I'm in the end stages of losing my marriage to my husbands porn use and him soliciting sex online. I can assure you my husbands porn addiction had nothing to do with me. He already had this problem. I even had a pastor ask me how my love life was and suggested I tried to please him more. I left his office confused that my pastor just suggested it was my fault. Since then I've been just baffled that so many people share that view. God has opened my eyes to the very clever ways the devil has tried to twist this issue around so the problem is not actually addressed. Some people just refuse to change. Porn is so toxic and damaging. Unfortunately there's this really big problem that hinders some from the truth. It's the deceitful heart that is constantly making deals with our conscience. Like it's not hurting anyone if they don't know or everyone does it. There is no cure for the deceitful heart but we can expose every little lie and walk in truth one thought at a time when we surrender our lives to Jesus. I praise God though because through the storm I have fallen back in love with my first and only true love. The lover of my soul. My Lord Jesus Christ.
I'm so very very sorry this is happening to you, to your marriage. Though yes, through hurts and pain the Lord draws us nearer to Him thank Him so much.
In the meantime, here are a couple links (if your husband will receive them? or if you want to give them to him if you haven't done so already) through Focus on the Family website. Sadly it's a major major problem with the internet and even married Christian couples. Satan want to divide and destroy the family unit and the temptations are out there, especially on the internet. Perhaps even if you email him these links.. Can only pray.
PS, I pray your pastor also is given wisdom to this matter. It's a HUGE problem and your hurts are VALID and you are not to blame. I know you know that but I'm also just giving some other alternatives because through Jesus Christ our Lord, THERE IS HOPE. This is between God and your husband and you first and foremost. If your husband goes to Jesus first and foremost, the Lord can DO ALL THINGS for His Glory.
I pray the our Lord gives you so much comfort and love in healing your hurts from this and also gives your husband the self control and new mindset to stay away from it and focus on Jesus Christ our Lord first and always. For the Glory of God and love in all things in the Name of Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.
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