I got a question.

[shotgunner]

Well I think I over think my actions.
I was curious but I agree with what my parents say. But I was curious about his demand. My clear question is if frustration is sinful. God bless you.

It's OK to get angry or frustrated as long as you don't allow it to effect your actions or your perceptions. The scripture says :be ye angry and sin not. Just never allow anger or frustration to live in you. It should be a quickly passing emotion. If you allow it to stay too long it can become a root of bitterness that will effect all areas of your life.

 

[oldhermit]

Well I think I over think my actions.
I was curious but I agree with what my parents say. But I was curious about his demand. My clear question is if frustration is sinful. God bless you.

There is nothing wrong with feeling frustrated, LOL. In fact it is the hallmark of being a teenager. The answer is learning to control your frustration and put your frustration in proper perspective. This is not always easy for a teenager because you have not yet had enough life experience to know how to do this well, but if you will start approaching all of your emotional challenges in this way I promise you it will get easier as you get older.

 

[Oris]

Well I feel less weight on my shoulders now.
I just worry because I used to have a very short temper so I often result in holding all my anger in then so it will hurt me instead of other people. I still do hold in anger because im afraid it will consume me like before.
But God will strengthen me. God bless you sir.

 

[Oris]

God bless.

 

[Magenta]

God bless you, Oris. You have a pretty good attitude Tell your dad you love him

 

[atwhatcost]

If my father tells me I'm wrong for not doing something more often. And I ask him in surprise why he tells me that. Or I listen but question out of curiosity but frustration loud but not yelling or angry why he says that. Is that breaking God's commandment?

This is going to be a bit of a shock for you, (well, maybe not after reading the other responses lol), but we've all been your age and remember what it feels like. Quite a bit of flapping wings getting ready to leave the nest and go on our own.

One of the things I remember was thinking Dad had no clue what it was like to be a teen. (He was actually quite a bit different than I was as a teen. At 16 he was already in university. Me? I was struggling through sophomore year of high school. I never did get his smart gene nor his curly hair gene. lol)

But I heard a singer that really connected to me. His name was Cat Stevens. The song was Father and Son, but, even as the daughter, the first time listening to it, (which I just found out was at least two years after he played it for this audience), I felt like he really caught on to my struggle as the daughter. The second time I listened, I caught on to the struggle of the father. It taught me something early in life -- parents aren't clueless and children aren't necessarily wrong, BUT there is wisdom in listening and thinking out what the parent say too.

I'm including the song so you get this from both sides.
[video=youtube;E-DsYmxznWA]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E-DsYmxznWA[/video]

You will fly the coop soon. I know 18 feels like 20,000 years from now, but it comes much quicker than you can imagine. (And goes even quicker. lol) While flapping your wings to prepare to fly, listen to your parents. They too are preparing for you to fly. They just happen to know it's going to hurt them because they know you will get hurt and they can't stop it. Worse yet, you won't be with them as often. They're struggling to prepare you as best they can most of the time. (And the other time? Let's face it Nothing frustrates us more than family. That will be a constant. lol)

 

[atwhatcost]

There is nothing wrong with feeling frustrated, LOL. In fact it is the hallmark of being a teenager. The answer is learning to control your frustration and put your frustration in proper perspective. This is not always easy for a teenager because you have not yet had enough life experience to know how to do this well, but if you will start approaching all of your emotional challenges in this way I promise you it will get easier as you get older.

Ummm, how much older is that going to happen?

(Oris, sorry, but I'm old and still lack patience. lol)

 

[Dan58]

If my father tells me I'm wrong for not doing something more often. And I ask him in surprise why he tells me that. Or I listen but question out of curiosity but frustration loud but not yelling or angry why he says that. Is that breaking God's commandment?

No not at all. But does that make me hypocrite?

I feel real bad about that response. I should have agreed with him instantly.

It all depends on what your father is telling you your wrong about and what he thinks you need to do more often? There's nothing wrong with questioning him in a respectful way. If your father is giving you bad advise or wants you to do something that you know is wrong or sinful, then don't do it. The bible says to honor your parents, but they don't take precedence over your Father in heaven.

 

[oldhermit]

Ummm, how much older is that going to happen?

(Oris, sorry, but I'm old and still lack patience. lol)

LOL. I guess later for some than others.

 

[oldthennew]

This is going to be a bit of a shock for you, (well, maybe not after reading the other responses lol), but we've all been your age and remember what it feels like. Quite a bit of flapping wings getting ready to leave the nest and go on our own.

One of the things I remember was thinking Dad had no clue what it was like to be a teen. (He was actually quite a bit different than I was as a teen. At 16 he was already in university. Me? I was struggling through sophomore year of high school. I never did get his smart gene nor his curly hair gene. lol)

But I heard a singer that really connected to me. His name was Cat Stevens. The song was Father and Son, but, even as the daughter, the first time listening to it, (which I just found out was at least two years after he played it for this audience), I felt like he really caught on to my struggle as the daughter. The second time I listened, I caught on to the struggle of the father. It taught me something early in life -- parents aren't clueless and children aren't necessarily wrong, BUT there is wisdom in listening and thinking out what the parent say too.

I'm including the song so you get this from both sides.
[video=youtube;E-DsYmxznWA]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E-DsYmxznWA[/video]

You will fly the coop soon. I know 18 feels like 20,000 years from now, but it comes much quicker than you can imagine. (And goes even quicker. lol) While flapping your wings to prepare to fly, listen to your parents. They too are preparing for you to fly. They just happen to know it's going to hurt them because they know you will get hurt and they can't stop it. Worse yet, you won't be with them as often. They're struggling to prepare you as best they can most of the time. (And the other time? Let's face it Nothing frustrates us more than family. That will be a constant. lol)

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thanks Lynn,
for some early morning joy!!!

just had to pick-up the harmonica and play along......

 

[HeRoseFromTheDead]

Well I think I over think my actions.
I was curious but I agree with what my parents say. But I was curious about his demand. My clear question is if frustration to myself is sinful? God bless you.

No, of course not. You have a right to be yourself. That is a life-long struggle. Sometimes how we ask questions in order to figure out life creates problems, because people in authority think we're questioning their authority. That's why it sometimes helps to first let them know that you respect their authority, and then ask them meekly if they can help you understand why something needs to be done so that you can be better at doing what they want. They may not know what they're talking about, but that is for you to figure out along the way.

 

[DiscipleDave]

Well I think I over think my actions.
I was curious but I agree with what my parents say. But I was curious about his demand. My clear question is if frustration to myself is sinful? God bless you.

There is nothing in Scriptures that teach frustration is sinful. Now how you handle frustration that could indeed be sinful, for example if you cuss up a storm when you are frustrated, or if you fail to LOVE ONE ANOTHER because you are frustrated. God Himself was frustrated continually over the Israelite's. He was frustrated with how humankind turned out before He flooded the entire Earth, save eight. He was frustrated with Lucifer and the war that happened in Heaven. It is how you deal with frustration that might or might not be sinful.

^i^ responding to Post # 18

 

[Oris]

There is nothing in Scriptures that teach frustration is sinful. Now how you handle frustration that could indeed be sinful, for example if you cuss up a storm when you are frustrated, or if you fail to LOVE ONE ANOTHER because you are frustrated. God Himself was frustrated continually over the Israelite's. He was frustrated with how humankind turned out before He flooded the entire Earth, save eight. He was frustrated with Lucifer and the war that happened in Heaven. It is how you deal with frustration that might or might not be sinful.

^i^ responding to Post # 18

I like Romans chapter six.

 

[DP]

After you have obeyed, then asking in humility, because of wanting to understand, no problem. God's prophets did the same, in humility.

 

[Oris]

It all depends on what your father is telling you your wrong about and what he thinks you need to do more often? There's nothing wrong with questioning him in a respectful way. If your father is giving you bad advise or wants you to do something that you know is wrong or sinful, then don't do it. The bible says to honor your parents, but they don't take precedence over your Father in heaven.

It was about the past since I am online school I have to turn in a lot of stuff. So I sometimes don't because of my Iresponsibility. So I asked him why he talks about the past? I was wondering if talking in frustration (loud vioce) but respectfully (no cuss words or disagreement )
Is a sin? Like is expressing emotion a sin?

 

[mpaper345]

If my father tells me I'm wrong for not doing something more often. And I ask him in surprise why he tells me that. Or I listen but question out of curiosity but frustration loud but not yelling or angry why he says that. Is that breaking God's commandment?

To be in harmony with God we should always honor our mother,and father,but sometimes what are parents say might not appear to be right with us,which they are only human and can act wrong in their conduct at times,but to be in harmony with God do not retaliate back,and try to maintain peace with them,although you could tell them their conduct is wrong,if you are sure it is wrong,but do it in a rightful manner,but be silent if they will not listen to avoid any problems,like God said reprove not a scorner,lest he hate thee,because all you are doing is causing strife that cannot be resolved,for the person will not listen.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. [SUP]2 [/SUP]Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
[SUP]3 [/SUP]That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord(Ephesians 6:1-4).

Not only do children have to obey their parents,but parents also have a responsibility to treat their children right,so they will not rebel against their parents,which God knows that sometimes parents act in a manner that is wrong.

Which I have witnessed a lot of times,that a lot of parents are short with their children,and quick tempered with their children,which for the most part we do not have the same class of parents today as in time past,for morality is not as common place as it once was.Of course this obeying the parents,and parents acting right towards their children,would have to apply to believers to act right towards each other,because in the world it is like the parents say the children are crazy,and the children are saying the parents are crazy,and it seems like the counter culture movement of the 60's did harm,and separation,instead of good.

Children obeying their parents is the first commandment with promise,because if a child learns to obey their parents,and humble themselves before their parents,they are more likely to come to God,and humble themselves before God.

 

[gkroo]

If my father tells me I'm wrong for not doing something more often. And I ask him in surprise why he tells me that. Or I listen but question out of curiosity but frustration loud but not yelling or angry why he says that. Is that breaking God's commandment?

No, what would be wrong is him not telling you why he says that. Now, tell us why he says that.

 

[shotgunner]

It was about the past since I am online school I have to turn in a lot of stuff. So I sometimes don't because of my Iresponsibility. So I asked him why he talks about the past? I was wondering if talking in frustration (loud vioce) but respectfully (no cuss words or disagreement )
Is a sin? Like is expressing emotion a sin?

My kids say that I go on and on about things sometimes. I apparently like to give a lecture when a couple words would suffice. I suppose it's because I want to make sure my children learn from their mistakes.

I bet your father just brought it up so you could learn from it and not make the same mistake again. I know sometimes it seems like being too critical and not forgiving and forgetting but the reason we do it is because we are trying hard to help our children succeed. A father feels responsible for everything his children do, both good and bad.

Next time something like this happens instead of thinking that he is being too critical of what has happened in the past and getting upset, try to reassure him that he is doing a good job. Realize that some parents don't even care enough to try to correct their children. Just say "Thanks dad for reminding me, thanks for looking out for me."

I know you are at the age where you are taking more responsibility for yourself. Sometimes you don't want the reminders because it feels like he isn't trusting you to be responsible enough to do what you need to do. You have to know though that he is your dad and will always feel responsible for you no matter what.

Just look at the ultimate father, our Lord Jesus. He took responsibility for us, for our sins, and paid the price himself.

 

[Dan58]

It was about the past since I am online school I have to turn in a lot of stuff. So I sometimes don't because of my Iresponsibility. So I asked him why he talks about the past? I was wondering if talking in frustration (loud vioce) but respectfully (no cuss words or disagreement )
Is a sin? Like is expressing emotion a sin?

Raising your voice is just a passionate response. "Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." (Colossians 4:6). Salt is a spice, which suggest there's nothing wrong with spicing things up and letting your feelings flow. Raising your voice is a typical response in any heated or emotional discussion, nothing sinful about that. But if it escalates to screaming and yelling, then it turns into an out-of-control reaction that shouldn't enter a conversation with parents. Dishonoring your parents would be reacting like a bold and defiant loud mouth, but it certainly doesn't sound like you did anything at that level. If expressing frustration were a sin, we're all in trouble . And remember that even though Jesus said; "I am meek and lowly in heart" (Matthew11:29), he didn't mince words when dealing with the Pharisees.

 

[Lis45]

Would you respond to God in the same way?

How about waiting till your calm and then going to dad and saying, "can we have a talk"? Then ask "why". Say I just really am trying to understand, so please help me do that". I'm sure your dad will be much more prone to answer you when he doesn't feel like you are asking at a time you should be doing in order to procrastinate doing. He honestly might be interpreting it that way. Hope this helps, and let me know how it goes!