I had a girlfriend once, didn't go very far besides a few dates and kisses, though indeed breaking up didn't feel good regardless. That was about 10, almost 11 years ago. If I can be single that long, so can you. In your case though you have all ready married Sir Sirk. I love you enough to tell you the truth even if it sounds harder on paper than it is in my speaking. Try to get your wife back or stay single. Tis more dignified to beg on your knees for your rightful wife than to seek an affair.
Luke 16:18
[SUP]18 [/SUP]Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.