Why we still single?

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DCrawshawJr

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You made an interesting comment there.

The reason why most desire someone when life's not so easy and not as much when life is easy, is because they are confused between companionship and romance. What one needs during a difficult phase is companionship - a person to whom they can bare their heart, who would listen to them without judgment and who would provide them emotional support. This can be obtained even through an emotionally-intense platonic relationship. Romance, on the other hand, is more than just that. The desire for a romantic relationship will remain constant. When this difference between the two relationships is clear, people are able to make better choices.
That is true. "I am neither wood nor stone" when it comes to pretty women.
 
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DCrawshawJr

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You made an interesting comment there.

The reason why most desire someone when life's not so easy and not as much when life is easy, is because they are confused between companionship and romance. What one needs during a difficult phase is companionship - a person to whom they can bare their heart, who would listen to them without judgment and who would provide them emotional support. This can be obtained even through an emotionally-intense platonic relationship. Romance, on the other hand, is more than just that. The desire for a romantic relationship will remain constant. When this difference between the two relationships is clear, people are able to make better choices.
That's true. "I am neither wood nor stone" when it comes to pretty women.
(from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Luther#Marriage)
 

Cee

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I guess women aren't impressed by all the boxes of cookies that I have stacked up in my house... Or because I'm white.

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Everth

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Porque estamos esperando a la persona idonea, quien se arrugará junto a nosotros por el resto de nuestros días en esta tierra. Y Dios ya tiene en proceso a esa persona indicada.

My Lord bless you!
 
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rose0727

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Lol maybe if they're homemade
 
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ksayre

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I feel I haven't found the right person!
 
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Jesussaveme

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Perfect sweetjoy. I think this is on point.
 
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HappyGuy

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I'm single cause..... wait I don't know why.
 
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JesusFreak787

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Because I found an amazing girl and we like each other, but she isn't a christian and I just can't do it.
I am trying to use my mind over my heart. Because we've argued over beliefs and values I know wouldn't work in a marriage.
 

Tinkerbell725

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Because my future husband is still single. Still waiting for him to change my status. He is busy and im also busy.
 

Roh_Chris

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Tinkerbell!!!!

So good to have you back, sister! :)
 

seoulsearch

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Hi there roh_chris. Thanks! feels good to be back. I missed my haven CC,the coolest place on the internet...Feeling thrilled for the new year...happy new year everyone...
Tinkerbell!! Glad to have you back as well--you've been missed. :)
 
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HonestlyHumbled

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I am single because I chose to be.
I think finding a partner is easy.
Finding the perfect partner isn't easy. And I don't mean the person has to be perfect. Someone who is perfect for you.
I will not settle.
I come from a city with a lot of drugs, alcohol, atheism and immoral conduct.
I am content and happy being alone.
If I will be alone for the rest of my life because of my unshakable principles I'm good with that :)
 
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Bellefemmebeni

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CatHerder, you've just not have found the right one yet. Trust me, someone like me don't care about money as long as the man can lead me to God, be honest, respectful, funny and sweet, all that other stuff are just extras. Some women are just lost and vice versa.
 
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Bellefemmebeni

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Cee, white has nothing to do with it and cooookiiiies, I want cookies... Lol. My ex fiancee is white and I'm black so maybe in single because I'm black? Lmbo please no I don't think it's the reason. The right one is not available yet...or am I? Lol see what I did there. Just kidding. Have a sense of humor?
 
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Bellefemmebeni

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I'm single because guys find me intimidating? I mean, I'm 31 yrs young. I have my own business, have my own place. Car and a different job. I am still in school and have a bunch of trades under my belt. I'm independent, honest, outspoken. I am a go getter and don't settle for less. I know what I deserve and will not stop until I get it. I mean I can go on for a while and did I mention that I'm a female? Plus Jesus is my homie! Lol so yeah. Maybe that's why I am single still. Idk anymore. I'll leave it in God's name until he sends me someone to sweep me off my feet.
 
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sydlit

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Belle and Maria, I don't understand why either one of you is single. Maria, you're very attractive and have a nice smile, and you seem to have a heart for the Lord, but I don't see too many posts, maybe there's a language barrier too, I don't know, but that's easy to overcome. And belle, I've seen enough posts to believe you're very nice and have a good humor and also a heart for the Lord, though there are no pics, you come across as attractive in spirit and I'm guessing that's true in person, too, so I really don't get why you're single except no one good enough has come by yet, and the Lord wants the best for you.
Me? I waited and waited and now I'm old and undesirable, I guess my window of opportunity closed long ago and I've just been reluctant to admit it because everybody wants to know what real love is, so I guess some of us cling to hope a bit longer than we should. But if I was younger.....;) There are so many beautiful christians that would make a great life partner, I really don't know why any of you are single if you don't want to be. Just get together and love, and please don't wait too long like I did. I don't mean just settle or jump into something you'll regret, but pray together, and thank the Lord for all the wonderful things you can experience together, and serve Him and each other in friendship and devotion and love love love. It hurts for me to not have love, but it also hurts to see others younger and blessed and yet still not embracing it. Go God, go Jesus, go Love!!!
 

AsifinPassing

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You know, the bigger question is... "Why does everybody want to know/Why does it matter?"

Could it be that you are interested in me and trying to determine my marital status, or could it be that you see my lack of a relationship partner and have somehow thus surmised that an underlying problem is the cause of my singularity, which you intend to discover and possibly comment on or try to correct?