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skylove7

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Lol whew

Glad the avatar switching got old lol
Just had to double check seoulsearch wasn't roh_chris lol
God bless you all a beautiful time!
 
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blueorchidjd

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Just had a disturbing phone interview.
Why does this crap happen to me!
 
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seoulsearch said:
I am discouraged beyond belief.

I was transferred to another job, and I just found out one of the guys at my old job is telling everyone he slept with me.

Nothing could be further from the truth. We never even talked once outside work. We didn't even have each others' numbers. And, I'm not even there anymore.

At first, I was uncontrollably angry. And then I just felt like God was saying to give it to Him. I'm going through a lot, so many things at once, and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. A long time ago I wrote a thread about sexual harassment and used a "character" who was "going through" something... Several people were critical because they said I didn't include enough information or that the main character in they story was probably misinterpreting or exaggerating.

I explained that I wrote the thread because this is EXACTLY how it happens--little by little--and you question your sanity and what happened and wonder if it's even making a fuss over. Apparently no one realized that the "character" in the story was me.

The thing that upsets me most is that this guy was the only one on the night crew whom I DIDN'T think was like that at all. I used to stop and ask him about his kids because out of all the guys I worked with, he seemed "safest" to at least say hi to.

The hardest part of all is that I'm telling myself, "Just shake it off. Shut down, shut up, and don't let it out , because it has no place to go. Don't talk to anyone, and whatever you do, don't trust anyone ever again." But oddly enough, I know I still will.

I just always have, no matter what's happened.

Along with everything else... I am down and out to the nth degree right now and not quite sure how to pull out of it.

Sorry for venting... I know this is probably too personal to be posting but I feel like I've hit the very bottom of the pit of despair, with a smile on my face for show, a mind that never rests because I never sleep anymore, and a life that resembles automation more than living because all there is to do, always, is get up and go to work.
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Encouraging Bible verse of the day:

Gal 5:12 (read it out of context for the laugh)

And consider the point that maybe people ask you about it because it is so far from what they would have expected of you. That they have a hard time believing such stories about you is proof of your difference and character. We all know you are awesome.
 
seoulsearch

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cinder said:
Encouraging Bible verse of the day:

Gal 5:12 (read it out of context for the laugh)

And consider the point that maybe people ask you about it because it is so far from what they would have expected of you. That they have a hard time believing such stories about you is proof of your difference and character. We all know you are awesome.
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No, Cinder, YOU'RE awesome!!! :p (And thank you so much.)

You're right on, one of the hardest things is that people would just automatically believe rumors like that.

It's nice to come "home" (CC) to people who really know who you are.
 
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Tintin

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seoulsearch said:
No, Cinder, YOU'RE awesome!!! :p (And thank you so much.)

You're right on, one of the hardest things is that people would just automatically believe rumors like that.

It's nice to come "home" (CC) to people who really know who you are.
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Oh, my. That's disturbing, Kim! I really feel for you. I'm not a violent man, but I'd love to kick his ascot for you.
 
seoulsearch

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Tintin said:
Oh, my. That's disturbing, Kim! I really feel for you. I'm not a violent man, but I'd love to kick his ascot for you.
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I would seriously pay good money to hire you and Oncefallen as my Public Relations team. It would be a Knockout! :D
 
CatHerder

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I'm sorry you went through that, Kim. You want me to take care of him? I know a guy...
 
seoulsearch

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I'm sorry you went through that, Kim. You want me to take care of him? I know a guy...
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(One great thing about my CC family is that they tolerate, er, know my sense of humor :D.)

Cat, does your friend have a friend? (As in, "Say hello to my little friend...")
 
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seoulsearch said:
It's nice to come "home" (CC) to people who really know who you are.
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"Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name..."

Sorry, music nerd reflex.

My first reaction would be, that's what they make baseball bats for. My second reaction would be, get your former boss to make it clear to your former coworkers that guy is a liar. But your former boss is probably already on that.

My third reaction is someone should be recording this guy. Smartphones are everywhere and recording programs are free. I use ASR myself. Of course recording someone without the person's knowledge is illegal... so they tell him about smartphones and recording programs. Bet he shuts up. And if he doesn't shut up, he is nailed.
 
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Oncefallen said:
You're by far nicer than I. Something like this really is deserving of a good old fashioned butt whuppin. It may not exactly be the most Christian thing to do, but guaranteed the guy would think twice about spreading the fertilizer like that again.
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I hear you, but not worth going to jail for!
 
seoulsearch

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Lynx said:
"Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name..."

Sorry, music nerd reflex.

My first reaction would be, that's what they make baseball bats for. My second reaction would be, get your former boss to make it clear to your former coworkers that guy is a liar. But your former boss is probably already on that.

My third reaction is someone should be recording this guy. Smartphones are everywhere and recording programs are free. I use ASR myself. Of course recording someone without the person's knowledge is illegal... so they tell him about smartphones and recording programs. Bet he shuts up. And if he doesn't shut up, he is nailed.
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The thing is, I no longer live in that area, so I'm just like... Gotta let it go... Gotta ask God to bless him and deal with it as He sees fit. After all, Jesus livesd His whole life amid the rumor that Joseph was not His father, so I know God understands.

Guys, please don't yell at me, for this, kay? You all know I have a split personality, and that I'm a little rebellious...

I think Cinder is right, my boss seemed to be asking me about it because he was sure something didn't sound right. So he and I had a few text exchanges about the whole thing and he didn't name names, but I was pretty sure I knew, so after we talked about the fact that I'd had NOTHING to do with ANYONE there, the conversation went like this:

Me: Was it X?
Boss: Yeah, X is telling everyone (he was with you.)
Me: Well, as long as he ALSO tells them I'M THE BEST, EVER!!!!!!!
Boss. Lol--that sounds EXACTLY like something you'd say!
Me: Darn tootin'. Nothing but first class here.

I know someone is going to give me a Spiritual Scolding but sometimes when you're trying your hardest and it gets you nowhere, Scorching Sarcasm makes for a comfortable crutch (and people are going to believe what they want to anyway.)

Thanks so much, you guys. Now I don't feel so guilty for posting this. Maybe someone else out there is going through the same thing.
 
Roh_Chris

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seoulsearch said:
I am discouraged beyond belief.

I was transferred to another job, and I just found out one of the guys at my old job is telling everyone he slept with me.

Nothing could be further from the truth. We never even talked once outside work. We didn't even have each others' numbers. And, I'm not even there anymore.

At first, I was uncontrollably angry. And then I just felt like God was saying to give it to Him. I'm going through a lot, so many things at once, and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. A long time ago I wrote a thread about sexual harassment and used a "character" who was "going through" something... Several people were critical because they said I didn't include enough information or that the main character in they story was probably misinterpreting or exaggerating.

I explained that I wrote the thread because this is EXACTLY how it happens--little by little--and you question your sanity and what happened and wonder if it's even making a fuss over. Apparently no one realized that the "character" in the story was me.

The thing that upsets me most is that this guy was the only one on the night crew whom I DIDN'T think was like that at all. I used to stop and ask him about his kids because out of all the guys I worked with, he seemed "safest" to at least say hi to.

The hardest part of all is that I'm telling myself, "Just shake it off. Shut down, shut up, and don't let it out , because it has no place to go. Don't talk to anyone, and whatever you do, don't trust anyone ever again." But oddly enough, I know I still will.

I just always have, no matter what's happened.

Along with everything else... I am down and out to the nth degree right now and not quite sure how to pull out of it.

Sorry for venting... I know this is probably too personal to be posting but I feel like I've hit the very bottom of the pit of despair, with a smile on my face for show, a mind that never rests because I never sleep anymore, and a life that resembles automation more than living because all there is to do, always, is get up and go to work.
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I am sorry to hear this, Kim. This sucks and I have no explanation for this. :(

*hugs* *prayers*
 
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This right here makes me think that yes people do notice. It obviously didn't sound right to your boss. And quite possibly, he/she may even put a stop to it. That might be part of why they asked you, just to get verification.
seoulsearch said:
Gary, thank you so much for your kind words.

Unfortunately, due to varying circumstances, I have no choice but to let it go. I just moved, took on a new job within the company, and these events occurred in a location across the state. I feel torn in situations like this because I want to be an example to younger women to stand up for themselves but at the same time, I feel powerless.

Even worse, it was my boss who wrote and asked me about it. This is one of the most discouraging things in my Christian walk--the fact that I don't hide things and I share a lot about my life, but in the end, everyone assumes you're just the same anyway. It's not that I'm somehow resistant to all the riff raff but isn't that part of what being a Christian is all about? That people know we stand for something different, and live differently than other people? I feel as if maybe I wasn't somehow "Christian enough" or something.

The part that bothers me most is that this particular guy was the one who seemed to be "the nice one". Holy Toledo. My judge of character needs a major realignment.

But Gary, thank you so much for saying you would say something in my defense--that really means a lot.
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Lynx

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seoulsearch: Yeah, that's why I figured your boss was already taking care of setting the record straight around there. If he believed the guy there's a lot less chance he would have even asked you about it.

On a side note, I could have had a lot of fun with a guy like that. I come from a family of good humor, deviousness and a strong sense of decency and justice. Put all those together and anyone from my family would instantly see "prank target" on that guy's forehead. If I couldn't personally think of anything I'd ask my uncle Fred. He's great for coming up with ways to put a jerk in his place.
 
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I see all these people having CC meetups and it makes me want one.

This needs to happen soon.
 
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sydlit

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seoulsearch said:
No, Cinder, YOU'RE awesome!!! :p (And thank you so much.)

You're right on, one of the hardest things is that people would just automatically believe rumors like that.

It's nice to come "home" (CC) to people who really know who you are.
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Don't forget the Lord knows who that dirtbag is.
Maybe he needs reminding who your Father is,
The King of Kings! Keep the faith, kim,He knows.
(man, is this year off to a gut-wrenching start?...
prayers for seoul, blueorchid,
lil_chrtistian, e_g, and if you could,
my best friend from cchat has disappeared,
and my heart is torn to shreds.
I'm probably to blame, of course,
but I've tried so much to contact her,
and I can't make things right without
some kind of explanation.
I'm in the dark 100%,
I have know idea what's going on,
Or if she's even alright. Please pray for her.
Please pray for us both together?
 
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MissCris

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I keep coming here because my mind is over flowing with all the unimportant details of my little world that build up over the course of a day, or week...and then I get here, start typing, and think, "Who cares?" But not in like a "poor me, nobody cares about me" kind of way. It's more "this stuff is so ridiculous I can't even bring myself to share it". Which is really, really unlike me.

I dunno. I feel strangely disconnected from nearly everything and on a scale of 1 to Normal I think I'm sitting pretty at around 'meh'. Anyway, Happy New Year. Or are we past that already?
 
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