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Male[25] Female[21] Together for 3 years.
I think my ex girlfriend is done with me, I spoke with her last night because I needed to get some stuff off my chest so I could let go and move on. She cut ties with me back in Sept and soon after that started to talk with someone else soon after. In my mind she just left out the blue but she told me in her mind she was done with the relationship before hand. Our relationship had a lot of up and downs and she told me what hurt the most was that she felt betrayed when there was times I didn't have her back when she got into it with our friends. She believes our breakup cause distance between her n friends close to me by there reactions towards her. She finally acknowledge how I changed to the person she always prayed for but when it happened it was too late. She says I need to stop beating myself up and blaming myself for the breakup. So she told me we couldn't be friends because she know the other guy wouldn't be ok with it that it can be on a hi and bye basis since we see each other at church (me and her attend the same church). She been talking to this guy for about 2 months. I took a chance n asked her if she would marry him n she was quick to say yes. Followed by how much better her treat her, treat her like a queen, how they are equally yoked, cares about her feelings and etc. She makes it seem like this guy is everything she always wanted. I told her I was happy for her n the first thing she said was "No you not" n I told her I really was because I care about her happiness. She knows I still love her and what to be with her but I know now I have to let her go. I told her I hope maybe in the future we could have something with eachother and her first reaction was "Oh so you hope my relationship don't workout" I said no thats not the case I then told her if its meant to be for her to spent the rest of her life with the new guy then I could respect that but I will always have faith that God will bring us back together. Our conversation didn't hurt as much seeing that I've been through the pain and heartache already so I was able to keep my emotions under control. I really love this girl but I know I need to let her go n if its meant to be then she will return. I understand that we needed to separate, our relationship was becoming unhealthy and even though I changed too late, I still want to believe that I have a chance maybe in the future. I've decided to stop contacting her so she can live her life n I can do the same. Can I get some advice.
I think my ex girlfriend is done with me, I spoke with her last night because I needed to get some stuff off my chest so I could let go and move on. She cut ties with me back in Sept and soon after that started to talk with someone else soon after. In my mind she just left out the blue but she told me in her mind she was done with the relationship before hand. Our relationship had a lot of up and downs and she told me what hurt the most was that she felt betrayed when there was times I didn't have her back when she got into it with our friends. She believes our breakup cause distance between her n friends close to me by there reactions towards her. She finally acknowledge how I changed to the person she always prayed for but when it happened it was too late. She says I need to stop beating myself up and blaming myself for the breakup. So she told me we couldn't be friends because she know the other guy wouldn't be ok with it that it can be on a hi and bye basis since we see each other at church (me and her attend the same church). She been talking to this guy for about 2 months. I took a chance n asked her if she would marry him n she was quick to say yes. Followed by how much better her treat her, treat her like a queen, how they are equally yoked, cares about her feelings and etc. She makes it seem like this guy is everything she always wanted. I told her I was happy for her n the first thing she said was "No you not" n I told her I really was because I care about her happiness. She knows I still love her and what to be with her but I know now I have to let her go. I told her I hope maybe in the future we could have something with eachother and her first reaction was "Oh so you hope my relationship don't workout" I said no thats not the case I then told her if its meant to be for her to spent the rest of her life with the new guy then I could respect that but I will always have faith that God will bring us back together. Our conversation didn't hurt as much seeing that I've been through the pain and heartache already so I was able to keep my emotions under control. I really love this girl but I know I need to let her go n if its meant to be then she will return. I understand that we needed to separate, our relationship was becoming unhealthy and even though I changed too late, I still want to believe that I have a chance maybe in the future. I've decided to stop contacting her so she can live her life n I can do the same. Can I get some advice.
