Teen struggling with homosexuality.

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kinzo

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I have read this post, and like others, I admire the way you are dealing with this struggle in your life. You are going directly to the scriptures to find God's love, forgiveness, and direction. Jesus is Lord, and clearly asks us to obey his commandments because we recognize both His authority and eternal loving kindness toward us who believe in Him. Each one of us needs to depend on God to overcome all kinds of sin that may besiege us. I hope you find the following scriptures as a source of encouragement.

John 15: 1- 12.
“I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. [SUP]2 [/SUP]Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit. [SUP]3 [/SUP]You are alreadyclean because of the word which I have spoken to you. [SUP]4 [/SUP]Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me. [SUP]5 [/SUP]I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing. [SUP]6 [/SUP]If anyone does not abide in Me, he is thrown away as a branch and dries up; and they gather them, and cast them into the fire and they are burned. [SUP]7 [/SUP]If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. [SUP]8 [/SUP]My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples. [SUP]9 [/SUP]Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love. [SUP]10 [/SUP]If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. [SUP]11 [/SUP]These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full.

Galatians 5: 13-25
[SUP]13 [/SUP]For you were called to freedom, brethren; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. [SUP]14 [/SUP]For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” [SUP]15 [/SUP]But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. [SUP]17 [/SUP]For the flesh sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you please. [SUP]18 [/SUP]But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law. [SUP]19 [/SUP]Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality, [SUP]20 [/SUP]idolatry, sorcery, enmities, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions, [SUP]21 [/SUP]envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. [SUP]22 [/SUP]But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [SUP]23 [/SUP]gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. [SUP]24 [/SUP]Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.[SUP]25 [/SUP]If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.

I pray that you continue to seek the Lord's will and embrace walking in the spirit as God gives you power. We cannot do this on our own, but as you draw near to God, He will draw near to you. I ask that he Lord bless you and that you bear much fruit in your life as you mature in Christ to the glory of God. As others have mentioned, I also pray that you find a Godly mentor who will walk with you through your journey of becoming more like Christ. If you do this, then you will bless that person as well as others.
 
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nicknack100

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I've struggled with the same thing. Work on your relationship with your father and find some good female friends if you gain a great respect for women and get close in your friendships with them than you should start to change slowly.

From my much research I've found theres two main possible reasons.

1. Damaged father relationship
2. Longing for love from men
3. Demon of homosexuality

Try rebuking the demon in Jesus name and see what happens.
My Dad passed away over 3 years ago, we had a very good relationship but during his illness 18 months prior to his death I was his mental 'punching bag' (he would take everything out on me)
And most of my friends are girls, my 2 very best friends are girls.
 
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kinzo

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I am sorry to hear that your father was critical toward you during his illness. This must have been very difficult for you. I pray that God heals any emotional wounds that are still present. It is nice to see that you posted the date that you met the Lord. I was about 20 when I gave my life to the Lord while being at college during my freshman year. It is always good to remember the day Jesus entered our lives.
 
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Chrishernan

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My name is Cristian and Im struggling with the same temptations and I have sinned by watching pornography and masturbation but it all started when I was 9 when I got sexually abused by a family member that was my cousin of 16 years old and since I have had that temptation I really need help and I have prayed to the Lord but seems like nothing has changed and its has been taking my life bit by bit. I am desperate because I love God and want to be save I already gave him my soul and accepted him as my only savior. The most dark thing is that my cousin made me have sexual intercourse with him at first I hated him so much but then forgived him although it is still a struggle and to make it worst my other two cousins tried to abuse me I thought God had left me for weeks later my father left my mother and my sister leaving us alone so I would really appreciate anybody to give me advice this is just one part of my story and I'd like a person to talk to if anyone wants to please help and pray or give advice Im desperate thanks and may God bless you.
 

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Hey Chrishernan. I strongly advise you to go to see a professional counsellor. The issues you have a complex and you need a professional. Getting advice from a pastor is also valuable tho being a pastor doesn't mean you will be a good counsellor - though u hope it would. Also a lot of teens hang out every night (Australian time) in the teen room so come say hi :)
 
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sicbash

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Ahh, just recently a bishop admitted he is gay and always has been , just be your self god loves us all ,even those who have eaten shellfish, love you enjoy life
 
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Lis45

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Beautiful child, God loves you so very much. He knew your struggles before you were even born...yet he died for you anyhow. Why? Because that's how much he loves you. Grow in truth and grace...get to know God, love God, breathe God. You do that, then all else will fall into place in His timing. Make God the focus and center of your life. That is the key. When you do that, He changes you from the inside out....in other words, He does what you cannot. Stop focusing on trying so hard "not to sin". It takes your focus off of Him and creates this ever failing pattern of trying to overcome sin in your own strength (and believe it or not we all are guilty of this, homosexual or not). Let Him be your strength. Focus on God, not your sin. Personal relationship...long term...is the key. Fellowship with other Christian men who can encourage you and support you. Be open and honest about this.
 
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BigRed

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I've had a similar problem but not with homosexuality just with lust. Don't try to stop masturbating or looking at porn. That doesn't work or it didn't for me. Go to Christ, and stop looking at men or women with lust. Trust me doing this will rid you desire to masturbate or look at porn. Also I would suggest reading the bible, just a little bit everyday, and every time even a slight bad thought enters your head pray. God bless you in your struggles, God is always with you.
 
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Kefa54

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I know I am old and not a teen but I have to jump in. You have accepted Christ. You are a Child of Christ. Study who you are in Christ. Don't listen to your sin. Our sin is just part of us. A very small part of us. It doesn't define us.You have many God given talents that you can't see right now. Stop trying to please Jesus and rest in who he says you are.

Kefa


For the past 5 years (18 in just over a month, so since I was 13) I've struggled a lot with homosexual desires, I've never given into any in real life, only online, but sin is sin. I gave my life to Christ when I was 14 and I'm the only Christian in my family so confiding in my Mum is not an option. I just find it so difficult to withstand this temptation, I've been 1 week clean from masturbation and pornography but I still get the temptations on a daily basis, I don't want to meet the woman of my dreams and still see men in that way. I do my schoolwork online/at home so shutting off my computer just isn't an option.
I pray A LOT about this although I haven't read my Bible for a very long time, I do go to church (A.O.G.) every Sunday and I love it, I also go to a weekly men's connect group meeting in my church aswell as church youth group every week so I'm not falling short on fellowship. What are some ways to overcome this? I don't want to have to deal with this for my whole life, my biggest fear is that Satan catches me when I'm most vulnerable and I don't reach out to God and I end out having sexual intercourse with another man.
 
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Kefa54

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Your honesty is overwhelming. I will step out and tell you that in the spirit I feel that Jesus is impressed.

Kefa
 
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Ugly

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Thread is a year old and OP hasn't logged in since January.
 
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Kefa54

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Lets not give up. The OP is not the only person reading this thread.
 
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magicrick

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For the past 5 years (18 in just over a month, so since I was 13) I've struggled a lot with homosexual desires, I've never given into any in real life, only online, but sin is sin. I gave my life to Christ when I was 14 and I'm the only Christian in my family so confiding in my Mum is not an option. I just find it so difficult to withstand this temptation, I've been 1 week clean from masturbation and pornography but I still get the temptations on a daily basis, I don't want to meet the woman of my dreams and still see men in that way. I do my schoolwork online/at home so shutting off my computer just isn't an option.
I pray A LOT about this although I haven't read my Bible for a very long time, I do go to church (A.O.G.) every Sunday and I love it, I also go to a weekly men's connect group meeting in my church aswell as church youth group every week so I'm not falling short on fellowship. What are some ways to overcome this? I don't want to have to deal with this for my whole life, my biggest fear is that Satan catches me when I'm most vulnerable and I don't reach out to God and I end out having sexual intercourse with another man.
I'm having the exact feelings, but lucky for me my family IS christian and very supportive. That helps a lot in my struggle. Always remember to take one day at the time, each day without sin is a victory over Satan! If I can be of any help call me, God bless!
 
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Strengthen your faith in Christ and be persistent in reading his word.Do not think you're alone but be positive God is nearer you and is able to help you cope with the situation.The Bible is the mightiest force there's in the World cuz it's the very love of God for us and his need to save us.Love the Bible and read it everyday you'll never guess all your frustration will end and you'll be a new man with new thoughts.I really think the biggest battle there's it's when we wrestle with ourselves and once we overcome this We are the most powerful people we can never imagine.Here are some biblical verses I suggest you meditate:psalm 1:1.-6.John 17:17.Ephesians 6:13-18.Galatians 5:16-22.Please When you read them Do not forget to pray before and after and Phillippians4:7 will be manifest.I love you my brother God bless you You Shall overcome!
 
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Lis45

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very powerful and so true!
 
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Winningedge

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I just want to hop in here and say that I used to be gay until I read about how God condemned it. It just made me stop and think that God created sex to be a bond between man and woman, and defiling myself is defiling the temple of God. Just keep praying and pick up the Bible. It helps a TON more by reading the Bible. Good luck man :)
 
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For the past 5 years (18 in just over a month, so since I was 13) I've struggled a lot with homosexual desires, I've never given into any in real life, only online, but sin is sin. I gave my life to Christ when I was 14 and I'm the only Christian in my family so confiding in my Mum is not an option. I just find it so difficult to withstand this temptation, I've been 1 week clean from masturbation and pornography but I still get the temptations on a daily basis, I don't want to meet the woman of my dreams and still see men in that way. I do my schoolwork online/at home so shutting off my computer just isn't an option.
I pray A LOT about this although I haven't read my Bible for a very long time, I do go to church (A.O.G.) every Sunday and I love it, I also go to a weekly men's connect group meeting in my church aswell as church youth group every week so I'm not falling short on fellowship. What are some ways to overcome this? I don't want to have to deal with this for my whole life, my biggest fear is that Satan catches me when I'm most vulnerable and I don't reach out to God and I end out having sexual intercourse with another man.
Nick I don't get you bro, why you asking such a complex question on a Christian forum.

Do you really think they are going to accept your behavior, and if they did would that mean it is ok to be gay. Come on man be serious, choose your own path and forget about asking other people who you desire to be.
 

blue_ladybug

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Nick I don't get you bro, why you asking such a complex question on a Christian forum.

Do you really think they are going to accept your behavior, and if they did would that mean it is ok to be gay. Come on man be serious, choose your own path and forget about asking other people who you desire to be.

Telling Nick to "choose his own path" instead of the one God has for him? This site deals with alot more complex issues than what Nick and others presented here. I think it's GOOD he's asking other christians for advice. Though I do hope he ignores YOUR advice about choosing his own path. That's something Satan would say. :/ If he wants out of the homo life, he needs to get straight with God, and get on the path GOD has for him.
 
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Nick, if you are still around thanks for being honest with your struggles with homosexuality and not believing the pro-homosexuality propaganda of the world, even when you are tempted to do so. I love you as a brother in Christ and while I might not have come from a same-sex attraction background, I did at one time in my life start to think those thoughts, when my mind wandered so who knows what would have happened if I had kept on dwelling on those thoughts. Going to church on Sundays is a step in the right direction. So is being part of a small group. What I will add is this. Instead of praying that God would remove the desires instead follow Christ. Love the Lord with all your heart and soul and mind and strength and love your neighbor as yourself. While God can remove the desires, he does not always do so that does not mean according to the culture, that you are born ''gay'', it just means God has chosen to use the struggles that you have to build your character like he did for Paul who had thorn in his flesh. So this is what I would recommend as a Christian, follower of Christ.

1. Read your Bible daily and study it. If you have a Daily Bread or some type of Christian devotional that will also help. In fact for me reading the devotional, caused me to have a spiritual hunger for God's word and want to read it.

2. Pray to God daily. The stuff that you revealed here, talk to God about like David did in the Psalms.

3. Praise God. Have some Christian music that can help to cleanse your mind daily of thoughts and wanting to do actions that are against God and appeal to the sinful proclivities of your flesh.

4. Have an accountability partner

5. Keep on telling people about Jesus that he died on the cross for their sins and resurrected from the dead on the third day.

God bless. Have a beautiful day! :)