I have no real friends that are girls. I've never kissed a girl, or done anything fun with a girl(non-sexually(sadly...) or sexually). Even when I was thinking about when I was around my friends at the Bible study. I was also getting depressed about how I'm not growing as fast as a Christian as then. Then they started talking about how much I've grown as a Christian over the last 6 months. But it's like God was avoiding the subject about the girls. Really, I don't have much hope at all in the natural or from God that I'll ever get a girlfriend...
 
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Dude, God had provided for you this long. Whether you get a girlfriend or not is irrelevant. He may plan for you to have one, he may plan for you to be single for the rest of your life. But it's okay. Whatever happens, God is there. I'm single too. I've never kissed a girl either. I might remain single forever, but it's okay. It would just mean that God's plan would work out better with us single than it would with us not single. There's no way for us to know what God's going to do with us. He may have us do something where a girlfriend/wife would hinder or prevent His plan. On the other hand, He might lead us to a Godly woman. We don't know. Whatever happens, there's no need to be depressed.
 
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I don't wait for anything. I make it happen.
 
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dothackzero said:
There's no reason for me to have faith that I'll get one. S

Seriously, I have no real friends that are girls. I've never kissed a girl, or done anything fun with a girl(non-sexually(sadly...) or sexually). Even when I was thinking about when I was around my friends at the Bible study. I was also getting depressed about how I'm not growing as fast as a Christian as then. Then they started talking about how much I've grown as a Christian over the last 6 months. But it's like God was avoiding the subject about the girls. Really, I don't have much hope at all in the natural or from God that I'll ever get a girlfriend...
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Waiting sucks, I know... But God has a plan for you, what that is is hard to say, but you got to trust in the Lord. That doesnt mean you can't look at girls or thnk about dating girls, or flirt or ask girls out. You can do all o fthat, but you have to trust him as well. I know its not easy, I have lots of friends who have been single up to this point and I have only had one boyfriend, who i rushed into dating because basically i wanted a boyfriend, and he was a christian. Beware of that, dont date someone just cause you want to date it makes a lot of heartbreak in the end.
 
MahogonySnail

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kissing is overrated anyway, you might get girl germs. Your future wife will appreciate that you haven't kissed any other girls and got their germs.
 
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sportygirl said:
Waiting sucks, I know... But God has a plan for you, what that is is hard to say, but you got to trust in the Lord. That doesnt mean you can't look at girls or thnk about dating girls, or flirt or ask girls out. You can do all o fthat, but you have to trust him as well. I know its not easy, I have lots of friends who have been single up to this point and I have only had one boyfriend, who i rushed into dating because basically i wanted a boyfriend, and he was a christian. Beware of that, dont date someone just cause you want to date it makes a lot of heartbreak in the end.
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yep, you got it right girl
 
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the right girl will come soon!
 
dothackzero

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dothackzero said:
There's no reason for me to have faith that I'll get one. S

Seriously, I have no real friends that are girls. I've never kissed a girl, or done anything fun with a girl(non-sexually(sadly...) or sexually). Even when I was thinking about when I was around my friends at the Bible study. I was also getting depressed about how I'm not growing as fast as a Christian as then. Then they started talking about how much I've grown as a Christian over the last 6 months. But it's like God was avoiding the subject about the girls. Really, I don't have much hope at all in the natural or from God that I'll ever get a girlfriend...
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Oh yeah, I forgot mention that I've been waiting for a girlfriend for over 6 1/2 years now...
 
dothackzero

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btw, I also have more faith that I'll be healed of my OCD and GAD more than I'll ever get a girlfriend....
 
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dothackzero, I don't mean to embarrase you but I feel like if you learn to overcome that addiction you have that you posted in that other thread, you will be supprissed how much less you will think about desireing a girl. I too was like you not having any guts to ask or hardly talk to girls, now I feel like I could easily have one,if I chose just any, but now I am picky to find one that is a good Christian. I may end up being single because of this, but you know when I get to those pearly gates thank God, I will no longer desire a women, because Jesus said that no one is given into marriage in the Kingdom of God.
 
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I remember when I was in my pre-teens and then my teens and I would ask God for a boyfriend.
I didn't have one for years and I think that was a good thing.
When I did start dating, my relationships were bad, confused, based on wrong ideas, hurtful to me.
God had my best interest in mind by putting it off, maybe He's doing the same in your life.
 
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cari_loves_god

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I thought the same thing cuz none of my real friends are guys so until i meet a very special guy on here i was upset and depressed thinking that i would be single forever till i meet a very special guy and he asked me out. have faith in it dude dont worry u will find a girl that means alot to you it may take a while
 
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maybe god gave you the want of a girlfriend, but he also gave humans free will. so possibly YOU must chose to act and get yourself out there and on the market instead of just waiting.
 
dothackzero

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Really? I didn't know having social anxiety was a choice...
 
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dothack honestly i think you just need to get over it. i mean there are things we want and for whatever reason we can't have them right now. i mean... lets see i'd like a ferrari. i can pray for a ferrari, have faith that God will mail me one, wait 6 1/2 years, do whatever i can to enter into contests where i could win one but... reality is i can't have one right now.

so instead of making myself sick with desire. i just get over it. can't have a ferrari right now. ok. maybe someday, maybe not. but my hope and my joy is not found in that. any empty void in you, God will fill. stop WANTING. greatkaw said at somepoint be content. really thats a choice, whether it seems that way or not. so make the CHOICE to be content right now and seek after God for the sole purpose of wanting to love Him and serve Him instead of seeking Him for how He can bless you.

good luckkkkkkk.
 
DinoDillinger

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Doth, man... Are you ready to marry a woman and support her emotionally, finiancally and spiritually?

Are you capable of these things? You wont see casual dating in the bible. Getting emotionally bonded to someone and then breaking up can damage future relationships.

Sooooo, unless you are ready on all fronts to take a wife and start a family....FOCUS on getting ready instead of worrying if you will ever get one.

God delights in giving His children good gifts. So when you are ready, I'm pretty sure He will give you one. If you pray about it like you post about it, I'm sure He gets it, Doth wants a woman. :)

God bless you
 
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Hey Dude

Yeh seriously chill!! I am 20 (21 in April) and like you havent had a gf, kissed etc and i wouldn't want it any other way, you need to get yourself on your feet first, i understand the pains, i get like that occassionally thats normal! Just don't think about it for now, relax have a look around and WAIT.... wait wait wait!! Its hard, very hard i sympathise with you all my friends have had past gf's and now stable in a relationship and yeh thats really hard to see but you know what....Have trust,courage and faith in the lord and you will have no worries and thats a promise! Get yourself a job (not saying you havent got one) sort yourself out financally then worry about finding a girl....So many people these days rush into relationships sure some relationships may be "love at first sight" But to me thats a load of tosh! You cant love some-one until you know them so please just dont worry yourself over it i promise things will work out for you again, please if you want to talk i am more than happy for you to message me i hope this helps you dude, i shall pray for you now....!

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Dear God i pray today that you will help this guy to have the courage to wait for when the time is right help him to understand the importance to have trust in you, make sure he realises the greatness of your ways, and help him to make the right choices in life lead him, work with him and bring eternal happiness

Thanks be to god

Amen
 
dothackzero

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Demeter said:
maybe god gave you the want of a girlfriend, but he also gave humans free will. so possibly YOU must chose to act and get yourself out there and on the market instead of just waiting.
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Actually, I'm starting to think that maybe you have real point...
 
dothackzero

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blah, now I just need to find a what I need to do. Do I need to wait for God or is God waiting for me. I mean I want I want to act and move forward with girls and my shyness, but the problem is that I'm just too afraid to act...
 
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dothackzero said:
blah, now I just need to find a what I need to do. Do I need to wait for God or is God waiting for me. I mean I want I want to act and move forward with girls and my shyness, but the problem is that I'm just too afraid to act...
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dude you got the wrong attitude
just make friends with any girl that comes along
while you only gonna make friends with what you see as a potential partner you are objectifying girls which means you are DISRESPECTING THEM
 
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