a new christian is not enough...

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Olerica

Olerica

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Oh Sapph - Keep digging in the Word, and allowing God to work in you. God wants you to get to maturity in him too! I don't think you are 'not good enough', and neither does God. Pray and seek about this situation and allow God to speak to you!
 
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SapphireNat

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Olerica said:
Oh Sapph - Keep digging in the Word, and allowing God to work in you. God wants you to get to maturity in him too! I don't think you are 'not good enough', and neither does God. Pray and seek about this situation and allow God to speak to you!
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yeah I know. Satan uses this situation really wisely to show me that I am "not good enough". maybe I should stay alone for the rest of my life. The guy should find a better and more mature christian. I could put him down and his faith too.
 
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ServantStrike

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SapphireNat said:
yeah I know. Satan uses this situation really wisely to show me that I am "not good enough". maybe I should stay alone for the rest of my life. The guy should find a better and more mature christian. I could put him down and his faith too.
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Or you could just tell him how you really feel and let him know that you respect his faith.

That might just work.
 
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SapphireNat

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I feel like God told me forgive, love and have a relationship with him. I am just too weak do it by my own :(
 
Olerica

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SapphireNat said:
I feel like God told me forgive, love and have a relationship with him. I am just too weak do it by my own :(
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If that's the case? Just accept the date. If the date goes well, accept the next one he asks you on... one step at a time, right? And pray. Don't stop praying because you are dating. :) God's there with you every step of the way, and... if you are building this relationship together, you are working it out together. Talk about the stuff you need to, right? It's going to be ok.

And if this guy isn't the ONE, it's not like he's the only man out there EVER who will find you attractive. Breathe! Trust God to lead you. It's going to be ok.
 
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SapphireNat

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Olerica said:
If that's the case? Just accept the date. If the date goes well, accept the next one he asks you on... one step at a time, right? And pray. Don't stop praying because you are dating. :) God's there with you every step of the way, and... if you are building this relationship together, you are working it out together. Talk about the stuff you need to, right? It's going to be ok.

And if this guy isn't the ONE, it's not like he's the only man out there EVER who will find you attractive. Breathe! Trust God to lead you. It's going to be ok.
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thanks, sister :) God bless you! one step at a time :) and I am praying that I will never look back.
 
PopClick

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Nat, it's possible that the very reason he said no to a relationship at first was because he sought God about the matter. It might have been exactly what he was supposed to do (though I don't claim to know if it was or not), but I would appreciate and respect anyone seeking God and putting Him in the center of any big decision the way this guy did. I think it's admirable.

I understand that it hurt, and I'm sorry, but do step back for a bit and see just how much bigger this situation might be, bigger than your pain, I mean. There's no substitute for a solid foundation in Christ, and it's possible that you experienced this pain in order for that solid foundation to take form. I will pray for your healing though. (Hugs)
 
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jsr1221

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SapphireNat said:
a long story is short. one year ago I became a christian, that summer I met a guy whom i liked. we hanged out the whole summer together. I overheard him praying for me and our future relationship, he sought counceling... i was waiting for him to ask me out. He never did it, one month before i was leaving i told him how i felt about him (I gave him a hint). He said that "he would rather stay friends". so i felt rejected and i was crying a lot...
recently i came back to that city and now he wants me to be part of his life. he activly persues me. he just proves that before I was a new christian and I was not enough for him... the question is: Should I give him the second chance? Yes I forgave him, but does it mean that I forget it.
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If he flat out said you weren't good enough, then no. He doesn't deserve a second chance at all. There's a saying that you don't know how good you have it til it's gone. I'd he's feeling that you're " good enough" now because it's convenient for him, it's his loss.
 
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SapphireNat

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If he flat out said you weren't good enough, then no. He doesn't deserve a second chance at all. There's a saying that you don't know how good you have it til it's gone. I'd he's feeling that you're " good enough" now because it's convenient for him, it's his loss.
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he never said it to me. He put my relationship with God at first because I were a new christian. so he just left me for a while alone!
 
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SapphireNat

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PopClick said:
Nat, it's possible that the very reason he said no to a relationship at first was because he sought God about the matter. It might have been exactly what he was supposed to do (though I don't claim to know if it was or not), but I would appreciate and respect anyone seeking God and putting Him in the center of any big decision the way this guy did. I think it's admirable.

I understand that it hurt, and I'm sorry, but do step back for a bit and see just how much bigger this situation might be, bigger than your pain, I mean. There's no substitute for a solid foundation in Christ, and it's possible that you experienced this pain in order for that solid foundation to take form. I will pray for your healing though. (Hugs)
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thanks, everything you said is the truth. blessings.
 
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